we've known eachother for a week now, and talk to eachother at least 3 hours a day on msn .
i need to know if he's only going to use me for his own pleasure... what should i do?.. please help! :(
2007-09-04 10:07:25 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, DON'T PANIC!!! Just breath and take control of yourself. Legally you are a minor and he an adult already. But that doesn't mean he is a pervert trying to rape you! You simple can not live being paranoid about all adults! You have to trust every one, but at the same time BE ON GARD, without giving occasion for anything out of your control.
Just tell him that now you don't have the time to meet him, and that your parents would like to know who is him.
Don't give him your address or telephone numbers. of course.
If you keep on talking to him only at the MSN nothing bad can happen, and at the same time you will be learning about relations with boys and men. Later, when you'll be 18 or 21 or even older, the problem will be the same: someone can talk you into doing something bad or leading you to not good situations: old people also get raped!
So, LEARN HOW TO HANDLE GUYS!. And for that, YOU HAVE TO BE COOL, STRONG AND ABLE. Talking with guys like this will give you the experience and knowledge to handle those situations with clarity and strenght. Otherwise, you only get very nervous, insecure, and full of fears, unable to control your self and the situations you might be in. So, don't just start running away! Don't let other people scare you! Face any situation and be able to control anything. Don't worry, Any moment, you can have support from many people. Or just stop communication with him or any other one.
Consider also that somehow you are attracted by his talk. Which can mean that you are already a more mature person, looking for more adult relations, out of only sexual meanings. That is good!. And that he also likes talking to you as a person, and not only one looking for a dumb little girl to use sexually. So, learn from all this. Mainly to not being afraid, to be the master of your own life. You will have to make all decisions in your life: So, be calm, cool, and strong. And enjoy life, not just be paranoid about everyone. That's not living at all, at any age.
Anytime, you can contact me for more support at mynwbeings@yahoo.com. Lilly Nhu. The Countess Palace of Wisdom.
2007-09-04 10:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lilly Nuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh how I wish that I was 15 again and know what I know now. The answer is YES!!!! he is only interested in sex. He is going to be of legal drinking age shortly while you will still be in high school. What happens next??? Let me tell you. He gets too busy going to the bars and parties with his friends. He doesn't have time for you. Then the only time he does have for you is when he fails to pick up some random girl at a bar for sex. He's horny, he knows you want to be with him. He calls and tells you everything he thinks you want to hear just to get what he wants. Then you don't see or hear from him again for weeks. Honey stay away from older guys. You are underage. He could go to prison for starting a sexual relationship with you. You WILL GET HURT. Be kind, but DO NOT go out with this guy. He seems a little shady to even be considering going out with a 15yr old. DON'T TRUST HIM!!!
2007-09-04 10:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't be attentive to approximately regulations interior the united kingdom, yet right here interior the US that's against the regulation for a 20 year old to even KISS a 15-year old. Any form of relationship like that ought to get you charged with sexual attack of a minor. If sixteen is the criminal age for females there, then wait till she turns that age to do something different than per danger communicate. you should focus on the regulation to shield your self.
2016-10-09 23:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine why a twenty year old man would want to hand out with a 15 year old girl. There is a big difference in those ages. The fact that he doesn't have a GF his own age or friends his own age, tells me that he is probably a loser.
Lot's of older guys go out with younger girls because younger girls are more impressed with them that their own peers.
Since you asked, I think it is weird and it is also illegal!
2007-09-04 10:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NUMBER ONE: He's too old. Even if you don't have sex, him going with you IS NOT RIGHT, honey. Most likely because he's 20, YES he is probably wanting you cuz you're a fresh young thang, you know? DO NOT DO IT. Do NOT go against your better judgemnet. if you're already thinking it, then he's already given you the vibes. You're still young and unexperienced and even if you're not he still has 5 years ON you. Stay away from this one, PLEASE!!! I'm sure he's a nice guy but no real 20 year old wants anything serious with a minor. YOU ALREADY KNOW, so stay away from him.
2007-09-04 10:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be negative but problably you already answered your own question. Probably the guys around your age aren't talking to you for hours and hours like this 20 y.o. but that is because they are actually talking to other girls face to face. I know you probably enjoy talking to this guy but as you probably sensed already it's not a good match. Start to cut back and try something different. Good luck!
2007-09-04 10:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anthonylikes2...☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that he is on the level with what he tells you? He might be a Pervert or Child Molester, and you think he is telling you the truth. If I was you I would report him to the proper Authorities, because guys like him are looking for girls that are young and vulnerable. Do you have Parents? and if so, tell them that this guy wants to know you, and they would know what to do with him. I hope he gets what he deserves. Do you really think you are the only one, he is chatting with? He must be doing the same thing to other Girls.
2007-09-04 10:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you young girls today, do you relize how you met this guy ready INTERNET it is a make believe world on here you can be anyone you want, do you not pay attention to tv shows or news where little girls go online and meet up with these not so friendly people and they either get raped or they get killed, i think your mom should ban you from using the computer
2007-09-04 10:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by CORONA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is way too old for you. A man that age will not care about your feelings he will lie to you over and over again! Whatever you do don't talk to him sexual big no no! There is nothing wrong with having him as a friend. Just be cautious my friend had a baby at 16 so please think about all you say and do with this male friend!
2007-09-04 10:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by 2cute4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. tell your parents
2. don't talk to this guy any more
does he want sex from you. yes. definatly.
the big thing here is that he may be doing this to a lot of other girls too. your parents need to know so they can get the police involved and get this wack job put into jail!
2007-09-04 10:15:53 · answer #10 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋