Since my father passed, of course I was naturally sad. I still am incredibly sad, but now I'm starting to feel angry with him. I'm angry that he didn't take care of his health. I'm angry that instead of eating healthily like all of us kept asking him to, he chose instead to keep eating junk. I feel angry that the doctors couldn't fix his heart before going into cardiac arrest. I'm angry that I can't talk to him anymore. I'm angry that I'm so sad and feeling so "weak" for feeling this way. It's like I'm angry at the world. This isn't like the other deaths. The other ones I was like a mindless robot. This one it's like I'm fully aware of everything, but fully helpless and unable to "block" these feelings. How many stages of grief are there and do people typically go through them in order or is it varied?
2007-09-04 13:47:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Being MAD & ANGRY...its all a process you must go through...some people go through grief in different ways...You are acting like a person who has lost someone,they loved very much, nothing else.
If Ya want to talk...you know where I am
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2007-09-04 13:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kerilyn 7 · 8⤊ 2⤋
What? Have none of the answers watched a baseball game? LOL There is no "fourth base". It's called a Home Run!. So much for the hopes for the younger generation taking over... j/k
2016-04-03 03:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is a normal part of grieving. the worst part is kind of knowing you got a legitimate case for your hurt and riding it. I was only able to get rid of my anger by going to confession (a catholic)after leaving a string of people twisting in the wake of my wrath but that wasn't until about a year after the death of my Dad. I felt like a ton of weigh was lifted off me and my anger was gone instantly. If your faith does not have such a thing or counseling you might want to try calling the hospital and asking them for info on any support groups or call something like the United Way. They can help you work though your grief.
2007-09-04 14:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Love you, PM. Had no idea. I just knew that I missed you and rarely heard from you like I used to. There are basic stages of grief as mentioned in the Ross model (DABDA) but everyone, and I mean EVERYone, grieves differently.
Your anger is healthy. Don't try to block it and don't try to block any other emotions that overwhelm you. Just try to do deal with them as best as possible. It is good that you're fully aware this time because now you've allowed yourself a chance to get some relief. You must remember one thing - be kind to yourself. You loved your father immensely. We all go through stages of grief that may seem 'wrong' or 'selfish' to us but they aren't; they are a healthy way of expressing all the emotions that come of grief. Don't allow yourself to get caught in a wheel of guilt. Your father loves you and would want nothing more than to see you kiss his grandchildren and live a beautiful life with your family. In this way you are already a testament to him.
Much love, kiddo. I'm so sorry. I cannot imagine.
*Aside to Eagle Woman - Never be ashamed. What you did was out of love, no matter how you look at it. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss as well.
2007-09-04 14:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by Thrice-Baked the Third 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
The stages of grief identified are:
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
2007-09-04 13:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by chersa 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Mercy and comfort for you and your family at this time of grief. No one can give you a formula. I lost my father when I was twenty six, and I lost my husband last year. There were very few similarities in my stages of grief, or I would gladly share them with you. I do know anger is a very normal stage. I am ashamed to say I actually walked back into my husbands hospital room and yelled at him for leaving me. Blessings to you and yours.
2007-09-04 15:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by One Wing Eagle Woman 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I'm really sorry to hear of your loss. Though it might sound a bit heartless, you can not let your grief consume you any further. What's happened has happened and no amount of grieving is going to change it. At some point you need to take charge of yourself and stop the anger. If you can't, then you should seek counseling. If you're not careful it will consume you.
2007-09-04 13:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
Al sallamu alaikum
I am sorry about your loss, but I remind you of surah 3 verse 154, which tells us that wherever we are if it is our time, death will strike us and that was his time. Even if he was the most healthy eater, he would have died.
Surah 3:185: everyone shall taste death...
Surah 4:78. wherever you are death will overtake you, even if you are in fortresses built up strong and high .
No point being angry at your dad. He has no control over what hapened. God wanted him and that is what will be.
As far as feelings are concerned, I think you will always remeber and miss them. My grandmother died 2 years ago and I always remember and miss her. My dad 9 years ago and I always remeber him and my grandpa too.
2007-09-04 15:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by swd 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like it.....thinks it's the third....first is bargaining with God, second is denial, third is anger, fourth is depression, and the last is acceptance.
I am so so sorry for your loss....I have been there countless times myself (both parents, grandparents, my son, etc.) Be blessed....grief takes time and it is an indiviual experience.
Edit: I put bargaining first because if someone you know is dying usually we will bargain and try to pray to God to stop them from dying (ex: I'll be better if you just make my dad get better.....I promise I wont _____ if you just heal my father.....Take me, I'd rather die than my dad, etc)
2007-09-04 13:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Freedspirit 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
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2016-01-26 12:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋