I work at a Licensed day care, and since it is State Licensed we are not allowed to put children in timeout. Instead we have to use a method called "positive redirecting." Which means if Little Johnny is jumping on top of the table, we take him down and say "its not nice to jump on the table. how about we play with trucks instead?" If you know anything about children you would know that with stubborn children this theory will not work.
I am so suprised that it is now against state law to put a child in timeout. The only thing positve redirecting is teaching them is that there isn't any consiquence for their actions.
So what do you think? Are you for or against timeout?
Parents, how would you feel if you went into your childs daycare and seen him/her in time out?
What if your child was being bullied repeatedly and all that happened to the bully was "positve redirecting?"
I would really love to hear the imput of parents. Thank you.
2007-09-04 13:43:37 · 13 answers · asked by truecountrygirl2006 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I can't believe that is a state law..I do think that children under 2 are to young to understand time out but over 2.....I would expect my son to sit in time out for bad behavior. The goverment wants to regulate our lives to much....now our children can't sit in chairs for 2 mins. I am sorry why is that not allowed?
2007-09-04 15:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am for TimeOuts. If you reward a child for behaving badly the child learns that he gets something for behaving badly. So, what do you end up with but an unruly child! Timeouts and loss of privelidges shows them there are consequences to their actions. If someone shot a guy, the state wouldn't redirect him to the movies. They would arrest him and put him in prison.
If I picked my kid up at school and found she was in a time out, I would want to know what she did that deserved the time out. And it would be an issue I'd adress at home. Now, if she didn't do something that warranted a time out and was in a time out, I might be upset. But there are clear guidlines the children at daycares have to follow, and if they broke a rule then, I feel they should be put in a time out according to how old they are. (3 year olds, 3 minutes, etc.)
I think that avoiding the issues and rewarding these children are just molding our future inmates... or maybe just nasty selfish people.... Either way, its not how to teach a kid right from wrong.
2007-09-04 20:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Puddle Pirate Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that positive redirecting is good for kids 2 and a half and under. (Too young to really GET what a time out is).
After that point, I think time outs are great and work well if used properly.
All of these stupid state laws and rules are the problem with today's kids. I mean come on no time out! Oh and don't forget no "exclusion games" like dodgeball, or musical chairs, cuz the kids that are out feel bad.
We are no longer teaching our kids consequences or what is feels like to lose. I don't feel that I was traumatized by being "out" in musical chairs.
Oh, I could go on and on....
2007-09-04 20:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by pru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you--time out is proven (in the psych literature anyway) to work and positive redirecting (although it can work) is less reliable and effective. The problem is that state run programs are subject to idiotic legislators having a say in how they are run--idiotic because they are not at home with a 2 year old (much less 9 two-year olds!). They think it sounds nicer to use positive redirecting and they don't have to deal with the consequences, so for them it's a win-win situation. Good luck. I think you should follow your instincts and do what's best for the kids.
2007-09-05 01:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Corozal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i`m a (spare the rod, spoil the child) person my self, yes i know that does`nt help you at all, personally if my child was acting up i`d give you permission to bust their butt, no questions asked. if i seen them in a (timeout) i`d be ashamed my kid acted up in the first place. you might take away the childs favorite activity,(such as the trucks,crayons).yeah they`ll cry and say you`re mean, or you could make the child go play by themself, (if their being mean to others, they don`t deserve to play with the others). i don`t know the restrictions placed on you by the state but i hope you do find away to resolve this. best of luck
2007-09-04 21:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by crypt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad I don't work in your state. If Johnny is jumping on a table, I will probably redirect him. But if Johnny hits Susie, I will positively be redirecting his butt into a chair.
2007-09-04 20:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by curiousgirl07 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I use time out regularly but I also take away favorite toys for a short time and put the toy in time out it helps I don't think that would be against state regs...
2007-09-04 22:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by LadyJadra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am completely for time out, what is wrong with it? It doesn't hurt children in anyway. Now I think you do Have to do time out right though, you can't just stick them in time out every time they do something you don't like. Like give them a warning the first time and tell them what they did wrong and tell them if they do it again they will get time out. Then when they get out of time out tell them why they were in time out.
2007-09-04 21:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am for time out, especally since its what we use in our home, and there should be consistancy in dicipline both at home and in daycare. I can't believe its really a state law!!! What state?
2007-09-04 20:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad I don't live in your state! Time outs work great in preschool, especially when they have to sit and watch all of their friends having fun.
2007-09-05 10:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jisdu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋