my brother has been dating one of my really close friends for almost 3 years..he has cheated on her several times to my knowledge and the gf has heard rumors but he always denied it and she believed him. now she has proof (spoke to one of the girls my brother messed around with) and she keeps asking me for advice. im torn because shes a very good friend to me and i feel like she deserves to know what a dirtbag my brother has been in the past but hes family and i also think HE should be the one to tell her that..its not my place and i dont want to get involved but i dont have much of a choice and now im kinda stuck, she keeps calling crying askin what to do..please help im torn between 2 people i love very much :(
2007-09-04 05:00:31 · 8 answers · asked by jennybean7985 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your brother you know and that she has been asking you about it. Tell him he has, lets say a week, to tell her or you will give her the news.
Generally I wouldn't say anything but she has asked you about it, it's not just you sticking you nose in.
2007-09-04 05:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard not to get involved...but in my eyes...a cheater is a cheater..maybe instead of telling your friend maybe if you know when your brother is going out and where...have your friend there. Or just tell her....I know if my bf / husband was cheating I would want to know so that I wouldn't get hurt any more. Good Luck
2007-09-04 05:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain neutral! Tell your friend you love her but can't help her in this situation. Tell your brother you love him but he needs to put a stop this nonsense immediately! Then step away from the situation. You are stuck amid a rock and a hardplace and anything you say or do is liable to get you crushed!!
2007-09-04 05:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, but I would have to say tell her. I understand he is your brother but that's not fair to her at all. If the situation was turned around, would you want her to tell you that her brother was cheating on you? He obviously doesn't care about her, and he doesn't have to know that you told her. Please tell her so she doesn't get hurt anymore!
2007-09-04 05:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by justn's~mudgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say exactly that... its NOT your business and you are NOT going to get involved.
Then i would talk to your brother and tell him if he does not smarten up he will be on his own. That this is the last time you will ignore his behaviour.
Good luck,
2007-09-04 05:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by darlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you would rather not get involved and if she is a good friend she should understand. you love them both and you should not be the one to tell her things. I would tell her you love them both and cant bring yourself to be in the middle.
2007-09-04 05:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may love your brother.. but he's being an *** and hurting someone you choose to care for..
we choose our friends.. not our family..
you need to tell her.. then you need to hit your brother upside his skull and tell him how freaking stupid he is.. putting you in this type of situation
2007-09-04 05:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it
2007-09-04 05:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋