Why do some of you still think the man should have to "be responsible" or "pay child support" for a child he doesn't want? Yes, he should have thought about protection, but it is USUALLY the woman who has to deal with the "aftermath" beit have the baby or abort it... and child support only takes care of one issue... who has to care for, feed, and stay up with the teething baby all night? find daycare etc etc? Will women, (over 21yrs, because being young and dumb is one thing ) realize that they are only makng life harder for
themselves and the child... especially those who didn't learn with baby #2, #3 etc... opinions please
2007-09-04 07:04:34 · 14 answers · asked by Lupita 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Lynlei, I'm not assuming, I have been a single mother, Im talking about the ones who do it to "trap" men and who do it over and over and over. but think that some Knight is going to be the one who stays, just cause he whispered some sweet nothings in her ear during sex
2007-09-04 07:21:16 · update #1
Christy, Understood, and I agree, but I still believe WOMEN should be responsible for their protection, of their bodies and well being. OR know what kind of man/boy theyre dealing with BEFORE they have sex with them.
2007-09-04 07:44:10 · update #2
Gentle Winds : apparantly you did not understand my question/comment.... but I forgive you
2007-09-04 08:05:48 · update #3
It is to easy for a woman to take a pill. It is her responsibility to make sure she doesn't get pregnant.
If she is married and the two of them make a decision that having a family right now is what they want to do. they have a decent home and a good job and can easily care for the child. Then ok have a baby. Maybe even two. That is called being a responsible parent. Then if something goes wrong and the two of you seperate then he should have joint custody and both of you raise this child.
But these women who lay down with anything get pregnant and they are not married are so disfunctional that when they do have a child they look around, where can I get money?
what am I going to do now? Take a pill until you grow up and get an education and can support yourself knowing most marriages break up. Raising a child alone is not easy.
when two people lay down only one of you can get pregnant.
So that is the one who should take precautions. If you lay down with everything and anything. You pick this guy out of a hat to suport you? To bad for you.
2007-09-04 07:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Steven 6 · 4⤊ 9⤋
Ok....this is a hot topic and here's my opinion. It takes two to tango. If you're with a person and have sex with them, most of the time, you at least find out if there is any birth control involved (ie. condoms, IUD, pill, etc.). Secondly...no one is making that man have sex with that woman. So when in turn it results in pregnancy, it took a man and a woman to become pregnant. The woman is usually the one who "has to deal" with the child therefore she is holding up her responsibility. And sometimes no matter how hard a single mother tries, she cannot support herself and her child. How is it that a man can have sex with a woman (or several women) and get one or more pregnant and have his own flesh and blood running around out there and not lift a finger to help out with their welfare? No they didn't WANT to have a child, but they WANTED to have sex. If the mother chooses not to have an abortion or put the child up for adoption, the father can take her to court to relinquish his rights therefore not having to pay child support. If there is a man that doesn't want to pay child support THAT BAD then he needs to take the mother to court. He made the decision along WITH her to have unprotected sex and he should have to be partially responsible for that child also. He helped make it, he should help pay for it unless both parents agree that he (or she if the situation is reversed) is to have nothing to do at all with the child (going back to going to court and having parental rights revoked).
2007-09-04 14:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Christy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think I would ever ask for child support if my boyfriend and I weren't together. My parents have been divorced since I was 5 and I have a mother who just loves to ruin my dads life. I understand what you're saying, and I think the system is flawed when it comes to child support. They will almost always take the womans side, one judge actually told my dad that she didn't care if he had to sleep under a bridge, he had to pay my mother. I've seen my dad get a check for $1 after working 80 hours. It's not right. Just so you know, I'm only 18...just because I'm young doesn't mean I'm dumb. You shouldn't judge people like that...not all young people are naive. Some of us have actually experienced a lot.
2007-09-04 14:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well in alot of cases the guy is all for having the baby and all then decides to walk away when its to late.
In those cases, yes I think the guy should be forced to step up and pay.
Generally I think like this. The woman has so many months to decide if they want the child, I think most states allow abortions up to 20 weeks. But whatever the allowance is, I think the man should have the same about of time to decide wheather or not he wants to be a man. If he decides not to, then at that time he needs to sign over all rights, and he can keep his money.
2007-09-04 14:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by his wife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not disagreeing, but some of you need to remember this: unwanted pregnancy doesn't always happen because a girl is "sleeping around", or neglected to take bc. I was in a relationship and on the pill when I got pregnant. I elected to have an abortion......I expected no help from that ******** and I got exactly that. Now I'm celibate.....I'd rather not sleep with anyone than risk going through that again. I have no respect for women who purposely try to trap a man with a baby, but accidents happen.
2007-09-04 17:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by beautifulirishgirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No method of birth control is foolproof except for abstinence. As for taking birth control pills, not all women can take them. Some have problems with blood clots which would prevent their taking them. They are also not recommended for older women and smokers. It also isn't a method that you can use just before you have sex. You have to take a series of pills that follow your cycle before you are ready. Getting the pills in the first place requires doctor's visits and prescriptions. It just drives me crazy when I hear others telling women to just pop a pill to protect themselves. If a man doesn't want to put himself into a position where he has to support a child he never wanted in the first place, then he should either use protection, get sterilized, or abstain.
2007-09-04 14:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by RoVale 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know. If women can legally choose to abort or give the baby up for adoption, why can't men choose not to take care of the baby and not pay child support?
2007-09-04 20:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well Some don't believe in abortions but like I wont get into that because I could talk on forever. Also I don't like birth control because I know of a few friends that got messed up because of it. Anyways I think its both their faults because the girl didn't climb on top of her self and get pregnant. Like some one else said it takes two to tango. Thats like saying about kissing you need the other person to kiss because kissing alone just looks wierd.
I think the guy should have to do something if the girl is doing all the work with the baby.
He should be the one to take more precautions then the girl because girls can't just get pregnant they need sperm to get pregnant so a guy should take his time to get condoms and to put it on.
Guys shouldn't be so ill responsible.
2007-09-04 16:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by Rukia K 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
WHAT?
Why on earth should a man be able to run around scott free, banging everything from females to fruit loops and not be responsible whatsoever for his actions? Why is this put upon women only? It takes 2 people to create a baby! Both are responsible for the upbringing of the child! Based upon your logic, a woman should be able to shirk her responsibility also if she decides she doesn't want it. She can just dump the baby off on the man and tell him "too bad, I am not paying you child support because I don't want a baby". Your logic is effed up!
2007-09-04 14:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
The child is the innocent party here. I am beginning to beleive that we need to either have two parents for a child or have adoption (and get two parents that way).
2007-09-04 14:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by professorc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i dont have that problem. and second when a man and woman choses to have sex together then i think its both of their responsibilities when they get pregnant to care for the baby. it wasnt just the woman who got herself pregnant so why should the man wessel out of responsibilty? he shouldve known when having sex there are certain consequences. and if hes man enough to have sex then he should be man enough to help raise what he helped make.
2007-09-04 14:16:24 · answer #11 · answered by jrs wife! 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋