girlfriend and i definately will get married sometime in the future. but she doesnt want a destination wedding, nor a big wedding-elaborate, not a simple justice of the peace thing. so what type of wedding choice is left? married ladies help me out! i am so lost! this doesnt make sense! what in the world "other" type wedding is there? i am clueless! thanks.
2007-09-04 08:38:07 · 21 answers · asked by gr33n_babe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Church wedding .
Small guest list. 50-75 people at most. Family and close friends only.
That's what she meant LOL!
Congrats and good luck
2007-09-04 08:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well I'm not married,but i am getting married next September and found myself in the same situation. i was never one to daydream about my "perfect wedding day" honestly i never put much thought into it until we got engaged.
we decided to get married in a park. it's not just a play park, it's got several gardens. a rose garden, perennial garden(with a gazebo) and an arboretum. a few good things about this type of wedding are:
1) you dont have to pay for floral decorations(mother nature has already taken care of it for you)
2) unless you customize your ceremony it will only take about 15-30 minutes. a lot of people dont particularly enjoy sitting through a long drawn out mass like ceremony in a church.
3) you can choose anybody to officiate your wedding. you can even have a friend or family member get ordained on the internet and have them marry you (wcm.org)
4) you're already at a great location to take wedding photos
5) you will need a permit which will be provided by the local park commission which runs around $75.00 per hour. (a lot cheaper than a church)
there are a few downfalls:
1) rain- some parks dont allow you to put up tents or canopies
2) no alcohol allowed
incase of wind while trying to light the unity candle i've seen couples pour sand from seperate vials into a small vase to have as a keepsake instead of the candle.
a lot of nice hotels also have garden areas for the ceremony and pictures and they usually give it as a package deal if you book your reception there too.
i hope this helped. good luck!
2007-09-04 09:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by nicole e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not a simple friends and family in your mom's backyard or at the local church wedding? Maybe she doesn't like a lot of pomp and ceremony, but still wants to have a beautiful wedding and not start out in some office building with two witnesses. It doesn't have to be all or nothing, find a compromise. Here's a really great idea for any person who is considering marriage: instead of asking a bunch of strangers online what they think, why not talk to your girlfriend? Communication is very important in a good relationship. Just keep talking and if you listen, she'll probably tell you exactly what she wants. Good luck.
2007-09-04 08:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Manda B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though she'd like something fairly simple, but close enough that family and friends can be involved. She may be thinking of a backyard wedding, one held in a park, or at a B&B, a smaller chapel...just something not very large, relaxed in feeling, but with the people she loves right there to share your wedding joy.
Believe it or not, this is probably the most common sort of wedding there is.
Think more than ten but probably less than 100 people; not terribly formal, but observing many of the traditions that go with weddings, that won't leave you two in debt for a long time.
Congratulations. Sounds like you've picked a lady who is thinking about others and not interested in starting married life in debt. It's hard to go far wrong with a sensible approach like that.
2007-09-04 08:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I have been together for 12 years and do not want a big fancy wedding either. What we are doing is getting married on the beach in Florida and rented a house for the reception. WE are going to have a barbeque with about 60-70 of our closest friends and family. Makes for a more memorable evening and you do not have to worry about what time is the first dance and what time you cut the cake. It is a low pressure enviroment where everyone can elax and cut loose together. My brother did a 40 thousand dollar wedding and said he would never do that again.
2007-09-04 08:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by rogue0903 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can easily do a "regular" wedding but keep the guest list down. This is something I'm thinking of doing. We'd probably have about 20 people, but I think a small wedding would be anything up to about 60 or 70. You can still have the dress, tuxes, reception, cake, whatever, but it doesn't have to be a huge ordeal. Just because a wedding isn't big, doesn't mean you can't do everything you would normally do!
2007-09-06 02:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that she wants the kind of wedding that Im trying to plan right now. Just family and close friends. Something elegant but not costing a fortune. If she is anything like me, she just doesn't want to be meeting people for the first time at her wedding but she knows it will be one of the most special days in her life and wants something she will love.
Another word of advice, be patient with her. When it comes to wedding stuff, us girls feel as if there is SO much pressure on us and it sometimes gets taken out on the fiance. Just remember that the engagment period is suppose to be one of the most stressful times on a couple so if you can make through this, you can make it through anything :)
2007-09-04 09:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a small family wedding. Have it at the church and invite only the close relatives (aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents) and a few friends. That way, she'll be able to enjoy the day without worrying about huge bills and a huge guest list.
You can also do a family wedding that is just parents, siblings, and grandparents (if still alive). Then go out for a nice dinner afterwards.
2007-09-04 08:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol I see where you would be confused but you need to find out what she has in mind she probably wants it to be something simple with its own elegance for the family. People now a days spend so much on weddings that there living at home still with there families. So she probably just wants to budget everything so both of you don't fall into debt. Congratulations on the future wedding
2007-09-04 08:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by ~~Just me~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you two discussed getting married at a wedding chapel? It has the look and feel of a church wedding but you can invite alot of guests or a few guests. My husband and I opted for a chapel wedding but it was just the two of us. I still wore a gown and he wore a tux. We got the cake, champagne, decorations, and all the pics (provided by the chapels professional photographer) to prove it. Everything is included for 1 very inexpensive price.
If you need any suggestions or advice you might try going to www.weddingblogsjust4u.blogspot.com or www.weddingfavorsjust4u.com.
2007-09-04 09:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by dbrown3527 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a simple wedding with only close family and friends, 50-100 tops. It can be at a church, reception hall, or even in your back yard. Just because it's not elaborate doesn't mean it's not nice and well put together.
2007-09-04 09:01:51 · answer #11 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋