I go to a racial diverse college. I am black I just started school a week ago. Their is this girl ( she is white). She is in my math class. She is always staring at me, and after class she comes up to me and starts talking about how much she hates the class. It was very strange, someone like her just coming up and talking to me. Its a huge campus, but she always seems to be near. She is kinda sexy, kinda off in a seductive way. but i don't feel comfortable with interacial relationships, especailly because she has blonde hair and blue eyes. It would upset my female relatives. I am having conflicting feelings about her, I like her and she seems to care about me. But on the other hand, you know.
2007-09-04 16:09:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For me, I grew up in Chicago and had every race around all the time. I always got along with everyone too. I was ask out alot by black guys in my teenage years, and still do get ask out at 40. But I honestly have to say I done alot of watching before I made up my mind. What I seen was, when someone not of the same race was together, either dating or ,married, there was always stares and talk from one direction or another.
And being honest with myself, no, I couldn't handle all that. And there are some black men that I'm really attracted to, but I just can't.
2007-09-04 16:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are judging someone by the colour of their skin. You need to get to know someone to find out what they're really like before you can say they're not for you. I guess if it really bothers you and it would really bother your family then you had best politely tell her this. Or you could just be stand-offish and not respond to her, she'll probably get the message without you having to say anything. This is however quite sad in my opinion. Are you afraid that if you give her a chance you might actually fall for her? What if she's your soul mate? Can you really walk away from this with all these questions unanswered? You may regret it.
2007-09-04 16:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to give you the same advice I gave our son and daughter before they went to college.... Never before and never again will you be faced with such a smorgasbord of people. Get to know as many different kinds and colors and nationalities and religions as you can. Tall, short, thin, fat, black, white, brown, Asian, European, jocks, brains, scientists, artists, musicians, etc, both of opposite sex and same sex. You will broaden your visions of the world. You don't have to date all of these. You can become friends with them, study with them, party with them. But don't eliminate a person because of their color, religion, etc. Eliminate them because they are a**holes, or stuck up, or druggies, or ..., but not because of color. Our daughter (white) dated a black guy. Of all the guys she brought home, he was our favorite. She ended up marrying someone very similar to herself. Our son married a woman from another country. Both are happy with their choices because they both looked over the whole smorgasbord table before they chose. Good luck and have fun.
2007-09-04 16:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough situtation. im a white girl also and i love black boys :] i'd say just follow your heart, even if it upsets your female relatives.
2007-09-04 16:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family relatives arent gonna live with her or deal with your emotions, race should never matter
2007-09-04 16:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by little q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should race matter. Ask her out, or are you scared that you might like it?
2007-09-04 16:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by Patty M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋