i need advice on how to stop drinking. all my friends do it and most saturdays (ok, all) are centred around booze. most friends are supportive and everything but i when i start drinking i cant stop, and i cant help but start.
i keep getting into more and more trouble and i realise it's all my fault, but i cant stop. last saturday i lost my virginity to somebody when i was outdoors and he gave me a fake name. i'd taken about 15 units or something and a few pills. i realise im incredibly stupid and im making myself vulnerable but i dont know what else to do but drink when im depressed.
PLEASE dont give abuse, i know its my fault, i should stop, but i need advice on how to first.
plus i've made a lot of enemies and talked a lot of crap pissed, and most weekends i pass out at least 3 or 4 times, get sick, etc.
my parents arent neglecting or anything i can just hide it quite welll so they havent noticed anything, and i cant tell them, ever.
thankyou if you can help x
2007-09-04 09:48:52 · 7 answers · asked by Jess. 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sweetie you MUST find new people to hang out with. Continuing in the same place with the same people you cannot break bad habits. I had someone come live with me who was in the same condition you are in. After 8 months they returned home. They are having a hard time keeping from falling back in with the same crowd doing the same things. For thisperson getting out of town and away from those people was the only that worked. Do you have a realtive you could stay with a while? If not I strongly suggest you talk to your parents. I know you say you cannot but I bet if you told them the truth (maybe you can leave out some details) they would do whatever it took to help you. Don't let this ruin your life. Please. I will be praying for you. If you'd like to email me do not hesitate. You need support in making a change.
2007-09-04 09:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to find the underlying reasons you drink. Do you drink because your bored, or because you hurt. If you have had some painful times in your life and drinking makes you "feel" better, you on your way to becoming a full blown alcoholic and should seek the help of professional immediately. You will not get better, and the pain will never go away, You will just keep drinking more as your body become resistant to alcohol. If you drink because you are bored, I recommend you find something else to do. While alcohol is not additive, the results it produces can be, and you may find yourself having a harder and harder time quitting if you don't take steps now. Boredom is not an excuse to become an alcoholic. Get away from the computer and find some activities to keep you busy. If you are really sharp, you will begin steps now for preparing what role you will play in an adult society. You could also be just another dumb kid going through a stage, and will grow out of it. In any case, if you would rather drink than be with friends, or it s effecting your relationship with your family or keeping you from having a job, it's time to seek help.
2016-03-17 23:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are obviously in a very dangerous situation. In order to stop u need to seek counseling. My advice is to find new friends who do not drink. Mixing alcohol and pills can kill u. Stop this now. I have lost young friends because of drinking and driving. It hurts people. Maybe u should tell your parents. It won't be the end of the world. They love u too and can get u the proper help. It is hard to stop drinking. I had a problem too. I got pregnant cause of my drinking. Now I have a child I never wanted. Is this what u want? Just reading your story I am worried about u. Another thing, do not blame yourself so much. U have an addiction and need help. It is not all your fault. U are not stupid and there is hope for u. I am asking u to get help Please.
2007-09-04 10:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Rocketgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The phone numbers offered by the very first person who responded are your lifelines.
The first thing you should do is call those numbers and take the advice given there.
Unless your parents are evil, they need to know what is happening to you. I imagine your parents are loving people, who just don't know what is going on in your private life. Asking for their help is going to get you more people on your side.
If they are evil, you still need some adults on your side. A trusted teacher, coach, counselor, church leader, etc. would be a good choice. Sometimes the parent of one of your good friends can stand in this place. It should be someone who cares about you.
You might find this easier to do once you contact the appropriate people from the phone numbers......
2007-09-04 10:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Barry F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience you will keep getting into worse and worse trouble until you lose your job and all that comes with it and end up in prison. I lost my job as an award-winning teacher and it all spiraled down the drain FAST. You won't quit though until you have suffered enough and the pain is worse than drinking. I will lose all I have gained ever since coming out of prison if I drink again. It all seemed like so much fun in high school, now EVERY single damn day of my life I hate myself for ruining my life. I am surviving but hate my past. Please do not get AIDS while drunk. All it takes is one guy and it happens, for real. The dangers are real. You have to WANT to quit or all the rest is smoke and mirrors.
2007-09-04 10:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by shallytally 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok listen first of all u only live once, if u wanna keep living u got to stop drinking, i lost three friends from drunk driving and they never drank alcohol but the girls that were driving in the other car, were, and they killed my pals,. so i think u need to think of u and be strong and not ashame of ur decisions, cause if ur friends don't care about u and start telling u off that means they are no there for u. its ur job to just stop, doing it and u have to be 10 times stronger saying no to beer and have virgin drinks as u can actually have more fun and know whats going on. hope u change and be a difference . stop feeling guilty just change.
2007-09-04 10:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol/Drug Abuse Hotline
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Alcoholics Anonymous
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http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org
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2007-09-04 09:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must ask yourself what you believe you can get from drinking and then, when you next drink .... be very aware of every part of the process. See if it gives you what you believes it gives you.
As soon as you see clearly --- without judgment --- that drinking cannot give you what you believe it does or can or will.... it's easier to stop than sticking your hand in fire, repeatedly.
2007-09-04 10:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋