In spite of the fact that their fiance loves them the way they are, they somehow feel the need to go on a crusade to loose a bunch of weight for one day. No wonder men are disenchanted so easily after a wedding. The woman looses the weight for the one day, then plows it back on one month later. What a let down. Don't you think it would be better just to stay the way you are?
2007-09-04 17:22:32 · 63 answers · asked by Sondra 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree, in theory.
However, also remember that brides and grooms are photographed a TON on their wedding day. And some brides feel that they should lose some weight so that they aren't disappointed in their photos.
I think it's bullsh*t when Size 2 brides whine that they need to lose weight. But for someone like me who's a size 16 (formerly a 10-12, until about 5 years ago), I would be really upset to get my wedding photos back and see how heavy I've gotten. Especially after paying several thousand dollars for them.
Hopefully, when brides try to lose weight for their weddings, they'll make it more of a lifestyle change than a one-time deal. Keeping yourself fit (not necessarily "thin," just healthy) for both you and your partner is a good attitude ... nobody really wants to see their significant other stop caring about their appearance.
2007-09-04 17:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think women realize that professional pictures will be taken that will last forever and they want to look as good as they can. If a man truly loves his woman, then he won't give a rat's a s s if she goes back to her former weight after the wedding. Afterall, he loved her before at that weight so what's the big deal? My husband and I both tried going on a wedding diet but we weren't committed to it at all!!! We both loved each other the way we were and that comfort allowed us to feel like we didn't need to change a thing. But I certainly don't blame girls who DO try to lose weight! It's about feeling the best you can on that day! Personally, I wish I HAD stuck to the diet because now, I'm stuck with wedding pictures where I think I look like a sausage stuck in a gorgeous dress!!! :) ha ha!
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2016-05-14 19:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about feeling good about yourself on your special day. I've always struggled with my weight. For me, it's a day to day struggle. I'm never 100% in what I'm wearing or how I feel in my clothes.
For my wedding, I don't want to feel self-conscious in my dress. I want to KNOW I look good.
Secondly, wedding dresses are very funny pieces of clothing. They tend to run very small and only fit "certain" body types well.
No matter what the style of dress. No girl wants to look at their wedding pics and see that their arm flab didn't look too flattering in their dress.
I think it's crazy that you say "it's a let down" that a women will gain weight a month later. So, what if she gains all the weight back.
I want to lose 30 pounds. If I lose 30 pounds for my wedding and put it all back on.......why would he love me less.
If he loved me 30 heavier, he should love me the same 30 pounds lighter............and then the same again when I gain back the 30 pounds. If you were "fat" when you were dating, then I'm sure if you lose weight and gain it back...it really isn't that big of a deal.
2007-09-04 17:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they just need the motivation to lose the weight they always wanted to be rid of. What better motivation than a wedding? The bride (and the groom) want to look good as for that day everyone will be looking at them and they will have the photos for the rest of their lives. No wants to walk down the isle with rolls and jowles, it just is not attractive.
I don't know anyone who has put the weight after the wedding (with the exception of having a baby) as I think the people I know did it to lose the weight forever, and not just for one day.
2007-09-04 17:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that society dictates women be of a certain size to fit into the ideal of the "perfect" wedding. The paper-thin waif in the ivory strapless gown. I personally say phooey to that idea. I'm a 5'10" 209 pound woman who got married just like everyone else. I think women want to look their "best" and that's where the weight loss comes in. Also, weddings are very stressful which may contribute to weight loss. I say to husbands and fiances to roll with the punches and wait for the dust to settle, you're wife/fiance will return to her old self in 6 months or less.
2007-09-04 17:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, and you are right! They wouldn't have asked us to marry them if they didn't love us exactly as we are...the bridal market successfully makes us feel inadequate if we don't fit into a little dress and if we don't buy the top of the line everything, and it can be exhausting and we completely miss the point of the wonderful process of planning that special day. We must fight the temptation to be so hard on ourselves and be happy with who we are and how we're shaped, and keep the focus of what a wedding's all about in focus.
I'm glad someone brought a thread up about this. We need to be reminded about it once in a while.
2007-09-05 03:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by Constellation 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's part of the "fairy tale" picture a lot of girls have of their wedding. When do you see chubby girls in bridal gowns in magazines, movies, Disney cartoons, etc? Everyone wants to look perfect for their wedding. That said, I have two friends who put on a LOT of weight before their wedding and walked down the aisle easily 40-60 lb heavier than they were the year before when they got engaged. I don't really think them looking good for the wedding and then putting on weight is a "let down" to their new husband! Everyone puts on weight at times and he should love his wife no matter what.
2007-09-05 02:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
women wants to feel that they are the most beautiful and sexiest bride on a wedding because its a once in a lifetime experience of a woman and a man who's getting married that's why most women wants to loose weight before the wedding.....
2007-09-04 17:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Beverly Anne N 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I plan on losing weight prior to my wedding.
I am a bit overweight, and my health is important to me.
Its mostly coincidence that I want to lose weight before the wedding.
I also plan on sticking with my workout plan and dieting after the wedding as well.
2007-09-05 02:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋