My bachelorette party is this weekend. We had mentioned a long time ago about going to a concert and then decided we'd rather just hang out and have a good time. One of my bridesmaids mom is also invited. I talked to her today and she said that her mom wants to go to a REO Speedwagon concert so they're gonna do that instead. It hurts my feelings more then anything that she is able to go and choosed to do something else. How would you feel about it?
2007-09-04 12:25:01 · 15 answers · asked by Heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
absolutely I'd be pissed. I'd feel like they didnt find my friendship more important than a stupid concert that is only one night. These are your memories at the bachelorette party
2007-09-04 12:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by mrs Gerard Butler 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
She is a bridesmaid and she should be there. I mean some things would be excusable (she's a Dr. and has to be on call that night, etc.), but to blow you off for a REO Speedwagon concert?!?!? I'd be upset and I would let her know it. Just do it nicely, you don't want to end a friendship over something she may not see as a big deal.
All I can say, is go out and have such a good time she is sorry she missed all the fun!
2007-09-04 19:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by zaleonia1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that THEY were going to go to a concert. Do you mean your bridesmaid and her mother, too. Cause I would be upset if my bridesmaid were going to a concert instead of my bachelorette party. But, if just the mother is going to REO speedwagon, then I think you should get over it.
2007-09-05 00:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd be hurt a bit at first, but keep in mind that your wedding is not as important to everyone else as it is to you. I've been invited to 17 weddings last year and this year alone!! I hate to admit it but after going to 10 showers and 10 bachelorette parties, I got pretty sick of it and didn't really care if I went to the others or not. (I know, that's bad!) Honestly if my favourite band was in town on the night of a hen party, I might be tempted to do that instead as well.
Maybe you and your friend can do something special on another evening. I'm sure she'd be interested in doing that instead.
2007-09-05 12:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had already set a date for your party, then it was incorrect of you bridesmaid to just "change her mind" and renig on a previous engagement simply because "something better" came along. However, if the concert trip had been planned in advance and you then chose a party date that conflicts with the concert date, it is the concert which is the previous engagement and you ought not to expect people to renig on previous engagements to attend your own events.
2007-09-05 09:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed off. It is your party. If they wanted to go to that concert, well now we all know concerts are announced MONTHS in advance. They should have perhaps asked you if you would be willing to make the concert part of your party. But it sounds like they are ditching you. I would be pissed. Then again maybe her mom is controlling or something and your friend didn't have much of a choice. Tell your friend how you feel, nicely, and see what her excuse is.
2007-09-04 19:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by my_son_wants_to_know 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have my feelings hurt. She could at least let her mom go alone and come without her. Or offer to meet up after the show. Just try to look at it like you will have way more fun with friends that actually want to be there!
Keep in mind that some people have very strange reactions to people they love getting married (along the lines of depression, jealousy, etc.) so maybe she just can't handle it right now.
Good luck!
2007-09-08 14:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by jennifersthegreatest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardles of whether it was for your bachelorette party or if you had just made plans, it is completely rude if someone agreed to attend and then decided to do something else. I would also be mad and you have every right for your feelings to be hurt. I would let her know how you feel.
2007-09-04 20:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your bridesmaid's actions ruin what should be one of the happiest times in your life. Take it on the chin and go have fun with your other bridesmaids, family and friends! Congrats!
2007-09-04 20:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by JG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel really terrible about it. She's one of your bridesmaids and she should be there. This was planned a while back so she shouldn't have made any plans. I would let her know that it hurts your feelings but you'll try and understand. Tell her that you just really wanted her to be there with you and it wouldn't be the same without her and leave it at that. hopefully, that would make her feel guilty. I know I would.
2007-09-04 19:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by ods 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋