I'm not sure but it really feels like he's jealous. He went into my profile and read my comments (I don't mind this at all, just to let you guys know) and I think he saw my guy friends flirting with me and stuff. I told my friends to stop, but they keep doing it anyway. He hasn't said anything TO ME about it, though. One time, he did confront one of my guys friends, but he didn't tell me, and my friend told me instead and I told him that we're only friends and not to worry.
I don't want to ask him about it, because it might bring that "jealous feeling" back and then he'll get frustrated with it and argue? I'm not sure but I don't want him to be more upset. I assure him day to day that I have no other interest in other guys but him, and he fully understands yet he still seems to get jealous.
Is that natural for guys? (I don't really understand how a guys brain works...haha) And why doesn't he tell me? Should I confront him about it? :/ It's making me worry.
Thank you guys >_<
2007-09-04 17:36:33 · 10 answers · asked by 2514 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All the answers really helped. :) thanks a lottt~ :D
So quick too? haha >_<
Once again, thank you guys a lot. :D
I'd definetly pick all of you for best answer, if I could...
2007-09-04 19:28:18 · update #1
Ok, first off, let me tell you that guys get very jelous, very easily. Although some maybe good at holding it inside, all guys do it. Second, when a guy really likes someone and is even dating that person, he usually wants him to be the ONLY guy you talk to. I know that's not possible but if we could make that possible, we would give up our left testicle to do so. So just understand guys tend to get very very jelous.
2007-09-04 17:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, confront him on all this junk.
I'd give this guy a lot of rope. Seriously.
That's a red flag.
That he would confront one of your friends is indicative of something worse than simple insecurity.
It looks like he is trying to control you, and will be trying to cut your social circle waayyy down so he can manage it.
The next stage is to separate you from your friends, family, church, job and what other support groups you may have.
Then he will start in on little insults, then eventually go to beating you. Standard procedure.
Men are very basic, and their methods are not really imaginative. When they get the idea to do this type of junk, you can reasonably predict what will come next.
You have reason to worry.
2007-09-05 00:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't see any visible changes in his behavior towards you, then assume it doesn't bother him. He hasn't talked to you about it at any rate, so that means you don't need to bring it up either. It's somewhat natural for guys to be jealous, especially if he can actually see without a doubt that another guy is flirting with you. Because guys know better than to think flirting from other guys is just friendly...because they are guys too. But in consideration for your boyfriend...don't just tell your friends not to write shady comments. If they keep doing it, why not block comments altogether?
2007-09-05 00:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is normal for a boyfriend or girlfriend to become jealous especially when he thinks there are guy friends that could possibly become competition. instead of confronting your boyfriend, i would have a little talk with your guyfriends and tell them to stop making those flirty comments. try to relax and don't worry too much...you may also want to tell him that he can come talk to you if he has some worries....tell him its ok. he may not feel comfortable telling you about it.
2007-09-05 00:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy's usually don't like to express their feelings, usually in cases like this, because they don't want to feel like the "weak" ones. I believe he might be jealous. The best way for a relationship to work is communication. I suggest you speak to him, even is he gets upset. Just clarify everything, I'm sure he's waiting for you to give the1st step.
2007-09-05 00:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mojitabean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts. If it feels like he is jealous to you then you're probably right. I'm not really the expert on dealing with men so I don't have any recommendations on dealing with that one though, sorry.
Although... if it gets worse and then gets out of hand my recommendation is definitely get a new man.
2007-09-05 00:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jazzycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys think that you shouldnt want attention from other men. The "flirting" messages are attention and thats why you allow it and enjoy it. He isnt jealous of the messages or even the men..its that you like it.
2007-09-05 00:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by sharonsmineonly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Natural for guys!!! DO NOT WORRY!! They talk sooooooooo bad about women, But they are the ones that are so bad.
2007-09-05 00:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he be jealous that we're lovers and great friends.
Only joke'n!
He must be a little insecure which we all can feel sometimes.
2007-09-05 00:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
worry when he starts reads the profiles of your friends to see what your comments are to them......
2007-09-05 00:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by humboldt1965amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋