About a year ago I met a young man and before I knew it we became best friends, we would always hang out, call eachother etc. I never saw him as more than a friend. Then he confessed to me that he liked me as more than just a friend and that's when I started to set a distance between me and him... Although we still spoke to eachother I was obviously not so interested anymore and it wasn't the same as before. And even though i said "no" he kept on insisting and I became annoyed and was pretty mean towards him. We stopped speaking to eachother for a while. Now I look back on how GREAT he was and regret saying "no" to him and now i'm too embarassed to tell him what I really feel, maybe HE'LL reject me now. I've tried calling him once, we had a short convo, nothing serious though... I couldn't tell if he still feels the same... I was hoping that after calling him maybe he would call back, but he hasn't. I don't know if I should call back or go see him or what?! Can someone help please?
2007-09-04 11:45:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would win this guy back. It's sweet that he liked you. You actually did the right thing by not falling for him at first. I made a mistake once with a friend that I liked. I started liking him right away. I didn't keep my distance from him like I should have so our friendship ended. I never even got the chance to be his this guys girlfriend. If I had of kept my distance from like you did with your guy I would have had this guy as my boyfriend. Win him back and do what ever it takes. It sounds like you both would have been cute together!! Good luck!!!
2007-09-12 11:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all of us could see the future, none of us would make any mistakes.You made a mistake once and you have the chance to correct it--no guarantees--you just take a chance.It is quite apparent that he was hurt by your refusal of his affection for you,as well as by your subsequent meanness towards him.I advise that you call him ,ask him how he is doing , then apologize for your meanness. If he accepts your apology in a gracious manner, then you can proceed with a personal conversation such as asking him if he was dating anyone special now.If the answer is yes, then say nothing about your new feelings unless he also indicates that his feelings for you are still there.But if the response is that he is not dating, then based on his tone and mannerisms, you can decide to tell him of your feelings and take a chance he is not a revenge type of guy. The ball, as they say, is clearly in your court and how you play it will determine if you win or not.Good luck to you.
2007-09-04 19:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just apologize to him for rejecting him and tell him how stupid you were for missing out on a great guy like him. Tell him he should give you chance. Tell him how much fun yall use to have together and you want to go back to how it use to be except that yall are going to be more then friends. Also that you don't want to hurt him like that again. You should do this in person, a hug wouldn't hurt or a kiss on the cheek ( since yall known each other for awhile). Make sure whatever you do or say has meaning, let him know how bad you want him.
Good luck on everything, and i really do hope he likes you back.
2007-09-04 18:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by What you believe, is what becomes = ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to his place and ask him out on a date. If he starts saying why and such, just tell him honestly "Ive been such a jerk! I didn't see it before but I realized that I do like you too and I was wondering if you would give me a chance and go to the movie with me?" If he says no, then you did lose your chance, if he says yes, then go out and have fun.
Be sure to have your plans ready and your money in your wallet. Show him that you have already planned this. Write down the movie times of different possible movies you may want to watch, or if you are going to dinner, pick a place ahead of time. He'll like that you have already made plans. Sometimes a guy need a break and would like the ladies to make the move.
2007-09-04 18:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by Pwincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he all you? You kicked him to the curb pretty hard when all he did was tell you he liked you. If I were him I would never talk to you again but if you want to try and be with him, you are gonna have to do all the work.
You rejected him and by your own admission you were not nice about it at all. Now you have changed your mind, come to your senses more likely, and you want him to come an call you. You want him to come back and act the way he did when he liked you. Well you might have put a permanent end to that and you must face that fact. He might not want anything to do with you now and that would be your own fault. Learn a lesson and prepare to move on....unless you are very lucky and persuasive.
2007-09-04 18:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to tell him. if you guys already have some distance between you, it won't be as weird as if you were best best friends. If you tell him that you regret saying no to him, and that you realize now what a great guy he is, and that you really like him, he'll have a hard time saying no. just make sure you point out that you were wrong, and that you are sorry for treating him badly when he told you how he felt. i hope this helps. good luck!!!
2007-09-04 18:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jordan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not seeing anyone, then he's still interested. Sigh. A typical "young man" is gonna have to get burned by girls like you before he gets the picture. If you keep burning them, you'll end up like most of the women in the personal pages. You don't want to be over 30, with kids, and looking for a husband, do you?
2007-09-04 18:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pufferoo has it right. You've got nothing to lose by being straight forward with him. The worse that can happen is he'll reject you like you rejected him. Keep that in mind and call him before too much time passes by and someone else comes along in his life.
You might be sorry you waited too long.
2007-09-04 18:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be your own helper and call him and tell him how you are feeling. This would be the best way to handle this situation. Then he will know the truth from your heart. Don't delay further. You were happy with him and he might just be hoping to hear from you again. It is possible that he has moved on , but you have nothing to lose. Do it soon.
2007-09-04 18:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by justclicktherubyslippers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit the nail on the head, no beating around the bush- Just talk to him. Rather than stressing out over it, just ask and stop wondering. He cared enoungh to answer ur phone call, right? Go for it, do't think about it, otherwise, you are going to be kicking urself around for not choosing to do otherwise. He is the only one that knows the answer. Now, go seek it. Good Luck and Take Care!
2007-09-04 19:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋