REALLY LOOKING FOR ADVICE!!!! please help!!!!!!?

Question

I am a freshman in college and moved in on the 25th of August. My roommmate and I at the time had discussed moving in and such for months before we moved in. On Sunday the day after we moved in my roommmate decided she hated the school and she wanted to move out. I was VERY UPSET!!!

Last Friday I got a phone call that this other girl really wanted to be my roommmate. I was packing to leave to go home and walked downstairs to meet her. She seemed very nice didn't drink, didn't party none of that stuff.

I wanted to wait until Monday since it was my room and I had the choice as to whether or not she was my roommmate I had asked if I could wait until Monday. Well, the girl's mother was there and was pushing me to allow her daughter to stay with me. She said that her daughter would not be here until Wednesday and they would have really liked to get her stuff moved that day (Friday)

Unsure of what to do at that point I agreed and signed the contract allowing her to be my new roommmate

I decided that before she actually "moved in" she has all her stuff here but she's coming tomorrow! I decided to ask her other roommmates about why she moved out and the situation.

The roommates told me to get rid of her and fast. They told me she was crazy and posted scriptures from the bible all over the room. They told me she gets VERY ANGRY when anybody curses, discusses sex or has a member of the opposite sex in the room. They told me that she hates rap music and wouldn't allow them to play it around her.

I wasn't sure if I believed them or not but I stumbled across 2 bibles I opened them up being that I am a tad bit religious and realized she had parts of the bibles highlighted. I also found some of those "bible verses" on little post-it notes that her roommmates told me she hangs up in her room.

I decided to call the girl and ask her about all of this and see what was fact and what was fiction! She told me that she does not allow or like cursing in any shape or form
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She told me she doesn't like rap music and would appreciate it if I put my headphones on when I plan on lisitening to any sort-of rap music.

I have a boyfriend so I asked her about him coming up. She told me that she was ok with it as long as it wasn't every single weekend.

She said she dosn't like lots of noise late at night and would appracite it if people left my room by 12:00 A.M. She also said she doesn't like me having guys over every single night!

I'm not sure what to do!!
This girl sounds crazy!!
I have an offer to move into another dorm building
Again I will not know the person it's kind-of random but this time I can decide if I'm moving or not!

SHOULD I MOVE OR STAY?
I NEVER ACTUALLY STAYED WITH THIS "NEW ROOMMATE YET"

I have until FRIDAY to decide if I'm moving or not!!
PLEASE HELP!!!!

Answer 1

Get out! LOL! She sounds like a psycho!

Answer 2

Well it was a little long but I read it anyway. It depends alot on how the agreement is written up. If you're renting a place and if you are still in charge and she pays you etc. for her half of the bills or whatever. Go ahead and giver her a chance. Explain that it is your room and try to respect her but at the same time, you are an adult and will make your own decisions ultimately. If you dont think its gonna work, give her 30 days notice to leave. If you dont have control, like im assuming, maybe try it a while and then move out if you decide its not working. Something else will open again soon if this room gets away you know about.

Most importantly, congratulate yourself for learning an important lesson at such a young age and next time dont allow yourself to be pushed into a commitment. whether it be a roomate, a job you dont want, a car or home loan, or whatever. ALWAYS make sure your getting what you want, ALWAYS check references. ALWAYS stay in control when you can.

Answer 3

Personally I would be happy with a quiet roommate who doesn't bother me. She expects the same in return. I always use headphones when I listen to music and someone else is around, it's just common courtesy.
If your bf is quiet and stays in your room I don't see the problem.
Look on the bright side. If you want to party and hang out w/ guys and listen to rap, you can go to a friend's place, etc. But your sleep will never be disturbed in your own home when you don't feel like partying.

Answer 4

Hi.!
Wow, it sounds like you're in a stressful situation here.
The first thing you have to do is calm down, and try to
make the wisest decisions. I think it's kind of creepy that
her mom had to push you into accepting her. But I think
you're lucky that you have an opportunity to change dorms.
I think if you're really uncomfortable you should really
take the other dorm, because you don't want to make a big
mistake. I think you'll have better chances finding someone
who is more like you, than someone who is super freaky
and probably has nothing in common with you.

Answer 5

What the heck. college is about pushing your limits. But I would take what you've heard and say if she has rules then you have rules too. No bibles or scripture is to be quoted or left lying around the room.

If she is angry and somebody tells her so she needs to step out of the room and count down from 100.

And no matter what she thinks of your life be nice or don't say anything at all.

Get some ground rules down and it she might be cool. She is there to expand her boundaries too.

Answer 6

maybe you should try there a plenty of people out there who are worse. However you must be careful to set your bounds with this gilr. no bible stuff on your side of the room. try to refrain from cursing but don't let her bully you if you do. If you can't listen to your music outloud then niether can she make sure of that don't let her dictate all the rules. All if all goes to crap curse all you want blast your rap music, put up pagan symbols and drive her the hell out

Answer 7

How is she crazy? She simply asked you to listen to rap using headphones. And seriously would you want to watch her snogging her boyfriend all the time? sounds like she is trying to be respectful to you and to herself....Midnight isn't unreasonable to ask people to leave the room if you and she have class the next day. You can work on the Bible thumping.....just tell her what you find acceptable and unacceptable.

Answer 8

Why would you move, you were there first. You need to lay down your own set of rules. If you are going to be roommates, then you both will have to sacrifice. Sounds like she's not willing to budge though. Maybe you should talk to her and let her know what you like and let her know it might not be a good idea for her to move in with you.

Answer 9

leave
or kick her out
or drive her out
by cursing
having sex with your BF
or what you can do to drive her out of your room
such extremes will not work as room mates
there has to be some sort of common ground
and a hard core bible thumper like her has probably had few non secular friends and been kicked out of other rooms

Answer 10

yeah either set some crazy rules of your own or run I'm a bit religious myself but the posted notes not feeling that but i als like blasting my music it puts me in a good mood and the boyfriend thing she took it too far i would have my boyfriend over as often as i wanted and as late as i wanted.

Answer 11

explain to her that as its your room aswell you do like your music and if she doesnt like it she can move and remind her that you allowed her to move in not the other way round.
do not let her intimidate you ,as it is your life and your choice whether to be religious or not,and if she complained i would throw in a few cuss words every second sentence just for the sake of doing it.

if she dislikes it so much she will move out.