Good friends for a long time, never saw him like that but he's always had something for me
then just this yr. we kissed - one of the most amazing things i've experienced...
now he's acting different: can't talk as much, doesn't know what to do, apprehensive, not as confident w. me but with everyone else he is, seems to always be thinking of his next move and you can tell he's more conscious, he doesn't go to my for advice or problems as much anymore and when i confront him, he's "got it", and there are no problems...he's normal with everyone else except for me...
Did the kiss change him? everything? it dictates everything for him now...
2007-09-04 17:15:54 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he definitely had that big dorky grin on his face
did it change how he looked at me?
it must have been a big deal for him if this kiss is taking control of things...could he see me as a potential girlfriend/serious relationship?
2007-09-04 17:16:38 · update #1
IT WAS HIS FIRST KISS (he's in his 20's)
2007-09-04 17:32:46 · update #2
i think he's just afraid that he'll mess up your guys' relationship somehow, and he doesn't want to do that. maybe he doesn't know where to go from here. maybe he's scared to be himself, because he's heard of something like that happening. something happening where it got all awkward, and didn't work out.
maybe try asking why he's not himself.
2007-09-04 17:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your kiss with this person changed more than just how you feel about him. It sounds like it's changed how he looks at you too and that you and he probably need to have a good long talk about where you both are in regards to one another and to the future. It may not be that you're in perfect harmony for the long-term, but how long-term do we have to talk about here?!? Most relationships don't last a year so give this one a chance and see where it takes you: if it's nowhere, you've lost nothing; if it's long-term, you've just had the first kiss from the love of your life.
2007-09-04 17:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by chick2lit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it sorta did change everything... i mean u were friends for a long time and then u just kiss him... i am a strong believer of a girl/ guy cant have a bestfriend of an opp. sex... just for the fact there are always gonna be some type of feeling between eachother... but yeah best thing to do is sit him down talk to him take him some wheres u can have a one on one convo.. with no interruptions and explain how u feel and what that kiss meant... hope this helps
2007-09-04 17:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it a little time, of course it's going to be awkward a first. But something will work out- something as big as a kiss can't be ignored. The most important thing for you to do know is act confident around him. If you just act how you always did around him- only a little more flirty and suggestive, he will catch on. Make him comfortable by doing most of the talking, but try to carry on as 'normal'. Eventually something will work out.
2007-09-04 17:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Bren J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you have asked him in a direct manner, "WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON HERE?"
I can remember times when a kiss did indeed sweep me off my feet and take me to a different place, but that was temporary. So, what else is going on? Have you asked?
Unless you have a past history of kissing frogs who changed to princes, I would say that the kiss has nothing to do with the current problem. Just a guess. Hugz. NO DON'T HUG ME!
Just kidding, hug me if you must.
2007-09-04 17:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by GENE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys don't accidentally kiss girls unless they are married. Good luck on your new relationship! If you've been friends for a long time, you will be able to be friends again if necessary. Just be careful to always be fair. If it is not going to work out, be honest right away to at least keep friendship. He is going to act different, because you'll both have different expectations. Did you ever watch Wonder Years?
2007-09-04 17:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by skip_pingstone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think he loves you. He wants to be your boyfriend. What is important now is your feeling. Do you love him or just see him as your "common" friend?
The kiss does dictates something for him. It make him have the opinion that you love him 2.
By the way i'm not a native speaker. But i hope you can understand what i'm talking about.
2007-09-04 17:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing with a really close male friend. things were SO akward for a while and he reacted the same way your friend did, talking less, being distant. it took a long time and we eventually got back to how we used to be, though i can;t say things were ever quite the same.we never mentioned the kiss, just moved on. i hope things turn out differently for you :)
2007-09-04 17:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by drummergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hes probaly a little shock because you all been friends for so long and this never happen.So he just feel a little uncomfortable at this time til he see your next step or probaly waiting for you to bring it up,then he will proceed into a conversation about what happen....
2007-09-04 17:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by caramel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might have the hots for you. You should approach him about it and see if that's why your relationship has changed. Guy friends tend to get awkward when the start seeing female friends as actual potential girlfriends. If you ask me, you should just discuss it.
2007-09-04 17:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by Cindarella R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋