Hey, ive been talking to a guy on the internet for a while and he wants to meet up sometime. Not only is he 28 (im 18), ive always thought that anyone who meets up with someone on the internet is a dumb f*ck, but im still considering agreeing anyway. We get along really well and have a lot in common, but what i want to know is whether his behavior is more consistant with ppl his age, or more like a perverts. Hes often told me he wants to date me, which im open to. The thing that bothers me is that he hints at sex a lot, and the other day when he was completly trashed, he just came right out and asked me if i would have sex with him. so im confused, i havnt dated older guys before and i dont know if the relationships hes used to are more mature and therefore more open about sex, or if the dating rules are the same as im used to and hes just a pervert in disguise. What do you think? thanks
2007-09-04 16:51:14 · 52 answers · asked by Lizzy S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's a pervert...don't date him.
2007-09-04 16:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Patito 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm 27 and I get smashed sometimes, but I don't believe in dating girls as young as you. There's a rule, that guys probably made up, I seriously don't know. If you're a guy, you take your age and divide by two, then add 7. That's the number of years old at the youngest a girl you can date. So for me it would be 20 1/2 years old. There are a lot of cute girls out there younger than 20, but it's just asking for trouble. I don't go by this rule necessarily cuz I'm not looking for a relationship, so I'm kinda neutral, but a guy this old shouldn't be coming on to you like that if he hasn't even met you in person yet. If you're smashed, well, both guys and girls can be horny when they're tanked. So, that may account for what he did. But still, I think he's just desperate if he was asking if you'd have sex with him before you've even met in person. BE CAREFUL!! Bring mace spray with you when you meet. You never know--you might need it.
2007-09-04 17:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT MEET HIM
Ok I know from first hand experience, I was talking to a 25 year old from the internet and all he wanted was to "have fun" with me whereas I was looking for an actual commitment.
I've talked to all my guy friends about this and they all say the same thing, the only reason older guys (older as in 28 vs. 18) talk to younger girls is for sex. You deserve BETTER. Trust me. If he's always hinting at sex on the internet, what do you think he'd be like on the date???
2007-09-04 16:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, let me assure you that many people meet their future husbands through the Internet, specifically through online dating services. Sure, there are some perverts and some dishonest men and some crooks out there, but there also are many honest men who've joined an online dating service in order to have a better chance of finding that special someone.
Second, I think that this guy's insistence on sex (before you've met in person and spent time together) is premature. His behavior is a combination of 3 things: audacity, the fact that he is quite a bit older, and the false intimacy that the Internet provides to people.
Tell him that you'd like to start seeing each other, make sure you meet in public places, and if he persists in wanting sex and sex only, break up contact. And, of course, don't give out your home address unless you're absolutely sure that he's honest and the two of you have a future together.
2007-09-04 17:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by BlackSea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a huge circle of male friends in the last six years, all about 25 to 27. Whenever they were dating younger girls, they'd always tell me and our other friends, "it's just an easy lay. Young girls are stupid..." or "They do whatever I want," or "I can entertain them with a $10 bill" in other words, they're cheap dates... an icecream and a coke, then sex, type thing.
Most older guys, seven to 10 yrs older, are looking for easy sex with niave girls.
You haven't even really met this dude yet and he's already trying to hint for sex, and probably thinks you'll give it to him cause your 18.
I'd say don't meet him. If you like older guys, that's fine. I never dated guys my age... they were all immature. I dated older, but only three or four years older.
If you date here you're less likely to be taken advantage of, used or not taken seriously.
This guy will probably try to get what he wants from you and then burn off to the next hot young thing he finds.
My advice, find someone younger than this guy, maybe older than you but younger than 28. Also, don't ever meet up with someone who talks about having sex with you before you've even met them... they're either a.) pathetic and desperate or b.) complete whores. (Yes, guys can be whores)
Good luck! If you do decide to meet up with him.... use good judgement and leave whenever you feel uncomfortable, pressured or disrespected.
2007-09-04 17:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already got you confused in the head. Stick to your own age for right now. He's too experienced for you. The fact that he is already talking about sex, before he even meets you. Yes, he just wants sex. He's wooing you over the internet. Face to face, he would have you melting in his hands, especially if he's cute. I'm am not saying that you are dumb. I'm just saying that he's 28 and your 18. Experience is a great teacher and he's been through a lot more than you.
2007-09-04 16:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Christine H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little off to me however; If you ever do anything such as meet up, he shouldn't mind if you have someone that would come along with you just in case. Meet a couple of times with friends and in public places first and until you would feel comfortable meeting up alone. The age is a bit much though.
2007-09-04 17:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by charliman2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think meeting someone on the internet is absolutely scary and not worth it. They can disguise themselves really good. For all you know, the guy you talking to right now is in his 40's or married or something. You never can tell with the internet. I say do what you feel is comfortable to you, but just be careful.
2007-09-04 16:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by shai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say normal but I'd say it's fairly typical that a lot of people online (particularly men) are more interested in casual sex than relationships.
A guy who really wants to date you and possibly have a relationship with you will have more respect for you than to talk about sex all the time though. Clearly that's what he wants more than he wants a relationship. A quality guy wouldn't make a girl feel uncomfortable by talking about sex all the time.
2007-09-04 16:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by KL 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds creepy to me! one of my friends met up with a guy she had been talking to for a year and BAD things happened to her like kidnapped, raped kind of BAD things. He's kinda old too. If I was you I wouldn't talk to him anymore. But you're an adult now and your gonna do what you want. Don't you think it will be sort of awkward or uncomfortable to meet some one for the first time and already feel pressured to have sex? That's weird like what if he doesn't turn you on and then he gets mad because he thought you were gonna do it with him and now you don't want to. If you feel pressured don't do it. and if you do decide to meet him go somewhere PUBLIC and bring along a friend if she's not to scared to go. DON'T GO ALONE! Be careful girlie!
2007-09-04 17:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by tookoolfool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from this guy are you crazy he can be a child molester,a serial killer,Rapist what ever you do don't meet him that's how a lot of people get killed and rap ect... they meet people on the internet and " " there real sweet ect.. but it ends up been some other way hope u listen to me, date people that you know not on the internet good luck!!!
2007-09-04 16:57:21 · answer #11 · answered by Vicky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋