you above and beyond your limits, psychologically and mentally.
how can you get over this and forgive?
strikes me as impossible to do
2007-09-04 11:14:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I understand exactly how you feel. I've been there many times. People, even family can be mean and say the most cruel things. My way of dealing with it is:
1. Use the anger and hurt to motivate you to be the best that you can be.
2. Do things to better your life and become this amazing person.
3.Work on improving your self-esteem and self-confidence. Become as emotionally strong as you possibly can. Click my website below to learn how.
By doing the above, nothing or no one will be able to shake you. Whatever they say will just roll off your back like water on a duck. Give it a try!
2007-09-04 11:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to forgive them not just for them but for YOU.
Think of it this way; If you are still thinking about what they did, they STILL have some control over you.
So, take away that control by saying to yourself that the way they treated you was very wrong, but YOU can walk away from them. They must be very cruel people to treat others that way. But they can't get away from themselves. They have to live with themselves every day.
You're the lucky one.. Forgive them and feel sorry for them, because they must be so unhappy. Leave them behind and don't waste another moment even thinking about them.
Then go find people who treat you well and enjoy yourself. You know the old saying 'Living well is the best revenge!!'
Good luck!
2007-09-04 18:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know...it's hard to forgive when they don't ask for forgiveness.And if you act like it didn't matter what they did to you in the past...they think it's ok and didn't matter and ok to keep doing it. Makes you feel like your life doesn't matter. There are some things I can forgive and other things I can't . Sometimes even if they say sorry...it's not enough. Maybe if they cry it helps. (Makes you wonder how Jesus can forgive humans for what they did it Him...and to his friends) (at least I wonder about it) They say that forgiveness is more to help the victim than the person who did it to them...and I can see how that can be true...but it doesn't make it possible. A minister told me to pray that God will forgive them. I told him, "They didn't hurt God..they hurt ME !!!!!!!"Anyway..that's why I take risperdal for PTSD . You're not alone in this.P.S. There's stuff that happens in life..and there's STUFF that changes your life forever. Hopefully ....the STUFF (big stuff) hasn't happened to you and never will. It's like the person you were disappears...and even the very worst big things that ever happened to you in the past seem minor. At least in those days...you were yourself. I miss ME. Those people destroyed Me. I'm sorry...this is supposed to be about YOU....not me. I hope you are able to overcome your problem. Obviously, I haven't overcome mine.
2007-09-04 18:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by Deenie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to forgive yourself. This may sound strange but you are hurting because you can't forgive others unless you forgive yourself. Many times we turn hate or anger towards us as a sign there is probably something (bad) about us that is off the scale. Just remember the prayer:
God grant me the serenity to except the things I cannot change. Change the things I can and the Wisdom to know the difference.
2007-09-04 18:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by mary 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been through a lot in my 53 yrs. alcoholic abusive dad, husband committed suicide, and more, lots of illness.
I am making it, but I have had to have antidepressants at times.
There is help out there for everyone. Counseling, therapy. and some through the state and low income.
I have forgiven my dad, until I see him do something again, and I stay away for a while. There is no way to avoid and grief my husband death 18 months ago, I still see his face,
I was always love him and remember him.
If you are needing help please seek some, start with regular Dr. and get info and then go from there, you have to tough it out.
There are also lots of support groups on line and I am a member of one for suicide survivors, who has lost a spouse.
2007-09-04 18:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by lana s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what it feels like. I was literally tormented through out elementary and junior high school. I was suicidal at 10 years old. I went through sexual abuse, spousal abuse, self abuse, and some really horrid things. I spent a few years in counseling working through the fear, anger, and pain, and am much better off today. I was able to learn to forgive, and treat others as I want to be treated. It wasn't easy, but so worth it and so freeing. Good luck to you.
2007-09-04 20:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think beyond your present dreams, to the dreams you will have once they've already come true.
And when you can clearly see that life and those dreams in your mind's eye; how confident you will walk and how proud you will feel--Start walking and feeling like that today.
Thoughts become things....choose the good ones!
2007-09-05 07:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by TropyWife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember, that the Lord says, if we don't forgive them, He won't forgive us...to err is human, to forgive is divine...if you can find it in your heart to do this, you are so far above the ones who did it to you, it is unbelievable, and the Lord will smile on you forever and ever
2007-09-04 20:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't worry so much about forgiving because maybe they don't even deserve it but don't let it cloud your judgment of people when you meet them, even if they remind you of someone in your past
2007-09-04 19:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just have positive thoughts in mind and just have confendences in your life and just be positive and just live a little
and just liven it up
2007-09-04 18:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by ♥wh♥tஐAre♥U♥Lஐஐking?ஐALEXANDRAஐஐ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋