so today my friend siad that maybe i should start to comb my hair more or put more effort into my hair ! i kindof felt bad... should we continue being friends or should i look for a new friend ???????help asap
2007-09-04 15:26:27 · 39 answers · asked by *xoxvaleriexox* 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
i think ur friend was just being brutally honest
if he or she says u needed start combin maybe u needa comb
2007-09-04 15:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should continue being friends, but tell your friend how the comment made you feel. She/he probably didn't realize how much it would hurt your feelings when they said it. Maybe you could even work something out where your friend could show you how to make your hair look nicer.
A small dispute like that is never something to get really upset about. Just keep the golden rule in mind (and maybe remind your friend): treat others as you would want to be treated
2007-09-04 15:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tryingtohelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes the truth hurts doesn't it? I've received a couple of harsh comments myself, but I know that the commenter is right (usually a friend). It's kind of good to be reminded that you could do a lot more with yourself, but it's not like the world will end if you don't. They're just offering suggestions on how to better your appearance. Don't take it offensively - I know, easier said than done. I've been on the defensive end numerous times and continue to be. It's all a matter of realizing what you want and what is better, etc.
2007-09-04 15:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your friend is just trying to enlighten you about your appearance. Take her (Or his, but I'll say her) advice about your hair, and even ask for her help. If she begins trying t change even more of you, like your clothes, the way you walk, the way you talk, then I would look for a new friend. Don't freak out about the hair thing, and if its that bad, ask another one of your friends about your hair. Tell them to be honest, and tell them about what your friend said to you. If they give you the same answer as your friend, maybe its time for a new hairstyle. If not, i guess it is time for a new friend. Either that, or maybe she was cranky that day.
Good Luck!
2007-09-04 15:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kiwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she starts coming out with more comments like that one, speak up and ask her why she thinks its okay to comment on your appearance like that. If she continues to do so, she is not a good friend and you might consider finding someone nicer to be friends with. In my life, my friends have never commented on my appearance.
Look in the mirrow yourself and have a good look, do you think shes right and you need to comb your hair out? Its up to your own personal opinion, not what others want.
2007-09-04 15:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Chloe G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't kick your friend to the curb. He/she was just voicing her opinion, as your friend. If you feel hurt by the comment, ignore it for now and the next time they mention your hair or style (or whatever they feel you should change), then check them verbally and politely let them know that you don't appreciate the comments and that you ain't changin' for them. If your hair is really a mess, then maybe you should consider their advice or get a new cute haircut that you don't really need to comb...but that's only if you want to change your look...otherwise, just DO YOU. Good Luck.
2007-09-04 15:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Nuveau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remain friends thats not really a reason to end a friendship, in a way its good as they're just trying to help you look better. You would prefer your friends being honest with you even if you don't like what they have to say at first but there better value as a friend then false people which there can be alot out-there sometimes. I think you have a good mate there.
2007-09-04 15:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a real friend to say something like that instead of letting you walk around looking like a mop head. So Don't stop being friends unless, of course, you prefer shallow relationships.
Maybe you should thank your friend for caring enough to say something instead of just ditching you because you look bad. And maybe you could even ask your friend's opinion regarding what you should do with your hair.
2007-09-04 15:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by suetoz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to branch out and hang with other ppl. she'll get jealous and think she did some thing wrong and be extra nice. I worked for me and I hope it will work for you. DO NOT BLOW HER OFF TOO MUCH. this could result in losing a friend. be sure that u make new friends so if ur friendship with her ends you have back up(dont tell the new friends there backup)
2007-09-04 15:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a Proverb in the bible that says a wound from a friend is better then a kiss from your enemy.
He is trying to help you look good. It's an honest statement. Who knows, maybe people are making fun of you behind your back and that friend of yours is just trying to help.
God Bless.
2007-09-04 15:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I would continue being friends, because i mean if you've been friends for a while, Wouldn't you rather have her be honest with you or just lie and say you look fine? I would definitely not ruin your friendship over something small like that. =)
2007-09-04 15:31:43 · answer #11 · answered by Lea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋