see i just got an email from my ex's gf saying hey and that she was just introducing herself. well the thing is that i really don't care but I think it was sent just to let me know that he is taken and that i can't have him. but to tell u the truth i really don't care. but i dont get why she sent me an email like that. i mean i haven't talked to him in so long. does that mean that he has been telling her things about me? also i wonder why she is just emailing me now when we broke up like 3 months ago. weird huh? what do u think?
2007-09-04 07:08:30 · 20 answers · asked by bluedevilsgirl07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In all honesty, if you are over him, just ignore it. You have no loyalty to him that says you have to be friends with him or his current gf. Who cares what he says to her? If you asked and found out he was telling her lies about you, she's going to believe him regardless of what you say. There is nothing to gain from talking to her.
Her actions are really only legitimately appropriate if you and him were really close friends and she wanted to get to know her new bf's best friend. Since this is not the case, her only motive is probably just to collect info on you and make sure you aren't a threat, guised as a polite hello. I can't imagine any other motive unless she's just genuinely nice, in which case its still not worth you time to find out.
Let's pretend for a second that your ex is a super jerk, and put his new gf up to this purely for entertainment value to see what you would say (because you know she is going to go back and tell him everything you talked about). You not responding is going to be the biggest slap in the face ever to him. I speak from experience. I broke up with my abusive ex of seven years last December. Just in August he posted a huge blog filled with so many ridiculous lies that it nearly made me cry. I ignored it. I got texts and emails all day from concerned friends, letting me know of this horrid blog. I told them I didn't care. Shocked, they asked me why i wouldn't care about such defemation of my character. I asked if the blog changed their opinions of me, and they said no because they know me better. So, no loss on my part. Secondly, when it got back to him from mutual friends that I didn't give a crap and didn't give it a second thought, he took the blog entry down. It pissed him off more that I didn't care then if I had gotten even or called and yelled at him, etc.
Long story short, just ignore it. There is nothing to gain from being her friends and there is nothing to lose.
2007-09-04 07:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lunar Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it...Maybe the ex is figuring you out, maybe not...
What is your point here? I think there are ways of communicating and asking questions without asking the actual questions what do you think? is there not?
It could mean anywhere from talking about or figuring out who what where or simply making someone angry, like you for example. You know some people get a kick out of doing "stuff" like that, could there be a possibility of this bieng wrong? well, of course no, maybe so...huh!
I have been in a similar situation one of my ex's boyfriends girlfriend tried contacting me and to believe "she wanted to have strabucks with me" she said she wanted to be friends because she thought I was sexy and she just didn't care about him anymore or really never did and to GET OVER IT..
I was in shock WHEN hearing her confessions of bieng gay.
Anyway, I told my boyfriend everything because I wanted to be honest with him and we remained friends because I knew for a fact she didn't want anything to do with him....
....And now everyone is happy ALTHOUGH recently he recieved a shoe box full of old love letters from her to him..
WOW, pretty crazy huh? I ended up dumping him because he has an affair with her...Oh, well....And yeah thats it
2007-09-04 07:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you oughta smother her with sweetness. Don't ignore her like you have something to hide! I'd write her back and act unbelievably friendly!! Tell her that you're SO glad he found someone that sounds so nice because he really deserves a nice girl. Be the bigger person and don't act insecure or irritated at all. Maybe he talks about you...maybe she's insecure...maybe she's extremely desperate for a friend!! Either way...I'd be sweet as pie. Good luck!!
2007-09-04 07:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be one of a million reasons. Maybe she really is a nice person. Or maybe she is trying to rub the fact that she is with him in your face. Or, maybe she wants dirt on him. Or, maybe she isn't real and HE emailed you. I wouldn't reply to the email. I wouldn't say anything to him either. Just let it go and move on. The best revenge is to live your life and just be happy.
2007-09-04 07:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....I think thats really weird...I would say email her back and say oh hey, this was kinda random but Im over him so hes all yours....and just not talk to her again
Some people might tell you not to email back and just ignore it but then I bet she will just keep emailing you and she might think you care what she has to say...just end it
That is really shady that she would do that though...some people
2007-09-04 07:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she seen your email address an deiced to send you something trying to be funny the best advice is to ignore it an move on but if she continues to send them then email her back an let her know it over an you don't care to know her or him any more then move on an live your own life don't get caught up in some ens cure girl seems.
2007-09-04 07:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by C.S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol i wouldn't bother about it, she's just trying to get a reaction, show you he's taken make you jealous etc etc.... totally immature to me, i'd wait a week or so and reply, apologizing for taking so long but say you'd been busy or something and say how glad you are for her and hope it works out!(even if you dont mean it!) haha. or you could simply ignore it :) but then that might make her think your jealous and care!
2007-09-04 07:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Steph ♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy. Thats all I can think of. Seems like he has said somethings bad/good I dunno. But thats why she's emailing you this. Look at it on her side, why would anyone email their current bf / gf's ex? Just to rub it in is the answer.
Ignore him and her, you have the right idea, you don't care. leave it at that.
2007-09-04 07:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just pass it off as her being friendly. You can do one of two things, ignore it, or you could send her one back saying Hi, but don't mention much about your ex because you don't want to give her the idea that you're still into him.
2007-09-04 07:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly wouldn't worry about it. He may have mentioned you once or twice, and she may be the jealous type. She must be letting you know not to come back around. But if you don't care, don't worry about it. Answering her back might only escalate things, and they'll try to pin you as the jealous, psycho ex girlfriend who wants him back. Don't worry about that kind of drama. Delete it.
2007-09-04 07:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋