Have I run out of things to talk about?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 months now, and for the past month and a half we seem to just sit in silence when we call each other. We live 7 hours away from one another so we're basically limited to talking on the phone inbetween weekend visits 2 - 3 times a month. We used to talk constantly on the phone, but now I can't seem to think of anything to talk about with her that would result in more of an answer than "Yes" or "No". I know it's frustrating for both of us and I just want us to be able to talk again... cause I know that this can't keep going on otherwise I'm going to lose her. I know I'm not the greatest conversationalist in the world, but I just want to be able to enjoy talking on the phone with her again.

Answer 1

This is a hard question to answer b/c the answer might not be this at all, but, a problem in the relationship overall. Are you afraid to say something that might upset her? Is she afraid to say something b/c it could start a fight? Uusally, silence occurs when one or the other is holding onto something they want or need to say, but are waiting for the "perfect time" to talk about it.
If that is not the case, then go back to the roots that brought you two together. There is nothing wrong with thinking about the past and how far you have come with her. Wait for a tangent to the topic, and then go down the tangent and you will suddenly find things to talk about aplenty. Or cutely make fun of her choice in music or guys or your bad choices, have a laugh and look for a tangent to talk about. Perhaps you are talking more about your day to day lives rather then what you enjoy about each other. Life is about change and growth, and people do change every day. You are not the same person she met, and she is not the same person you met. Your conversation thus, has to also evolve as well. Don't be nervous that it has to be perfect, just be yourself, the person she fell in love with, and you will do fine. Good luck.

Answer 2

Talk about some of the things you are both interested in. Ask how her day was, ya know, crack jokes, whatever you need to do to keep the communication going. When it seems like you have nothing to say, just make sure that she knows you are thinking of her, that you miss her, and tell her you will talk to her later. No biggie. But the more you call and the less you have to say is like torture. So when you have nothing to talk about make it short and sweet, that way when you have one of those days where it seems like you can talk forever, you won't get the brush off because she's expecting you to just breath in her ear. It's only been five months, if you like this girl, you don't want the communication to be non existent, because pretty soon the relationship will be non existent as well.

Answer 3

Read, watch TV, learn about current events or learn a new skill. It's not good that you have nothing to talk about. Tell each other about your work day or school day. Talk about the latest stories in the news. Compare opinions about politics, religion, or whatever one of you is interested in. Some people move on to new relationships because they are just recycling the same old material over and over again. They are interesting for 3 to 6 months and then the funny or amazing stories start to repeat. That shows lack of depth in the person.

Answer 4

i used to think how can u stay with some one for the rest of your life u eventually don't have anything to say to one another until u have kids then u find all kinds of things to talk about. i myself am no good at phone conversations and could not be able to make that kind of relationship work. i'm sure that maybe even just hearing you breathe would make her happy to know that u still want to have a realtionship. a good topic for ya'll would be why is it that neither of you can find something to say maybe she'll help with the convo a little more.

Answer 5

i will communicate approximately something, any concern, any time. My husband is likewise a talker, yet on condition that this is approximately him or the failings he cares approximately. he will communicate for a good hour or extra approximately his paintings day yet he does not want to talk politics or activities or present day activities in the international - he has no concern for any of that. i've got discovered silence could be golden, often times this is merely appreciating the guy and merely being with them. Married 4 years now, jointly over 6 years.

Answer 6

Try to find new things to talk about. What do both of you like? What's happening in the news? What's in the movies? Find things that you both can talk about and that won't be boring to either of you. I'm not the best conversationalist (woah, long word) either but I try to talk about stuff that make me and my boyfriend laugh. You'll figure something out eventually.

Answer 7

play games over the phone. It sounds corny but i like playing the category game. You pick a category like candy and go pback and forth naming different candies whoever doesnt repeat one and can name one wins....do categories that you all have in common. I am in the same situation where my bf lives aobut 4 hours away and im not really a phone person either. Good luck

Answer 8

its a stretch..
but you could take a week off (sort of) and do a lot of things so that when you talk you can tell her all about it
but then again, silence is golden

or
you could take a break from eachother since the distance is enourmous
and if you still love eachother then stay together

Answer 9

Just because you don't have spectacular things to bring up doesn't mean there is reason for break up, it just means you don't have to much to talk about and you pretty much know everything about each other...
Geez, your one of those guys who gets butt hurt about everything aren't you UGH...Man, I can sense your drama!

MY life is over, I need a ambulance, Oh, please call the doctor..I'm bleeding without the blood....I even cry crocodile tears....
ADVISE: cut the crap

Answer 10

Try to find her other intrest and talk about those, like does she go to church, if so what does she beleive in, etc. if you do not keep the converstion up your realationship will go down. Send her things in the mail, too.