like sometimes i can be myself and after i talked to the person i feel weird like the person thought i was weird how can i train my mind to JUST be myself? im 17
2007-09-04 16:55:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
if folks don't like you for who you are then its their loss and not yours you will find people that you fit in with sooner or later
2007-09-04 17:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to keep in mind that we're all a little weird.
Also, most of the kids you're talking to are so busy thinking about what you thought of THEM, they probably didn't twig to any of your weirdness.
Just relax if you can and try not to over think your interactions.
Although, if they go away with a shocked, weepy or frightened and seem to be avoiding you after that, you might want to tone down the weirdness a bit ;)
2007-09-05 00:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can remember back to when i was your age. Allot of people thought I was weird also because instead of being like everyone else I choose to be me I'd show up in the middle of winter in shorts and combat boots . If you feel weird around someone while you are being you then I believe that you should find other people to hang with. If you wish to build self confidence I would suggest studying martial arts , I learned judo when i lived in California and also wrestle you would be surprised at how much it can help good exercise to.
2007-09-05 00:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by the gunslinger roland deschain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good news is you CAN be yourself.
And there are no SHOULDs or SHOULDN'Ts involved.
Don't let any one tell you how you SHOULD be.
Let me tell you a simple thought to keep in your head. It won't take any special training or going to a psychologist. There's nothing wrong with you. Unless of course, you're way off the deep end and need serious help but it doesn't sound like it.
When someone judges you in either a good or a negative way, they are actually judging themselves. Yes, that applies to positive and negative judgments.
I know this is hard to understand, eventually you will get it. I am happy to explain this concept further if you want to email me but I'll leave this with you for now.
Think about it, the last time you thought something negative about someone, you were actually thinking negative about yourself and it had nothing to do with them.
2007-09-05 00:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one put that thought into your mind but you. Suggests you need to re-evaluate what you think of yourself. Then do something to make a change in your conclusion of what you are. I would wonder why you have such a low opinion of yourself. This factor in itself would suggest there was some problem in your younger years. Taking you into a self doubt situation. May want to take a good look at your history. Suggestive of some parental failure to encourage you rather than down grade you.
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2007-09-05 00:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, who cares what others think? Everyone is different, unique in their own right. You will have to "retrain" yourself to do what YOU want to do and what makes you happy. It will take you awhile, but in the end you'll be so much happier because you won't give a rat's patoot about the so-called societal norms placed on people today. Go ahead, be yourself and don't worry about what others think! (Unless being yourself is a serial killer or something - in that case, I'd recommend therapy... or a sheriff.)
2007-09-05 00:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by orandinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just got to relax and do it. Just be yourself. It is hard to tell you how. I will tell you that I have a 17 yr old son that is probably more comfortable with who he is than many adults I know. He just doesn't care what others think. If they like him - great, they can be friends. If they think he is weird, he will agree with them and laugh it off. It tends to draw those same people closer to him. If you want to email me, go for it. Maybe I can get him to talk to you.
2007-09-05 00:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Connie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares?? As long as you are comfortable with yourself that is all that matters. It is WAY better to be yourself than the try to be something else. At some point or another everyone thinks someone is weird. Hey, I'm weird but that's part of my charm...lol....just be you and everything else with fall into place.
2007-09-05 00:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by MST300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been through that. maybe you dont have a lot of confidence?or possibly because you might not feel that you have as many similarities with a person. dont be afraid to be who you are, i know it may not sound as simple as it may sound to me now but you just have to try different things like talking to more people. or even ask a friend about it.
2007-09-05 00:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by ☮ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax.
Every 17 year old feels exactly the same way you do.
Don't worry about what other people think. They probably aren't thinking you are weird. People your age aren't thinking like that..they are worrying about what others think of them.
Just relax.
You'll be fine.
Be happy with who you are!
2007-09-05 00:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sumie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be strong like me.People think I am weird just becase I keep on hitting them because they tease me a lot. YOU JUST STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.BE A MAN!
2007-09-05 00:23:00 · answer #11 · answered by kira r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋