cant stop crying?

Question

i just started school and im already so stressed out.. life seems so pointless right now.. i dont have friends in my classes.. i'm terrified of speaking in front of them.. i miss the stress free life of the summer.. i miss the sun... life now seems so messed up.. and as much as i tell myself.. its ok.. i cant stop crying for some reason. i cant stop myself.. im on the verge of crying all day.. i'll get a lump in my throat during class. i have to rush home so i dont burst out crying during classes and i cry myself to sleep when i get home and then at night again.. i dont talk to anyone.. i sit in my room and just cry and if anyone comes in i pretend i'm asleep.. why is this happening.. what can i do to make things better., and to stop uncontrollably crying and being so depressed.. when sometimes i dont even have a reason to cry or be depressed..

Answer 1

**HUGS** Oh, Sweetie!! It's going to be OK!! I know exactly how you feel and I've been there before. Luckily for me, my parents took me to the doctor (just the regular doctor, not a psychologist) and it was suggested to me that my body listens to what *I* tell it. If I tell it I can't stop crying, then surely I CAN NOT. But, if I was asked to think of a specific color, I found out that I COULD think of a different color, if I really tried. It was then that I discovered that **I** am the one in control of my own thoughts...and I didn't like C-H-O-O-S-I-N-G to be sad any more. I found out I had a C-H-O-I-C-E.

My point in all this is that Y-O-U have a choice, too. You can choose to remain sad, and surely you will, or you can do something to help yourself. My suggestion to you is to go immediately to the bookstore and buy "Your Erroneous Zones" by Wayne Dyer and read just a chapter at a time.

This WILL help you...I know...it helped me!!

Write Anytime
Susan

Answer 2

First I want to let you know that I think alot of people have the experience that you are having, but they don't talk about it. So good for you for opening up about it,even with total strangers! It's not really important WHO you talk to about a problem sometimes, it's just important that you do vent about it. And actually, I am finding "Answers" to be an excellent place to go with my problems because it is an anyonomous platform and very safe, meaning...you don't have to be embarrassed or worried about possible criticism. I think the crying is due to the overwhelming stress that you are under at this time with school and the many changes hitting you all at once. We humans are creatures of habit..... we don't deal well with alot of changes in our lives all happening at the same time. And relax... cuz you are only human, and you are trying to carry a heavy load which would cause most people to have the melt downs like you are having, You are not crazy, just human. I do wish that you had someone to talk to in person, cuz I think it would really help you. Stress is a serious matter., it can cause any number of health problems or even kill you if you don't get some help, and we don't want that to happen! You need to really get to the bottom of the cause of your tears and work through whatever it is that is making you feel depressed. Maybe you already know what it is but you still need to verbalize your feelings. You have been very brave already. You have reached out, so I know you can do it! Is there someone in your life who you would be comfortable with? Have you ever seen a counselor?(which is not a sign of weakness). It could really help. We all need help from time to time and I think this is one of them for you.So I just want to encourage you to let someone know that you are really struggling with all the changes occurring in your life right now. I hope you will do that! You are stronger than you think! Good Luck Sweetie!

Answer 3

Are you in high school or college? You may just be feeling overwhelmed with the structured schedule after the summer as most students are. How long have you been feeling this way. If it's been more than a couple of weeks, you may be experiencing depression and you need to visit your doctor and explain your symptoms, meanwhile, try to figure out what it causing you to feel so hopeless. I've experienced this more than once and it was a combo of things that were going on in my life and I felt like I couldn't deal with it; I was self-destructive and you don't want to get to that point. Let someone you trust know how you feel and see a doctor. Things are not as bad as they may seem, but when you are depressed, you may feel as though nothing can be done.

Answer 4

Maybe you just need to stop looking at all the negatives in life, and start turning to the positive side. Try to stop thinking of sad things during class so you won't get that lump, instead concentrate on what you are doing. Participate on sports or outdoor activities so you might be able to feel stress free and feel the warnth of the sun again.

Answer 5

i have the same problem of the first thing you said. no friends in classes can be really stressing. first what you need to do is find a way to stay in touch with your friends. dont just put them aside. sit with them at lunch, arrange to go play tennis or go shopping. what you need to do is figure out what is making you cry and then try to fix it. if that doesnt work talk to a counsler or read a good book or your friends. you will be amazed about how many options there are out there. try yoga to relieve the stress. when yuo feel like crying do this.....breathe in for 5 seconds....hold for 5 seconds....let out for 5 seconds. do that five times. or think of something really happy.... hope i helped.

good luck and god bless

Answer 6

You need to go see a MD ASAP! You sound very depressed,, maybe medical intervention and a good Anti Depressent would help you cope?
And honey, a lot of this is called "growing pains", which we have all gone through,, , you will work out all the kinks in a couple of weeks and make new friends.. Have faith and dont sweat the small stuff! I wish you luck!

Answer 7

Please speak with your parents if you can to tell them how you feel or a guidance councelor at school. Depression is something that can be treated but left untreated it will get worse. You need to be examined my a medical professional with a background in mental health - either a licenced clinical social worker or psychiatrist. Remember your brain is just like any other organ in your body it can get out of balance and there are medications out there that can help you and therapy to get you on the road to recovery. Good luck and remember Jesus loves you.

Answer 8

Breaking the ice and starting to talk to someone can be very difficult. Someone you've never spoken to before can seem big and scary. Here are some ways of getting people talking that I've figured out.

Be polite
If you want people to like you and want to get to know you, politeness helps a lot. I'm not saying you should suck up to them, but treat them with respect. There's a trend for being rude these days that comes from the movies and TV. It's fun to watch, but that's not how the real world works. When Clint Eastwood is rude and nasty, it's fascinating - when you're rude or nasty, you're just someone who's not worth having anything to do with. Everyone knows what you're supposed to do to be polite - put it into practice and you'll go far with making new friends.

If it's someone you've seen before, say "hello"
It's amazing how many people will be in the same office, same school or on the same bus for years and never speak. Simply say "hi" to a person you see regularly and you'll move from being a stranger towards being a friend.

Practice shy confidence
While shyness and confidence are obviously opposites, you can combine them in opening conversation to great effect. Be confident in forcing yourself to speak to the person in question, but be shy as in letting them know that you respect them enough to worry about their reply. Most people will either try to bowl the other person with their confidence, thus putting them off, or never speak to them in the first place.

The trick is to combine the two approaches. Simply speaking up with a quite "How are you?" will break the ice. Then continue with shy respectful conversation. Most people aren't mean enough to reject a politely shy approach.

Ask questions
This is an old technique, but it works well. As you don't know the person very well, you don't want to pry into anything too personal to begin with. Just keep it friendly and respectful, don't go into interrogation mode. Look for something about them to ask which is likely to receive more than just a yes or no answer - "I like your watch, where did you get it?", "Are you guys busy up there at the moment?", "Do you work in the city?", "Did you watch the tennis last night?".

What you're really looking for is something you have in common that you can leverage a conversation from. Here's an example of a man starting a conversation with a woman at work.

Frank: Hi there, how's it going?
Mary: Fine thanks.
Frank: Your team seems pretty busy these days. I've seen you all rushing around like anything.
Mary: Yeah, we've got the auditors in at the moment.
Frank: Oh, I think they're coming our way next. They're being difficult are they?
Mary: You wouldn't believe it. I've been here until eight every night this week.
Frank: That's no good. Any advice for getting ready for them?

Don't worry too much if someone isn't immediately friendly back to you
Everyone gets nervous when talking to someone they don't know very well. Sometimes we react badly even if we don't mean to. If someone is a bit blunt with you, acts strangely, or seems disinterested the first couple of times you speak to them, don't worry too much. They're probably just nervous and need to get used to the idea that you're just being friendly. Give them a bit of space and time to think it over and often they'll come around. You'll be surprised how often such people soon earn respect for you when you continue being friendly with them.

Realize that not everyone is interested in being your friend
Some people are never going to be your friend no matter how hard you try. That's just their loss. They're probably like that with almost everyone anyway, so don't take it personally. If someone is continually rude to you when you're trying to be nice, just shrug your shoulders and move on. While it may be tempting to get revenge, it often isn't even worth doing so. Rude people usually don't get ahead in their personal relationships. Their nastiness is probably much more damaging to them than it will ever be to you.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are depressed which isn't based on a particular reason. It just is. There are medications which can really help for this. That would give you a head start in dealing with life.

Answer 10

To fix up this friendship, I suggest you ask her straight out what you did to deserve this. She seems pretty childish to be acting this way if you didn't do anything to her. It sounds like you may be better off without her. I know it doesn't seem this way now, but I'm sure all will work out. After all everything happens for a reason! :D