I have a 2 year old boy who we are having trouble with. He seems to be a VERY strong willed little boy. He just doesn't listen to me. If we are out in public, he will run around, refuses to hold my hand or sit in the cart. Even if I strap him in, he will scream and cry all the way thru the store. If we are out eating dinner, he will crawl underneath the table and try to get out. At home he flushes things down the toliet (luckily I am married to a plumber), climbs the counters. You name it, he's probably done it. If you tell him not to do something, he will do it anyway. I have tried standing him in a corner, putting him on the couch in time out, smacking his hands and I have even spanked him. He's not horrible ALL the time, but he sure does have his moments. I am at my wits end and I just don't know what to do. I don't go grocery shopping with him anymore and we can't go out to eat with him either. Does anyone have any suggestions?
2007-09-04 10:44:56 · 7 answers · asked by Candy B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
There's a book that I read before I became a parent (I read it for helping in the classroom, as I used to teach elementary school). It's a great book, and has a ton of ideas on how to handle specific behaviors. I've linked the website in the 'source' section, but check it out at the library first, to see if it will help you. It's called "Parenting with Love and Logic."
Basically, for every situation, there is a logical consequence for their action. You, as the parent, become the one that ensures a consequence for the behavior, but you do it in a kind and sympathetic way. Your most important role is consistency.
Two is a little bit young for this kind of parenting, but it's wonderful advice for parents of three and up, and may give you a head start on how to handle specific behaviors now.
For example, if you are in a public place and need your child with you, you give him a choice of walking next to you or riding in the stroller. If he can handle walking next to you without running off, then great. If not, the consequence is riding in the stroller. It's his choice. You, as the parent, will just have to ignore the tantruming and screaming. The next time you give a choice, he'll understand what will happen if he runs off. If you're consistent and don't give in to tantrums (regardless of the nasty looks from strangers that you're bound to get), he'll eventually 'get it' and will understand his choices and their logical consequences. (Personal advice: plan on 'practicing' at places where it's not a big deal to have a screaming toddler, and where you know you can keep your visit short).
~Kyanna
2007-09-04 11:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kyanna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a 2 year old, time out is the most appropriate. You must first designate a "time out" spot, not a place with his toys and take him by the hand and place him there. When he walks away take him back. At two, he should have 2 minutes. Start the time all over every time time he walks away. Even though your patience wears thin, keep putting him back in the spot even if you have to hold him there. He has to respect what you are doing. Make sure throughout the day you are praising your child for the good things he does. If you keep this up he will get it. You have to be consistent! Click below to learn more about discipline.
2007-09-04 11:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grocery stores are very boring for kids and us adults don't wanna spend all day in there either you can try to make the grocery store a fun experience when you going to the grocery store ask your son if he would like to help you with the shopping you can keep him busy and he can pick out the things in the isle that you point to if getting him out of the shopping cart scares you make him a "list" of grocerys and while he sits in cart you can have him "check" (or scribble) the items off try to include him some way it wont feel so boring and will keep him busy.He could be wanting more one on one time play dates with other kids at parks or just a nice play date in yard for a couple of hours fresh air and running around will do wonders.Hope this helps alittle atleast.Good luck :)
2007-09-04 16:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 2 2 year old do these things
2007-09-04 10:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have that same problem with my nephew. when he starts yelling at us we turn around and yell right back at him. we also have a sticker chart if he goes all day with out yelling he gets a sticker and if he has 4 stickers he gets to go for a ride in the car.
2007-09-04 11:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by favorite_aunt24 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
terrible 2's thats how they will act they are just testing you to see what you will stand
2007-09-04 10:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL what a joke!! I'd get super nanny round your house!!
2007-09-04 10:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by wondergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋