Problem With My Gf?

Question

im in my junior year of highschool and i have a morning double period with my gf. there was recently an opening in an advanced singing class that you have to try out for. i want to try out for it but it would mean that i would have to leave my double period class with her. she tells me not too do it and that she would consider breaking up with me over it.
i need help because i love her alot but i really love singing as well

Answer 1

IF she was worth your time she would keep your best interests at heart. I can understand her not wanting you to leave, but threatening to break up with you is a little too far. Tell her to go to hell.

Answer 2

Oh no no no.....never let anyone corner you or force you to give up anything good for you just because THEY think theyre more important. YOu should break up with her TODAY. A real gf would never do that. NO threats No! NO! NO! she should really be happy for you to audition and make it. She should be telling you how great you are and awesome it would be for this chance.....you two could work out another time to get together anyway if she WANTED to. She should be telling you how she will really miss class together but understands how at this time singing is so important that she encourages you to try. And how proud she'd be if you made it! This sounds like her excuse to dump you. its really a lame way. Someone who truely loves you always wants what is best for you NOT them. your happiness comes first. She is way to possessive and you will eventually see that too. its a shame she will probably do that in all her relationships until she realizes shes wrong....she needs to get a life and grow up some. good luck with the singing....its a wonderful talent only a few people truely have. it will bring you much joy.......your gf is a petty jealous immature little girl who doesnt deserve you....move on and up!

Answer 3

That is a mighty shabby ultimatum for her to lay on you and would be well advised to think about how she is using her control over you. You also might think that if she can blackmail you like this, then she can manipulate you to do whatever she wants and in all likelihood would break up with you whenever and whatever you did, if it didn't agree with her. If you give in to this ludicrous deal, not only are you depriving yourself of something you really like doing, which is in your best interests, but you will be opening yourself up to be royally whipped when encountering any future relationships with any female that you will have. This girl is a self serving spoiled brat who doesn't seem to want to support you or has no regards for you becoming a better person by furthering your all important education. You need to figure out the real reason why you are in school to begin with. You're certainly not there to contend with her stupid emotional problems that are hindering you and keeping you from making something of yourself. So don't let her "problem" become your "problem". Have some backbone and don't cave into her childish demands or you will forever be under her thumb where you'll live to regret it. Girls like her are a dime a dozen and come and go like the wind. Opportunities, like the one that is being offered to you, are a one shot deal and may neve present themselves ever again. Take the class like you know you want to do, and that you know that you should, because if you miss out on this opportunity you'll end up regretting that as well!

Answer 4

if she really loved you then she would want you to be happy and want what was best for you. You and her would find ways to be with eachother at other times. If she wants you then she will respect your decision; however, if you do take that singing class and she leaves you then I would consider it over anyways. I would personally tell you to join the class 'cause you may not get another opportunity like that, but you can always hang out with the girl. Maybe, so she knows you love her... set up a special date time a certain time every week so she knows how special she is to you. If she is stubborn enough to not allow you to follow your singing dream, then she most likely will break up with you either way. I know it's tough and I'm sorry. She should understand, just be patient with her.

Answer 5

You are in high school and the statistic is you wont marry this chick and if you did it more than likely wouldn't last. So try out the worst thing that can happen is that you will end up staying with her. She is selfish for wanting you to hold back.If she is willing to threaten your realationship then she isn't worth your time. Look out for your best interest, if you think that singing is something you enjoy and want to pursue its really nice to have on your transcripts especailly if you transfer to a major college. The more advanced classes you have the better off you will be.

Answer 6

It's like this - anybody who TRULY loves you would want you to be happy doing things that are both good for you and which will also make you happy.

It might be painful (since she's obviously being manipulative), but it's better to know this now rather than later. Doesn't mean you HAVE to break up...but you don't HAVE to not pursue things in life to keep her from breaking up with you.

Besides; you are still in high school...your mission in life, right now, should be doing whatever it takes for YOU to become a great adult when the time comes...if that's taking a class or whatever...then do it.

If she truly loves you, she will understand.

Answer 7

oh no, hey, I love my boyfriend and he's gone a lot cuz he races road bikes, right. I miss him, but I don't want to control him because he's old enough to control himself and I am not his mother and I don't get off on controlling his life. That's not love, dude, that's fear, your gf is insecure, she's afraid, and you know, if you give up your passion to sing she'll find some other way in the future to control you, make you cut your hair, make you get a job and spend your money, make you sit home when she doesn't want to go out, she'll stop at nothing dude. Or, you'll give up your passion and she'll dump you because she won't have any respect for you. Don't let her push you around by making threats and emotionally sabotaging your relationship. What? she going to hold you hostage? For how long?
all I got to say is ewwww, sounds bad.
respect yourself, and maybe she'll get the hint that she's got to respect you too.

Answer 8

Wow, that is harsh and a lot of stress for you buddy. Have you told her how you felt about singing? Like how it may be a passion for you?

I would reassure to ur gf that u aren't going anywhere. I mean you only plan to try out this class. If she truly loved you as they say, she would respect ur decision to pursue what interests you.

I hope this helps and really sorry to hear this situation has occurred to you :(. Good luck to you as well.

Answer 9

Go for the singing class honey. Girls are a dime a dozen...going into an advanced class that like may only happen once. If she cared about you as much as you seem to care about her, she would support you in whatever you wanted to do...not tell you she would break up with you if you did it.

Answer 10

I feel that a real girlfriend wouldn't even ask u 2 choose between a thing like that. She should b understanding and support whatever it is that u want to do. I know u see her more times than jus n that class so she shouldn't even b mad. If she wants to break up with u over somethin like that, then she isn't worth it.

Answer 11

go for the singing. if she is going to break up with you becasue you are following your passion, that is not love. I mean it would be different if you were a touring musician, and were going to be going on a tour or something right after you just got home from one that might be understandable, but this is one period in HIGH SCHOOL. it may hurt cuz you have deep feelings for her, but if this is how shes treating you now, things are bound to get stickier, which means the greater the hurt. follow your true passion.