My gf of 2 years started talking to this redneck guy on myspace, I asked her about it, and she denied anything going on. Then, she say's I have trust issues, but THEN she say's her and him are interested in each other. She said she got nervous when we talked about moving in together and that I need to experience more girls (this is my first serious relationship and I am 24). She had not even met this guy yet, but now she has and apparently "everything is good thus far." This is immature, but she even moved me to number 2 on her myspace and I did the same and she said it was immature of me! We have been exchanging email talking about random things, but I don't know if I should go to her house right now to talk to her in person. Everything was fine a few days ago. She dropped out of school too and she is a really good student (we are in college btw). I loved her because she was so nice..but this isn't nice obviously. I was so comfortable with her. I have social anxiety and I can't meet
2007-09-04 05:44:22 · 7 answers · asked by Mint Car 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't meet people...especially righ tnow. I can't concentrate on school, I'm having panic attacks, I just feel sick like I'm going to die. I can't stop thinking about her. Everything was perfect.
2007-09-04 05:45:03 · update #1
I can't stop thinking about sex with her too. I know, that's crazy, but I'm losing my mind!
2007-09-04 05:47:04 · update #2
I didn't do it with her enough...maybe that's why she wants him!
2007-09-04 05:47:28 · update #3
I know school is full of girls...but it's like I get nervous when I'm "looking" for people you know. I have anxiety really bad about situations that haven't happened yet.
2007-09-04 05:50:02 · update #4
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2007-09-04 05:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i COMPLETELY understand. i have social anxiety too and i know how hard it can be to meet new people, also it isnt about you having trust issues. the problem is your significant other. her moving you to second on her top obviously shows that she has an interest in another person right now. Look at it this way, you are a guy...having sex and thinking of it is normal for you guys. The only one that i would think to hesitate would be her. Remember dont let her control the relationship. You have social anxiety and it's hard to let go of someone and meet new people. But it is possible. Social anxiety for most depend on your suroundings. Where you are and who's around you affects you the most. So if you are willing to give up this relationship i am sure that you will find someone else. You just need to find your comfort zone. Anyway good luck, just remember if you dont trust her dont waste your time and move on. You dont want to get hurt.
Good luck ;)
2007-09-04 12:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Diane D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not go to her house. She will just tell you more things you do not need to hear. She is moving on without you and has all but told you this right out. If she has dropped out of school, then she isn't a person who makes very smart long term commitments anyway. In the long run you will be better off without someone like this. She has lied to you, and you can't trust her again. She will eventually lie to the other guy too.
I know this is hard for you to understand , but... of course, you will meet someone else. You met her, didn't you? You are in a great place to meet other people... college. As for the panic attacks, give yourself a break! Life is not a bed of roses for any of us. Tough times happen. Relationships that we thought would be forever fall apart. But in the end, you have to depend on yourself to turn it all around and go forward in life. I've been in your shoes. It will be alright but that won't happen overnight.
2007-09-04 13:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first calm down. I know its hard when you have trouble with someone you care about so much but you have to get a hold of yourself. If you are going to talk to her you want to be stong and tell her/show her how much you care, but dont go to her house upset and end up getting yourself more hurt. Stay cool and talk to her just see what she wants, if she really wants to be with this other guy, im sorry but you are going to have to let go because you cant force someone to be with you, you will only hurt yourself more by trying again and again. Dont focus on what could have been wrong in the past focus on what you can do now to talk to her and get things worked out.
2007-09-04 12:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by BlueEyedBabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down, school is full of girls. Lots more where she came from!
2007-09-04 12:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i think you should go to her house. she shouldnt have dropped out of school.she shouldnt did all those things to you. go comfront her if that dont work out then i guess let her learn the hard way as to what she is missing.
2007-09-04 12:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by shayla67 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
calm down its only myspace
2007-09-04 12:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Pregnant with #3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋