I'm nice and funny and really smart, so why don't boys like me?
I can't afford to wear expensive designer clothes, I have a little acne (nothing extreme), and I'm slightly overweight (about 15 pounds overweight), but I'm not ugly or anything. and my clothes is cute, just not expensive. but they all seem to like the skinny stupid abercrombie-zombies. And I just don't understand why.
2007-09-04 15:13:01 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because boys don't think with their brains... they have other organs that do the thinking for them....
2007-09-04 15:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Like a Cat. 3 · 7⤊ 3⤋
I know exactly how you feel, I was once like that, I lost the weight though which is totally not easy to do. Actually I sound exactly like you. Except for the clothing but the clothing so doesn't matter. It shouldn't matter what you are wearing unless you wear just under wear and a bra, which I am sure you don't. Do you have any guy friends, if not then gain some guy friends it makes it a lot easier. I don't know what to say really. Try to stand out a little bit.
2007-09-04 15:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by heartgirl14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if these guys only care about the girl wearing designer clothes they are not worth your time. i was a little over 18 when i got my first boyfriend. i have always been a quiet girl and still am but no guy should find weight a problem. im sure you are a pretty girl and dont let those stupid boys put you down or those disgusting skinny girls get you down. guys dont realize that there is more to a girl than her clothes and her body, personality is what they need to look for and most dont
good luck with everything though just dont get your hopes up
2007-09-04 15:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are way behind the ladies in growing up. Personally, I choose a gal for her mind first. Looks came in a close second, but they do matter (a bit) to most of us.
Thin is in, in my book! Smart is a big-big plus!
Then again, I am some 700+ years older than you. Guess I've learned a few things younger folk don't know.
To help - No canned or frozen foods for two months. Drink lots of water and NO sodas (even diet stuff)!!! Eat lots of fruits and vegetables. Watch the label for fats and sodium.
Stay away from (nearly) all sugars!
Realize that guys are a whole different animal!
Be true to yourself! Most guys will find this desirable!
The Ol' Sasquatch Ü
2007-09-04 15:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do boys actually dislike you or do they just not notice you? And are you looking at all of the boys or just the ones that look at the bimbo's? Also, you don't give your age but as the mother of 8, 6 of them now grown men, 1 14 year old male and 1 girl, I can tell you that most teen age boys are usually a couple of years behind teen age girls in their social development. There's a period of time, usually early in high school when they fantasize constantly about girls but really don't want to actually have to talk to one. And will run like hell if they think they might have to. Be patient, they will catch up.
2007-09-04 15:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well, i dont wear A&F or anything like that but the things i do wear i have to arrange so it looks like i shop "well" and the things are expensive. and it doesnt matter if you are 15 pounds overweight! 1 of the most popular girls in my school is about 25 pounds overweight
2007-09-04 15:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice, funny, and really smart aren't always the best reasons for boys to 'like' you. Your appearance should have little to do with Male's being attracted to you, as long as you have a knock-out personality.
As a male myself, I'll enlighten you on my personal views.
1-Your clothes don't really matter, they make you feel more confident, the male mind is rather simple when it comes to fashion (if it looks cool, it's good.).
2-Around (I actually have no idea) 75% of males are more physically attracted to thiner females. Guys desire a good looking woman, but thats not everything in a 'like' relationship.
3-Some men (I don't get this myself) like being in total control in relationships, their highly egotistical to say the least. If your TOO smart, it can be a draw back, but I assure you, acting dumb will get you no-where.
4-There is always a like minded individual in this world, depending on your age (and due to your grammar and terms, I can make a fairly accurate guess) finding a male that likes you will be harder then you think. I try to avoid all this stuff on a daily basis, because it's a frustrating topic. You simply can't make somebody like you, what you can do is put yourself out there more, about 80% of people will think your strange.
Anyway, the answer to your simple -Why don't boys like me?- question is...your judging yourself all on physical aspects. In this complex world, there are a ton of other elements to a healthy relationship. While you only seek to be 'liked', being liked is a part of physical attraction.
It is also highly dependent on what type of males you hang around. Just be yourself, and you should do fine.
If you simply don't like this answer, because it is a non-answer, because the question you asked is actually rhetorical, wait for another. There will be one. There always is.
2007-09-04 15:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry everyone goes through that teen awkward stage, you'll grow out of it and when you do the boys that wouldn't think of you won't be able to STOP thinking about you~
Work on yourself for you. it's not healthy to be overweight at any age and all you need is a little physical activity like walking, plus you will feel more confident and that could be why too, you sound down on yourself~
2007-09-04 15:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by *blah blah* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying you are ugly or anything, I am just saying that a lot of guys, for what ever reason, go for the anorexic looking girls. It's disgusting. Guys only look at looks, well some guys, and they don't look at the entire person. Lucky for me I found a guy that loves me for exactly who I am. I wish the same for you sweetie! Don't' worry, your day will come when you find the perfect guy and every one will be so happy for you! Just give it time!
2007-09-04 15:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lyndsay P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about how expensive your clothes are.
I have a feeling you are still pretty young, and boys your age at the moment cannot see beyond a girl I would say, nothing's wrong with you I don't think, it's only that it's not time yet.
2007-09-04 15:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find the one that will appreciate you for who you are. Especially in time when boys begin to mature, they won't want the pathetic little skinny minnies any more. Men like women that are confident in themselves and the way they look. Boys are curious but over-excited by that little thinger dangling between their legs. They don't know anything.
2007-09-05 11:02:40 · answer #11 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋