He slept with other girls as I knew he would. He was honest and told me about it. He said he did it because we didn't have "the talk" before he left. I didn't say anything to him about it before he left, I wanted to see if he would behave on his own, and he said he thought that I was sleeping with others. I did sleep with one other person but only out of spite (very immature, I know). I was heartbroken and crying while he was gone. Also I found pictures of him having a threesome in his phone. He's a musician so it really is a part of thier lifestyle. He's never slept with anyone else while we've been together, and we weren't even officially together when he left, but we'd been seeing each other for months. He says he wants us both to be commited and not sleep with others, but I broke up with him because I can't deal with it. I thought I could handle it, but it was killing me--I tried not to think about it but I still did. Did I do the right thing ending it?
2007-09-04 15:04:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You absolutely did the right thing. Making up excuses for having a threesome only will make you feel better temporarily if you did decide to stay with him. Weather it's part of the musician lifestyle or not, it's still wrong and degrading. Do you really want to be with someone who has sex with multiple partners? How do you know if he has any STD's or not? My guess is that if he's willing to sleep around and have threesomes (plus take pictures of it on his phone while he's doing it), then he's probably not using protection either. You did the right thing. It may not feel that way now, but believe me, there are better men out there. You'll find one when you're least expecting it.
2007-09-04 15:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You expected a relationship where there was none. You expected fidelity but you didn't ask for it before he left. You did not have a commited relationship, he did not cheat on you. If you don't have the talk, you can't expect anything. Sounds like he had one last fling before settling down, he did nothing wrong.
2007-09-04 15:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you do the right thing? If you would've been miserable with him, always thinking about him with others and wondering if he'd do it again, then yes. Your peace of mind is worth something...you two just weren't a good match.
2007-09-04 15:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so proud of you..please dont EVER go back to that guy...you will only end up heartbroken again of u do..u did the right thing...find a man who will be committed to you and want only you,you deserve it...those kinda guys never change! so congratulations for leaving that dirt!
2007-09-04 15:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was willing to make a commitment, I think you should have stayed with him.... I wouldn't have been too mad... Things get stressful when you're on tour, and sleeping with people is a relief.... and in a way you shouldn't blame him, you were the one who didn't give him the talk....
2007-09-04 15:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Like a Cat. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once a player, always a player my friend. You did the right thing. :)
2007-09-04 15:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by Carrots and bunnies 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you did the right thing.
2007-09-04 15:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
destroy him
hire a hitman
i know your rich..!!
2007-09-04 15:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
YES!!!!!!!
2007-09-04 15:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by spuddy3177 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋