on july 9th i went to a party at my ex boyfriends house and i ended up staying there and we had sex and we were both intoxicated and didnt use protection. the next night i went with my boyfriend and had unprotected sex with him too. I found out a few weeks later i was pregnant and had a miscarriage on the 15th of august. i never told my ex i was pregnant. and my boyfriend doesnt know i hooked up with my ex.. should i create drama and tell them both.. or should i just keep quite?!?!
2007-09-04 07:34:00 · 24 answers · asked by classicpoohgirl22 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Email me. I will personally pay for your birth control so that I don't have to pay the taxes for your/your baby/your baby daddy's: WIK, disability, unemployment, government subsidized home, jail & prison time...
2007-09-04 07:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by quirky 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep quiet. You don't know whose kid it was, so just what FACTS do you have to tell either of them? The baby is gone and there is absolutely no good reason to go into the details now especially since you are not sure whose child it was. The only reason to tell either guy would be for the sole purpose of upsetting him/them. Being intoxicated does not excuse your actions with the ex and so the boyfriend may decide to dump you. Telling the ex is not going to get you anything either. Next time use a condom. There is nothing trashier or more embarrassing than being pregnant and not being sure who the father is.
2007-09-04 14:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
being drunk is no excuse for what you did and if you slept with your ex boyfriend how unfair is that to your current partner to then be sleeping with him the next night ?! its just sick !!! personally i wouldnt tell him about the fact the baby may not of been his as thats just going to cause the poor guy even more heartache but i would tell him you have been unfaithfull in the past just so he gets the chance to find out if he has caught a std from you and then he can move on with his life if you didnt want to lose him you should of thought about that before cheating how would you feel if it had been the other way round and he was sleeping with some girl and the next night he was with you!? i know how i would feel and thats dirty used and disgusted !!! hopefully you will learn from your mistakes.... for gods sake they hand out condoms free at the health clinincs !!!! sort your self out
2007-09-04 15:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to be careful who you have unprotected sex with, these days expecially, you could end up with something way more serious than a pregnancy.
Second, trust is a HUGE factor in any relationship. If you cheated, you can't be trusted. If you tell your current boyfriend that you had unprotected sex with an ex boyfriend, I bet he is an ex as well. If you don't tell him, and he finds out anyways, it could be worse. The truth is easier than a lie, it may be more trouble now, but no surprise trouble later in your life.
2007-09-04 14:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Renee B 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Look at all the dishonest people in here! No wonder this world is the way it is. Does anyone have any morals anymore? I couldn't live with myself. I would have to come clean! I wouldn't have put myself in the position you put yourself in in the first place. Why would you even go and hang out with your ex? An ex is an ex for a reason!
*sigh*
2007-09-04 14:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I'm sorry you had a misscarriage. However it sounds like it was a blessing in disguise. This is completely up to you. Morally I think I would have to tell them both of my error and what happend, however sensibly if you tell your boyfriend he may leave you. So honestly it is up to you. If you want to take the honest route and tell the truth that would be the honorable thing to do even though it will cause drama.....
2007-09-04 14:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I were your boyfriend I would certainly want to know if 1) the baby I thought was mine wasn't, and 2) if my g/f was sleeping around on me.
Be honest and tell your boyfriend what happened. Let him be the one to decide whether or not to forgive you.
You need to take responsibility for your behavior. If you let this go unspoken of, it will slowly eat away at you, making you unhappy in the long run.
2007-09-04 14:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by samans442 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard, but you just need to let it go. There is no baby anymore for you to think about so don't mess up your relationship with your current bf by telling him that you did have sex with your ex. But I can tell you one thing...I HOPE that this experience has taught you NOT TO CHEAT. Good luck and don't do it again or you might find yourself with a child and you don't know who the father is and then you REALLY be screwed.
2007-09-04 14:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think your boyfriend definitely has a right to know you were unfaithful, especially since you didn't use protection. As far as the paternity of the baby, I don't believe that is relevant, due to the unfortunate circumstances. As far as the ex boyfriend, nothing you have to tell him will change anything for either of you, so I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-09-04 14:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal_Clear 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Keep your mouth SHUT...period end of discussion. There is no use causing more upset in your life or adding insult to the injury (emotional) that the miscarriage has already caused your bf. Just consider it a lesson learned and move on.
2007-09-04 14:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by ¤¤Je§§ica¤¤ 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋