I am extremely concerned. He has stopped eating and is making little off-hand jokes about his lack of "experience" and his attitude suggests he might be thinking of killing himself. My husband and I have talked about it and we are considering getting him a prostitute to enhance his self esteem. Moral issues aside (my boy's life is at stake) has anyone else tried this?
2007-09-04 16:26:13 · 15 answers · asked by Katrina K 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think it's a great idea. My first time was with a prostitute who I Iater married. 25 happy years until that damn ***** left me.
Prostitute atleast lays everything on the table. Unlike dating "real women" where a movie and dinner won't even ensure contact. The sooner your son learns this the better!
2007-09-04 16:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Earl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope this is a joke. I don't think this is actually a good option at all. From his point of view, what it may say is that you and your husband also believe that he is such a loser that the only way he can have sex is to pay for it. Sex should be a loving thing, not a paid for transaction, and if he's depressed this might just be a ticket over the edge. If you truly feel he's suicidal, then get him professional help of the psychiatric kind- not a prostititute. If you are going to procure help for your son, your money would be better spent getting help that will benefit him in the long term. Not an exerience that will leave him feeling shallow and cheap, thinking his parents agree that he's right to feel this way. You won't enhance his self esteem, and you may well destroy whatever is left.
2007-09-04 16:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by The mom 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh no no no DO NOT even consider doing this. If he finds out that she is a prostitute it will just make his self-esteem go down even more if he things the only way he can get sex is to pay for it. Instead look for singles groups (im not a big church goer but its always a good place to look) or other places where he can meet people, or even find a focus group that handles this certain situation and will help him build his self-esteem back up. One other thing is you could send him to counceling, if hes able to face the problems he is having then he will have someone there to guide him on finding solutions. Hope this helps, and very good luck to you.
2007-09-04 16:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by flutterby_cowgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I agree with the answers of if you hire him a prostitute, and he knows about you being his parents paying for someone to sleep with him, then yes that will make him feel worse, he will probably feel like he could never have anyone because his parents have to pay for someone to sleep with him. If nothing else, he can go to a strip club or something and have a good time there if he's into that, not hiring a prostitute.
If he is overweight, this is probably a big reason, encourage him to work out, diet or something, that would boost his mood and make him lose weight as well.
2007-09-04 19:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by It's MIRANDA!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should encourage your son to lose weight. go for walks with him. turn the TV and computers off and go bowling two or three times a week. don't have your TV room open to the kitchen. only buy fruit for snack. don't even tell him he's on a diet. get a ping pong table and play that with him. A prostitute's not going to help with self-esteem issues it'll just validate his insecurities.
2007-09-04 17:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by deecharming 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine that this would help. The underlying message would be, "Yes, you're so pathetic that Mommy and Daddy will pay someone to have sex with you." This does not seem likely to improve matters, from my point of view.
If you think he is actually a danger to himself, get him temporarily committed to a hospital, get him on anti-depressants and into counseling. There is probably a much bigger issue or set of issues he needs to deal with--the surface stuff is a set of symptoms, not a cause.
2007-09-04 16:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by stoneinthestream 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
There is only one drawback to this...can you afford to keep her coming back? I see your reasoning, but it will not help his self esteem to have her disappear...unless you planned on telling him she was hired? (not a good idea obviously)
My opinion would be to get him counseling, pronto. Or find a charitable organization he can donate his time....that is always a very good way of helping one out of depression. And you never know, the girl he works with may fall for him.
I know there is a lot more to the story that none of us will ever know ....I wish you much luck.
2007-09-04 16:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hope you are joking ?!!a parent hiring their son a prostitute not only is this illegal,its just plain stupid..unless you want to ruin your kid for life,his first time is to be special when the time is right,and it will only lower his self esteem,prostitutes will sleep with anyone.!!Try some therapy..for both of you.
2007-09-04 16:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by ☆Stephanie Nicole☆ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats not such a good idea, maybe in theory but if you actually did it, it would more or less teach him not to try and find someone because he could just as easily pay for it! You want him to have his first time with someone special that he meets!!
2007-09-04 16:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by honeychild_star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. He'll be even more depressed. He needs to find his own romance. If sex is all he wants he can masturbate or get his own prostitute. After all, they sell it to any one.
2007-09-04 16:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by eei59aasd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋