If I feel Im spiritually bogged down by my other half, what is the best way to deal with it without having to hurt the other person or ask them to change or get better etc?
I love him too much to either let go of him or detach from him.
2007-09-04 13:54:03 · 12 answers · asked by Antares 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If your partner is pulling you down spiritually, you are going to have to counter that by devoting extra time and attention to your spiritual well-being. Seek the fellowship of those of like spirituality more often, spent more time in meditation and seeking out whatever source you avail yourself for spiritual "food", and refuse to give in to the negative pull of your partner.
You are wise not to ask your partner to "change or get better" to be more in line with you spiritually, and you would be wise also not to project your spirituality onto him, either. There is no surer way of "turning someone off" than to try to "convert" him/her. On the other hand, don't "turn off" your spirituality when you are around him, either, because that is not being true to yourself or him. Your spirituality will get stronger as you feed and exercise it, and it is this spirituality that will enable you to be honest, patient, and positive with your partner.
2007-09-04 14:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by transplanted_fireweed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you are willing to do. I know you say you won't let go or detach, which is fine... but what are you willing to do for your own spirituality? Maybe take the time to be alone, meditate? Or find a group near you where you can spend time working on your spirituality without having to bother your other half (or leave him). There are ways to keep your own spirituality growing without leaving your other half. My husband is a Deist and doesn't even discuss religious or spiritual ideas (unless I'm reading some outrageous question on here lol), but he certainly doesn't do anything religious. My son is only 17 and is just now starting on his path, so it's not an equal thing between us as he looks to me more as a teacher in this than an equal or friend helping with the path. I find ways to keep my own spirituality growing without bothering either one of them... usually talking with a friend, attending a ritual with a local group once in a while... even coming on here, sometimes I get lucky and find a question or two that makes me think about my own beliefs a little deeper (or to re-evaluate them). Sometimes we simply need to clear or own minds and hearts and take an objective look at where we stand... looking at our stance without bias is hard, but it's well worth it in the end. ^_^
2007-09-04 21:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by River 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
clear the question up, is he bogging you down or is your spiritual awareness the thing being bogged down, and please explain what it's being bogged down by, is he a bible thumper, athiest. what are you guyses religions, and how do they differ on a grand scale, if you truely love your other half, exept that person for who he/she is and explain that to them that you respect their beliefes, but you do believe something different aand he/she should respect your beliefs as well.
2007-09-04 21:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by midnitepoets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The interesting thing is that God will use the defeciencies in our spouses to strengthen the weaknessess in our own character. As humans we just want to escape from the inconvenience of having to be matured whne in reality that God's way s the necessary way.
2007-09-04 21:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever seen that episode of the Brady Bunch where Peter draws a line down the center of the room so that Bobby will get lost.
Go do that.
Or get a divorce.
I don't know, what am I? Your shrink?
2007-09-04 20:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your spirituality is within yourself; not dependent nor effected by outside of yourself, unless you allow it. Maybe that is what God is trying to show you.
2007-09-04 21:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by expertless 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pray for him. Let the Lord handle this.
2007-09-04 21:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to love
and love and love
forgive and forgive
endless
but always should make the other feels and knows that there is right and wrong
and he or she must know that there is right ands wrong
and should to call what is right right and to do it
2007-09-05 09:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't change a person either live with it or move on
2007-09-04 20:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Andre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
empathy
understand why he is the way he is , what your life together can teach you , what you can teach him ........
and love unconditionally
take from the relationship , dont let it destroy it
2007-09-04 21:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋