children? My husband and I have a disagreement about that newlyweds can hold off on having kids until they're more financially secure and have a stable job or career, that is, if you think you might not afford to have kids you shouldn't. I disagree with him and I want to see what others say and help me out with some Biblical verses taht I might not come up with at this time as I'm a young Christian and still learning/growing Thanks!
2007-09-04 16:46:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Basically a relative of his held off on having kids until they were doing good financially and he praises them for that - I don't.
2007-09-04 16:47:34 · update #1
I know and have met many families who had more than 7 kids starting young and even though they had hardships, the children were a blessing and were loved very much - nobody suffered from famine or lack of basic needs being met. in fact you would love to visit them. my husband doesnt seem to see things the way i see it but anyways he did before we were marired now he says he changed his mind...hmph
2007-09-04 16:52:43 · update #2
girl, it's natural for a woman to want to have kids no matter the circumstances. i have 2 children. 2 and 8 weeks old. my husband and i have so much joy and at the same time bills to pay. lucky for you, you and your spouse don't have children to worry about and try to pay your debts off.
Children are really a blessing from God. So if you have kids, He gave them to you for a reason. Remember, God takes care of the birds and flowers. Imagine how He takes care of US?! Nowadays, children are obviously born out of wedlock and they are suffering for it. Being a parent is no joke. What you do for and to them will play a major part in how they make life decisions.
Pray to God and ask Him what to do. He will let you know if you open your heart. God Bless you!
2007-09-04 17:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by lukilao 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Bible, children are always considered a blessing. I have read that in New Testament times, however, it was not unusual to abandon a baby in a public place, to be picked up and adopted by somebody who wanted it. It was a kind of family planning of the day.
However in modern times: even the Roman Catholic Church, probably the strictest denomination in disapproving contraception, does not object to delaying childbearing by other means. It does regard the intention to have children as a requirement for valid marriage, but doesn't say when or how many.
2007-09-04 18:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about the person posting above me Jesus did say that but he was quoting Somone else, it had to do with suffering and mens interpretation of "I wish I was never born" read it again
I believe in trusting God, he provides for his children.
your husband is probably mostly worried about being the provider, these feelings are common but if he goes out on a limb and trusts God, and see that God does what he says(provides) he should have less worries about becoming a father.
I know more christian poor kids that are happier and well behaved that I admire than I know middle class kids of liberals (watch how most kids behave)
I teach Sunday school and I see how the saved and unsaved children act with their parents...com pleat opposites
"like arrows in the hand of a warrior. ... Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them" (Ps. 127:4, 5, NKJV).
God wants us to have children -children are a blessing!
"go fourth and multiply"
He loves us and he wants the earth to be filled
Jesus loves the little children, we are told to be as children
Biblicaly having children is the main reason to get married.
I recomend going to a very family oriented church, there are so many wonderfull examples of great famlies that get by well because God provides!( I'm talking 7 or 8 kids if they can do it I'm sure you can at least have a couple)
It's not about the money it's about how youo raise your children.... I mean whats more important this life with a nice house 2 cars or having an impact on your childrens life so they know Jesus and go to heaven with you. there is no greater joy than training up your children to love God.
sorry about the rambling...
2007-09-04 17:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The entire Bible stresses self restraint and wisdom over feelings. The Bible also says that a man must be a good provider for his family. Sounds like in this case, your husband is using wisdom, while you may be relying on feelings.
Regardless, your kids will survive though you may have to struggle if poor. But why rush things and put your kids and family through unnecessary situations.
2007-09-04 18:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey:) I'm a Christian myself. Alot of Christians I know believe that birth control is wrong in any situation. My husband and I have prayed about it and decided that we were financially able to have a kid right away and so we did. However, we waited a year in between for personal reasons. This is a topic alot of Christians argue about! I'm curious to see the responses. Pray, pray, PRAY!
"Knock and the door shall be opened unto you, seek and ye shall find"
2007-09-04 17:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by 2littleboys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I think that someone is never ready for a baby I have to agree with your husband. Some people depend too much on the state for support and if they would have waited instead of wanting a kid right away then they wouldn't be depending on other people taking care of them (taxpayers).
2007-09-04 16:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says The fruit of the womb is God`s blessing, but Christ also said The day would come when they would say Blessed is the womb that is barren, or the paps that have never gave suck. The lord also said, when he put us in the garden, Be fruitful and multiply. I`ve always leaned towards it being wrong TO STOP conception, however, in this modern day one must use common sense. This is a decision between you, your husband, and God. Pray honestly, and he`ll show you what what`s right, in a way you won`t have to guess.
2007-09-04 17:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by srmm 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I can't think of any verses. I do know that sometimes G-d makes you wait on children. Sarah for example.
Otherwise, I believe when it is your time to have a child, the L-rd blesses you.
2007-09-04 16:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sumie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the bible. Your husband is right and thinking more logically in terms of reality. Children are expensive. If you want to have a child, and give it the proper environment, stability, education and so forth, unfortunately, there is money involved. I think many mothers, today, are selfish because they only want a baby for the experience and their own satisfaction. In biblical reasons, the reason for marriage is for children. To build a family. But that is why you marry when you are financially secure. You don't marry when you are poor, that way, once you have the money, and you get married, then you can start having babies. That's how it used to be. Marriage was never about love.
2007-09-04 16:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋