iS this depression?

Question

Ive had alot of changes lately and my mom may have had a stroke .I lost my sis and dad in the 90s .Im turning 50 and my son graduateing from college and moved my biz too.I have been crying alot in the morning and better as the day goes on.I also feel so neglected in my marriage and I dont know if its me or the depression.I hide it good so my husband doesnt know how I cry .I basically go to work cook dinner ,clean he eats watches tv goes to bed .He gets up goes on the net and off to wrk again then the weekend drinks all weekend .And sex is every two weeks and thts for me.He has a addiction to the net.I recently saw the picture of a 30 somthing naked on the laptop of his .Man Im feeling even worse ! Is it good I leave for a weekend or why am I depressed?

Answer 1

sounds like you are very overwhelmed with lots of stuff. could definetly be depression. if you are no longer intestered in life in general or stuff that used to interest you, i would lean more towards the depression. however, it could also be you are stuck in a rut (and your marriage as well) and you need to make some changes and be good to yourself. if you DO leave for the weekend, keep busy. do things you normally wouldnt do. dont just go sit in a hotel room somewhere. go horseback riding, hiking, do a jigsaw puzzle.... another thought - invite your husband away WITH you for the weekend and do these things together.

Answer 2

Yeah I think you are going threw some hard times right now and you do sound depressed. You are also if you have not already, going threw the change of life which can make some women more emotional. I think you may benefit from an anti-depressant like Lexapro or Cymbalta. There is more here than meets they eye to from what you said. It sounds like your marriage is not that great. I would recommend seeing your doctor and asking about an anti=depressant. Mind you, you have to take them every day and it may take a month for you to see and feel the full results of it but it might help. I would also recommend a therapist. It sounds like you need someone to talk to, to get some of your feeling out and organized. I also think that perhaps a marriage councilor would be a good thing for both you and your husband. He may have an addiction to Internet pornography. It is becoming more common these days. He enjoys drinking but is not abusive to you I am assuming and hoping. That is good, but there are still issues that need to be worked out. So call your doctor and make an appointment to go in and see him. You may not need the anti-depressant for a long time. I think you do sound like you could use something. I think you should also ask your doctor what he think about a therapist. It could not hurt to give it a try. Just make sure you tell your doctor everything, do not be ashamed or anything. The more you tell him about what's going on and how it is effecting you the better he/she can diagnose you and help put together a treatment plan for you. Best of luck sweet heart!! I hope you get to feeling better soon! =)

Answer 3

I would say all that stress is enough to give even the strongest person depression. Goodness. You need a very long vacation from everything including your husband. Sounds like you need someone that you can vent your feelings too to. Someone besides your husband because clearly he is not helping in this situation. He needs to do his part to in working on this marriage. Is it possible that he is going thru some male changes- midlife crisis right now and you are going thru changes too? It happens at this age and earlier. Both my husband and I are going thru the change oflife early- I am only 38 and he is 40. It happens. You need to see about getting some time from work and just going off somewhere by yourself or with a friend. I wish you the best. First you have to get yourself together before you can work on your marriage. It might help to see the doctor and see what they can prescribe for you. have you been to your Gyn this year? Could it be hormone related? Maybe need some hormones to regulate your body. I do the naturally projesterone cream and let me tell you it is a lifesaver. Without it I am such a wreck!! Depression, crying, upset, feel sick to my tummy, all out of sorts and I am not like that at all and have nothing to be upset about. I have a good strong marriage, but I did lose my Mom and GrandMother that I was very close to not too long ago and that really threw me for a loop. Family moving away and people generally moving on and changes in life. I hope you can find some time for yourself and talk to your husband and let him know that you need to work on this marriage. He needs to own up and do his part. He should be supporting you and not looking at naked pictures.

Answer 4

Sounds like stress. Here are some tips for Coping with Stress

1. Concentrate on the present.
Don't needlessly dwell on the past or worry about a future you cannot control.

2. Consider your problems one at a time.
Don't lump your problems together, it can make them seem overwhelming.

3. Take positive action.
Once you've decided what you want to do about a problem, act quickly and firmly.

4. Don't complain about your problems.
Talk things over with your family and friends. Look for solutions.

5. Occupy yourself and your mind.
Social activities can help during a time of stress.

6. Don't blame other people for your problems.
Frustrated hostility will accomplish nothing and can only make and feel worse.

7. Exercise every day.
Go for a walk and concentrate on your surroundings instead of your problems.

8. Maintain a daily routine.
A familiar pattern of activites can decrease stress and increase your sense of security.

9. Avoid taking your problems to bed.
Clear your mind of the days thoughts so you can get a good night sleep.

10. Talk to your health care provider.
She/he can help you find the right agency or person(s) to assist you in coping with stress.

Answer 5

Everyone feels down in the dumps from time to time: it’s a natural part of life. But if you find yourself unable to snap out of that feeling within a reasonable period, then you may be suffering from depression.
SIMPLE SOLUTION: Here is a list of the symptoms a doctor will look for when considering a diagnosis of depression. Find out if you may have it, and--most importantly--what to do about it, here:
Do any of the following apply to you?

Insomnia or disturbed sleep

Fatigue or loss of energy

Loss of interest in previously pleasurable activities and hobbies

Suicidal or morbid thoughts of actions

Feelings of low self-esteem, worthlessness, excessive guilt, lack of confidence

Change in weight or appetite

Consistently depressed mood

Difficulty concentrating or decreased clarity of thought

Avoidance of responsibility for fear of failure

If you think you may be severely depressed

If many or most of the above statements were true for you, We recommend that you visit your family physician to rule out any physical causes for your symptoms. If none are indicated, ask your doctor for a recommendation, or check your Yellow Pages for your local Mental Health Association to find out where to go for help. Other helpful resources might include your family service agency, clergyperson, school counselor, crisis center, reiki practitioner or other alterative healer, psychologist, hot line, marriage or family counselor, social worker, nurse psychotherapist, or emergency room.

If you think you may be moderately or mildly depressed

If several or a few of the above statements applied to you, you may want to see your family physician to rule out a physical cause for your symptoms. And here are some helpful things to try (this list in no way substitutes going to a qualified mental health specialist, which is recommended):

30 minutes of daily vigorous exercise

Standardized extract of St. John’s Wort. A recent study discussed on WebMD showed that St. John’s Wort was as effective as Paxil (with fewer side-effects) for treating mild to moderate depression. Follow label directions.

Increased consumption of foods rich in omega-3 fatty acids (such as flaxseeds and oil, and walnuts)

Vitamin B complex supplements

Meditation, breathing exercises, and/or yoga

More articles on depression click on the link below.
Things will get better.
Good Luck
Peace
GG