so my guy and i have been seeing eachother since mid-june. Basically our "relationship" has been based on sex and i was fine with it. Now i have really began to like him and fall for him and i don't know how to tell him i want more. Lately we've been cuddling/watching movies but everytime we see eachother we have to have sex, we just cant "hang out". it was a FWB relationship but iwant more. We see eachother 2-3 times a week, call eachother "babe" and "hun" and are really affectionate to eachother. But the thing im scared of is he is embarressed of me. Im overweight and he only has me over when his roommates are in bed or not home. Once his roommate came home when i was over and he locked me in his room til he left. And whenever i have an empty place for the night he will stay for a few hours and go home, he wont sleep over. He makes werid excuses and says "next time". But everytime he makes a new excuse. What should i do? should i tell him how i feel or just end it? i really like him.
2007-09-04 09:58:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well ladies...thanks for all the advise...
we had a talk tonight and he doesnt want a relationship. He says he likes what we have and that its not going to change. He kept saying if i wasnt happy then he would understand if i wanted to find someone else. that killed me. I really like him but i cant keep doing what were doing. I JUST WANT A MORE!..
His exact quote when i said all i want it us to just make it a relationship was...
"ultimately, we're not gonna have what you want. so you need to figure out if you're fine with that."
But the best thing was when i said im just fed up with everything he goes.."Well do u just wanna brake up then?''
I was like I THOUGHT WERE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP! (i think he got alittle nervous when i yelled)
He said that we've been "together" all along and he wants to leave it that way.
I dont get wats the dif from "together" to "relationship"....ITS ONLY A TITLE...
ahhh but thanks for the help!
2007-09-04 20:42:19 · update #1
One thing to keep in mind...
Women give sex to get love.
Men give love to get sex.
As long as you remember that, you'll be fine.
Your relationship with this guy started with sex, and stopped there. Move on honey, he's never going to think of you as anything else.
Wow - I just re-read this and really studied it -
HE LOCKED YOU IN HIS BEDROOM?
What are you, livestock? He has NO right to do that to you - that shows the ultimate in disrespect.
Babe, it doesn't matter HOW much you like this guy. He does not have ANY respect for you, and you don't have any for yourself if you stay with him.
I don't care WHAT your weight is, you deserve better - you deserve a man who will treat you like a person, not someone like this ********.
2007-09-04 10:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by HooliganGrrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, have some dignity for yourself, he obviously has no respect for you, and you shouldn't try to get with someone who locks you in his room because he's embarressed of you, what an @$$, btw, but what about you? how does that make you feel? Don't you think, as a woman, that you deserve someone who wants to show you off to the world and someone who loves you and would do anything for you, regardless of your weight? You guys are fwb and that's all you'll ever be to him. when you chose to be that to him, you chose to let him treat you the way that he does. I hope you grow some self-respect have have a little bit of pride for yourself to know that you're a woman of worth. you should stop sleeping with him and do something good for yourself. He's NEVER going to want a relationship with you. It's sad but true. Move on, babe, keep your head up and avoid getting hurt...good luck
2007-09-04 10:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by TheBeautifulMess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but you can't have more. He is keeping you around just for a quickie. Sure he is going to call you pet names. He wants you for sex. Next time you get involved with a guy, hold off on the sex until you really get to know him. Then you will find out how much he cares or not. Good-luck.
2007-09-04 10:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is using you and you have been letting him. Being a boo-tie call is not acceptable unless both people are getting equal things from it. If a person loves and cares for you when they are alone, they should love and care for you enough to stand up to their friends or family.
Let him know that you really care for him but that you can't be with someone who doesn't respect you and can't stand up for you.
You deserve so much better and I'd rather be alone than with an *** like that!
2007-09-04 10:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I'm sorry to say but it sounds like he is only with you for sex but you know himm better then I do...I think you should sit done with him and clarify if your going out or not and if so demand more time in public, like a movie and dinner or going out ith his roommates. Sounds like its about sex but hopefully not girl. Stay tough your better then him no matter how you look!!!
2007-09-04 10:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by babyyaya86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you're too youthful to have a boyfriend in step with say. He could be your buddy. in case you like him then basically be acquaintances and enjoy each and each otherss organization. do no longer subject approximately this BF+GF label. basically have exciting.
2016-10-19 22:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let him go if i were you, obviously he doesnt care about you if he cant even tell his friends, and this is making you feel uncomfortable and insecure about yourself hes not worth it.. he just wants the sex..there are plenty of great guys out there im sure you will find one..goodluck
2007-09-04 10:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you for sex-- there won't be any "more"
And once he finds a trophy blonde who will tolerate him it will be goodbye.
Drop him now..
The bedroom thing says it all....
2007-09-04 10:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never boyfriend and girlfriend until those words are brought up and you both agree
2007-09-04 10:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's just that you two need to realoly dio soul searchuing to stay togetgher
2007-09-04 10:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋