He has done things before that I did not report and now finally I did.
When they located him, he lied to them and said I slapped him and broke into his email account, trying to get me arrested.
I swore out a warrant. He works at my company.
Do you think they arrested him?
He is so convincing and manipulative.
Do you think he can get them to arrest me with his lies?
I am afraid.
He also told me not to leave the apartment and threw a biscuit at me and spread it all over the carpet and said clean it up, you did this, it is your fault.
2007-09-04 16:42:50 · 18 answers · asked by KAR36 6 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
He could be charged with simple battery. An arrest would occur if there's enough probable cause to make an arrest. He could try and file charges and you may have to defend yourself. That is a possibility.
Leave him asap. Stay as far away from him as you can and do not under any circumstances have any contact with him until the matter is clarified.
2007-09-04 16:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by Glen B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen---this is important.
1. REPORT EVERYTHING HE DOES TO YOU. Whether it be a harassing phone call, a broken window, he slaps you, keys your car...whatever, it doesn't matter. REPORT every little thing. You must do this; for anything to be done for you according to the law, he must have a record, and by reporting him, you will be giving him a record of harassing you. Get a restraining order if at all possible!!!!
2. Tell your family and close friends what is happening. Have them check up you, call you, and generally keep an eye out.
3. Change your phone number and e-mail address. Do not give them to him, or to anyone who would give it to him.
4. Get a good deadbolt lock for your door, and have your dad or a guy friend install it for you (unless you are good at that stuff yourself).
5. If you have the money and time, I would HIGHLY recommend a self-defense class. It's usually only 2 or 3 classes, and often they aren't terribly expensive. Some women's centers or community centers give classes for free.
I assume since he is your ex, you aren't with him, or living with him. If you are, get OUT NOW. If he is doing what you say he is, he is violent and unstable---he could really hurt you (or worse).
Good luck.
2007-09-04 23:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Calliope 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow... well first let me ask WHY you need all this drama in your life? Thats not to place blame on you but an effort for you to see that you have made some choices that are putting you at risk. I think one poster called it perfect... he is a "nut job" indeed. Get away and stay away.
MORE importantly if this seems to be a pattern in your relationships PLEASE get some counseling and explore your ideas of relationships and what constitutes a HEALTHY one. I'm not one for deep psychotherapy and tend towards a cognitive/rational emotive approach and so caution you about falling for endless therapy with no shore in sight. Therapy is a raft to cross the river but you gotta know where you are headed - ya know?
I'm going to go out on a limb and say you probably should NOT be in a relationship until you get your own act together. People will only treat YOU as bad as YOU allow them to. Sounds like this has a tit for tat aspect that is only going to get more trouble. Resolve to respect yourself and have healthy relationships and to be alone for a time so you can regroup. Good luck
2007-09-04 23:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by John G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact a battered women's shelter and ask them for help. A guy like this can turn into a killer real easy. And if it happens again, do not wash off the saliva, the police need it for evidence. (Yes I would wash the eyes out but nothing else. They need to get DNA samples.) Do you have the soiled clothes you were wearing? They might be able to use them. And do not let the police brush you off. Get a lawyer if you can.
2007-09-04 23:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need a restraining order and every time he talks to you record it if one party knows it is being recorded (you) it is not illegal plus it will help your case if it goes to trial also if possible try to have someone with you when you go anywhere they can make a good witness if something happens that why it is not just your word against his. Also inform your company there are laws that are in place to protect you from a harrassment while at work.
2007-09-05 01:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by the b-i-s-h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS WHAT COURTS ARE FOR--SEEKING OUT THE TRUTH--IF HE HELD YOU DOWN AGAINST YOUR WILL THIS IS IMPRISONMENT-NOT ALLOWING YOU TO GO ABOUT AT YOUR LEISURE--IF HE SPIT IN YOUR EYE--THIS IS AN ASSAULT OR BATTERY DEPENDENT ON STATE YOU RESIDE IN--GET A RESTRAINING ORDER OR PROTECTIVE ORDER AGAINST HIM-AGAIN DEPENDING ON STATE DIFFERENT ORDER-THIS IS A CIVIL MATTER AND CAN BE HEARD IN A CIVIL COURT-DID YOU GET THE WARRANT OR AN ATTORNEYGET IT?--YOU WILL NEED ONE BECAUSE HE IS MANIPULATIVE AND A GOOD CON ARTIST--OTHERWISE KNOW IN CIRCLES AS A SOCIO-PSYCHOPATHIC-DEVIENT- OR CRIMINAL-CHARMING AND EASY GOING AND MANIPULATIVE AND VENGEFUL-WATCH YOUR BACK WITH HIM HE SOUNDS LIKE FUTURE DANGER- COURT WILL NORMALLY TAKE ABOUT 2-3 MONTHS BEFORE A HEARING AGAIN DEPENDING ON COURT CALANDERS AND JUDGES TO HEAR CASES-DEFINATELY HE HAS SHOWN HIS TRUE COLORS AND YOU KNOW HIS BEAVIOR --SPLIT THE SHEETS BEFORE YOU GET HURT WORSE THEN BEFORE-THESE PEOPLE WANT TO BE IN CONTROL OR ELSE HE WOULD NOT HAVE HELD YOU DOWN--BIG MAN--HOLDING DOWN A WOMAN WOW-A REAL MAN HE WOULD NOT EVEN BARK AT CUZ HE WOULD GET HIS CLOCK CLEANED FOR HIM-REAL MEN DONOT ABUSE WOMEN THEY WALK AWAY-PSYCHOLOCICALLY THAT HURTS YOU MORE NOT STAYING TO THRASH IT OUT--GOOD LUCK
2007-09-05 01:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by ahsoasho2u2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a nanny cam in your house to catch him in the act and get your boss/ co -worker at work or your friend to keep an account or journal of all of the times you tell them he has done some injustice to you.
2007-09-04 23:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by hakim1125 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Get the hell out of there, that guy's a whacko. The biscuit thing -- geez. Sounds like he's got serious control issues. Even if they don't arrest him, definitely avoid him at all costs.
2007-09-04 23:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
what a ******* ***.well first off i would collect evidence to prove to the cops hes lieing.like get a hidden camera and record the things he says or does.record what he says with your cell phone or a tape recorder and show it to the cops.block out his lies with the truth.and encourage the cops its not you.hun don't worry god's with you and with god by your side you can make it.just be strong.
2007-09-04 23:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by domenicathesims2player 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Domestic Violence or simple assault..most misdemeanor warrants don't get served until contact..means they wait til the see him,check his license and see there is a want for him...Id run if I were you
2007-09-04 23:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Sardonicus 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋