First date was something of a group date with some friends of mine. she had a good time and wants to see me again. Since it's a weekday, i asked her if she wants to come over to my place, have dinner, sit on the deck with some music and a drink, and she said Yes! Now because she said yes to coming to my place on a second date, what should i expect? I don't want to miss an opportunity or mess it up by being too forward. what do you think? We haven't even kissed yet but she said she felt the same way i did after our first date (i told her that I thought she was drop dead gorgeous and i guess i was playing my cards to close to my vest because she didn't think i was that into her). So what is it that you think she's coming over for?. we're both adults (i'm 39 and she's 28). I don't want to blow this by being too forward or not forward enough.
2007-09-04 08:17:08 · 20 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just enjoy each others company and don't worry about it. Thats when things will screw up. BE YOURSELF !
2007-09-04 08:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would anticipate that she is coming over to have dinner, sit on the deck with some music and a drink. To expect anything beyond that - has the potential to backfire this early in the relationship.
When she gets there be open and observant and read the clues that she is giving you. If she is expecting or wanting more - she'll be dropping hints.
I know a number of couples that can joke about how when they got together - one wondered why the other one wasn't have moving a little faster - and later learned they were considerate people, not being to presumptive. The kind of person worth being with for a long time.
I also know and a number of people that can tell stories about feeling pressured and pushed to fast, and how that became a major turn off and death of the relationship.
Have a good time.
2007-09-04 08:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by keezy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Given your ages I assume you are both probably wanting a serious relationship, something a little more substantial than a casual fling. So given that I am approaching this answer in that way, my advice would be to take it slow. If the kiss happens, it happens, don't force it. Touching is good. If you do get into a heated situation you can decide at that moment if you want to move it into another part of the house or if you should wait for a more opportune time. Take the evening to get to know each other, what are your expectations, are you wanting a relationship? Play a game, laugh, relax and enjoy each others company. She probably wants to get to know you just the same as you want to get to know her and check the chemistry between the two of you. If she is coming over for more than just dinner, she will probably let you know. Good luck!
2007-09-04 08:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by BleedingHeart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always, above all things be a gentlemen. You are right in wondering what she is coming to your place for. Ask yourself what king of women you are looking for, and what kind of relationship. Some women are quite forward but still hard to read. I find that being vocal and asking in a very sincere and tactful way is usually the best. It leaves no room for error, speculations or misunderstandings. Again, not knowing what you are looking for, this may blow some sort of chances. On the other hand, it may lead into a meaningful life long relationship if handled in a gentlemanly way.
2007-09-04 08:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Alana M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well now lets think about this. Do you just want a booty call or do you want a possible life long commitment.if your just wanting some actions or vice versa then by all means do what you are going to do, if you catch the vibes from her of whats going on with her.if you are thinking long commit then take your time with her and don't go to far on the second date.you may kiss her I suggest that if you see it going in that direction then you kiss her first better to sweep her off her feet the very first time or not at all.Woman do like it when a man takes the first step but in a humble manner .just have fun enjoy her company.You may want to wait though cause sometimes people's personalities change and you get annoyed with them very quickly.Its all your call man I hope I helped at least a little.
2007-09-04 08:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by foxy lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether you really like this girl or not (and by just your ‘tone’ and because you posted in the first place I would take a big stab at that being a resounding “yes”).
Since that is the case, then I would suggest taking it slow for different reasons, one of which is that you do not want to be misreading the signals. I think she is into you too or else she would not have agreed to come over, but in any case, measure your distance this first time around. Wow her with good talk, good company, good music, good food and leave her wanting more for next time. Definitely kiss her toward the end of the evening if all signs point to “going good” :o). Make it a sensual kiss, but not overly-sexual. This too will knock her socks off and leave her wondering about you. DO NOT jump her bones even if she seems to want nothing else. A little mystery is great, and further down the road, if more develops, you’ll both be glad you waited.
In a nutshell, have fun, don’t overthink it, but do plan ahead (as the saying goes: "All is fair in love and war"), and set limits before the date itself.
Best of luck (but don’t get too “lucky”) :O).
PS. I thumby-upped Alana M's answer as I think it had pearls of wisdom!
2007-09-04 08:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Smith 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I say you just go with the flow. Naturally you would think that if she is comfortable coming to your house for a second date that she wants to be intimate. If that is the case, you will certainly know it! Or maybe the idea of a nice quiet evening, having dinner and some good conversation is just what the doctor ordered, ya know. Just be as casual as possible, pay attention to what she says and the signs she gives and you will know what to do.
2007-09-04 08:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's coming over for dinner, some music, and a drink. Don't be an *** by being too forward. Play things by ear and if she seems like she's interested in more then go for it.
2007-09-04 08:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by MyMichelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 11:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by cosner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is coming to your place, it definitely means she is interested! See what the mood is like during dinner, if you are both having a good time then go for the kiss later! You will be able to tell if she is into you.
2007-09-04 08:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by cookiesforkim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you should expect is her coming over and hanging out. dont push the whole sexual thing like a lot of guys do but rather enjoy her company and when she goes to leave give her that first kiss then you'll be able to tell is she's digging you or not. she may even be coming over for that one night stand due to you inviting her to your house. mean do you even know the girl or not?
but at the same time you dont want to be a dud you know but also not to aggresive. if you dig the chick be a bit aggresive but not to much if not lay her and be done.
2007-09-04 08:22:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋