I like this guy and were really close and he says he likes me but he doesnt want a gf...is there nethign I can do t omake him want me to be his gf? And when u like somebody dont u want to be with them?
2007-09-04 16:21:40 · 31 answers · asked by Juls 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because he's not ready to be your b/f doesn't mean he doesn't like you. There's many reasons why he might not be ready to commit but that doesn't mean he will never get there. Just be cool and hang out and be friends with him and give it some time and see what happens. Good luck.
2007-09-04 16:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you, but he's a guy. So there's probably several reasons why - maybe he just got out of another relationship and isn't ready for another one yet, maybe he's scared of being hurt, or maybe he just wants someone to like and have fun with without the responsibility and commitment of a relationship. He may come around, so give him some time to figure things out. If it doesn't happen, then accept it and find someone else. Be his friend, don't push anything or bring the subject up. If it's meant to be, it will work out.
2007-09-04 23:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ misschels ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like this advice but I think the best thing you should do is move on.
I agree with you when you said that when you like somebody, you want to be with them. He says he likes you, but he doesn't want a girl friend, that doesn't make sense. I think that if he really liked you he would want to be with you. I think it might be his way of letting you know he wants to remain close friends (because he values the friendship, which is great) and not complicate things by dating.
Maybe if you give him a little space, he may want you more (like they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder). Or maybe you could ask him straight out.
Good luck! :)
2007-09-04 23:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by angel_sierra16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he made his position clear. Pursuing this will only make you look like a psycho. The best thing you can do is go on about your life, maybe he will see what he is missing but DO NOT give him your affection if he cannot give you a commitment, since that is what you want. He may like you, sure, but girlfriend is a serious commitment he says he is not ready for. Listen to him, don't be a psycho, and move on.
2007-09-04 23:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by my_son_wants_to_know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem and i dont understand why he keeps pushing the question away and say i will cal u on monday. He likes me but i think he isnt shure. Maybe he isnt ready for a girl friend and is an relationship. I would talk to him and tell him im serious and that you need an answer and that you are okay if he dosnt wanna be ur boy friend execpt he isnt ready.
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2007-09-04 23:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy really likes you, then he would have no hesitations in asking you out if that is what he wanted. Obviously this guy has some hesitations and maybe you could ask him what they are. Also, there really isn't anything you can "do" to make him want you to be his girlfriend. You can't make people do things they don't want to do, all you can do is ask them and then the choice is theirs.
When you like somebody, no, you don't necessarily want to be with them. There are reasons for this, so its best to discuss his reasons with him.
2007-09-04 23:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who was in the same situation with a guy she liked. The best thing to do is not stress it. Show that he is not the only guy you're interested in. If he really likes you he will make the right move but never try to pressure a guy. It will only make him drift away from you rather than closer to you. :-)
2007-09-04 23:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by BRE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I'm not trying to mean or anything but if he is not ready, forget it! Just start looking for another man that will like you and will be with you because he is ready! You don't want to spend and waste all that time trying to convince him that he is ready, while you are wasting your time, the real Mr. Right might come and you will miss it.
2007-09-04 23:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by elsachick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had this problem forever...the guys I've had crushes on have never felt the same way about me. They only think of me as friends, when I want something more.
And yes, when I like somebody I want to be with them. And get close to them, get to know them.
2007-09-04 23:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by kt_carrera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but take it from me he's telling the truth right now. One thing you can do is show him less attention and let him see you just talking and laughing with other guys. Believe me, you'll find out quickly. Ask my wife. But being truthful ,he's keeping the "lanes" open so to speak, so please think it over and don't give into feelings and emotions of thinking you have to take it to the next step. Respect yourself sister. If he wants you, he'll come around.
2007-09-04 23:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋