My husband just landed in iraq the other day and i havent heard from him. Ive been freaking out panicked. Im new at all of this. I know im gonna be a nervous wreck all the damn time. Any words of advice?
2007-09-04 15:34:32 · 23 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
he should be getting in touch with you within a week or so..because he went to iraq doesnt necessarily mean they land there right away...because my husband has been in other countries for up to two weeks..with the clothes on his back...just hang in there..not to sound morbid but if something were wrong you would already know...in this case no news is good news...he will get a hold of you when he can
2007-09-04 15:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by bailie28 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm also a military spouse and I and I can tell you that sometimes it does take a few days before you hear from them.They have to go to one place when they get there and wait to be sent to their duty station.He will call you as soon as he can.Some women have said that it has taken up to a month before they hear from their husbands,but it depends on where they are going.Remember too that there are going to be times where they have blackouts,and will not be able to call,text or e-mail,sometimes for a few days.So just hang tight,I know it's hard,and I'm sure that as soon as he can call you he will.You might want to look into the phone company Vonage.They have this thing called a v-phone.It is $50.00(one time fee).It will save you from having to spend so much money on calling cards in the future.Hang tight,it will be okay.
2007-09-05 12:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by dismalrelic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I just want to agree with American Wife above.
I am so proud of you and your husband, you guys are amazing for what you do. I am from New York, and though I'm not political, I'm probably what most would consider a liberal...heck, I don't even support the war for the most part, but I do believe that soldiers are doing what they believe is right, fighting for our country, and I truly respect/admire that.
The best I can say is, find some sites/online communities, I am sure there are many that will support you through these times.
2007-09-04 22:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by travwell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's tough. I've been there. My husband came back from his 9-month deployment in March of this year. It was his first tour of duty, but it felt like forever for him to come home. It's best if you just keep yourself busy. Go out with your friends or family. If you have kids, take them out on a playdate with your friend who may also have a child. Go out and work. Go to school. Just keep busy. If you have a key volunteer in your husband's unit, you should contact them if you have any questions about your hubby. Sometimes they can help you out. Depending where your husband might be, there are computer centers he can go to and can actually email you or something. Just don't expect them to respond quickly because there are times when you won't hear from them for days. I know it's hard. But you will have to be strong and not think badly of anything. He'll be alright. God is watching over our soldiers. Just pray for him each and everyday ok. In the meantime, just keep yourself busy and before you know it, he'll be home (safe) again. Good luck.
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2007-09-05 11:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Azn Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there! My husbands unit just moved to a new location where they don't have phone or internet working yet. This deployment I've heard from him about once a week, but sometimes it was 2 weeks before I heard from him. My hubby was in Iraq about a week before I actually heard from him. Don't worry too much. The less you worry, and the busier you stay, the faster the deployment will go by!
2007-09-04 22:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by .. 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
as a member in the military, with a girlfriend, i can understand how frustrating it can be. he probably either 1. has a mean supervisor that wont let him talk right now 2. he is still in the check-in process which can get hetic or 3. he doesn't have a good means of communicating right now. but all i can tell u is be patient. trust me, he is thinkin about u as much as u are him. if not more. but please write him when u can because iraq is a very crazy place and it feels good getting letters or email from your wife/g-friend.
shane
2007-09-04 22:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by shanerd24 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. When they first get there, they have a check in process and get settled in. It may be a week before you hear from him. Depending where he is at, the bing may have limited phones and computers. Once he gets settled and they get their internet up and working, you will hear from him alot.
Get a good web cam to talk to him with. And remember, no news is good news. Once things get going, the year or 15 months will go by fast. Our son is due home in 2 weeks and in some ways it seems they just left, but other ways he has been gone forever.
2007-09-04 23:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by Diane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to spend time with women whose spouses have spent more time in the military than you. They are used to the stress,,,as much as one get used to it. Alcohol is not the answer..no matter how tempting,, okay occasional drinks. Kepp up a normal life as much as you can, esp if you have kids. Keep yourself busy. The more busy you are the less time you have to worry. Best of luck.
2007-09-05 05:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Bob D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is thinking about you and focused on the task at hand. It is hard but try and relax, it will make it MUCH better when you finally do talk to him. Keep a journal, write him a letter, so you still feel like you are communicating with him.
2007-09-04 22:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by my_son_wants_to_know 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a spouse, but my brother is in the military.
The best thing is send him lots of mail, and to pray. He will definitely appreciate and cherish reading the words of his wife. Occasionally, he may have a time he can call home. He will be okay. It just takes getting used to.
2007-09-04 22:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by アルバート みつるぎ- Albert Mitsurugi 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋