Nudism at home: perversion?

Question

After talking about my "nudist life" - I'm a single mom with a 17 son - I got a lot of email blaming me because we use to spend part of our life naked, including our home life too.
In particular, it seems that a lot of people could accept a "normal nudist family" (dad, mom, sons) maybe (with some difficulties) just at nudist resort or beach but that the idea of a "naked mom at home" is considered very often as perversion.
I would like to know your feeling about and, in particular:

Why for our society the idea of a "naked mom" in front of a son is different depending if they are at public places or at home?

I would like you would think a little bit and answer (also to yourself) to my last question: "public place vs home". Thx

Answer 1

I want to make it quite clear that I agree wholeheartedly with your stance. However, your question is about our society, and "public places v. home", so I'll try to answer that.

Your email complainers' thinking probably goes something like this: When you're in public, other people can watch you. If you try anything "funny" with your son, somebody can call the cops and have your wicked fanny hauled off to jail. But when you're at home, no one can monitor your activities. Who knows what evil deeds you'll perpetrate on your helpless child, when nobody is looking?

That's the "nudity = sex" way of thinking, coupled with the "we're all evil sinners" attitude. They're assuming that anyone who enjoys nudity does so for sexual purposes, and, therefore, your purpose is to pervert your youngster somehow. Pretty sick, huh?

Answer 2

Lorybeth. There is nothing wrong in nudism. It does not matter your ages or sex. You are at home relaxing. Just because a person see some else naked does NOT mean they think of sex. I have know several nudist families, including multi-generation families and all these people are very civil and respectful. Even more so than the "normal" textile families.
The others are just ignorant to the fundamentals of nudist. They refuse to see the being naked is just that. If they would do research they will find out how far in the dark ages is there thinking.

Nudity is Freedom

Answer 3

It's quite hypocritical to think that there is a difference between it being "OK" at a public beach/resort but not OK at home. What's the real difference other than the number of people involved?

Congratulations on taking a stand and raising your child in the way you see fit. My wife and I are doing the same - hopefully instilling some good body-acceptance values into our sons. We're nude at home or at appropriate places like resorts/beaches - with our kids in tow.

Single parenting is tough - nudist or not. Kudos to you for making it these 17 years - may your hard work pay off!

Answer 4

Nudism At Home

Answer 5

Home Nudism

Answer 6

Perversion is when you do or find something exciting, specifically because it is evil. For example, a flasher gets off on it specifically because he knows it is wrong. The point is to hurt someone and do an evil act. That is what makes it perversion. A married couple walking around their apartment nude all the time when the shades are drawn are not engaging in a perverted act, by way of contrast. Most people on a nude beach are not engaging in perversion. But, some are. Intent makes all the difference.

Answer 7

I don't have much to add here, except to agree with you that nudism is not about sexualizing kids, but teaching them a healthy respect for their own bodies and those of others.
My family is home nudist as well, and we are raising our little girls not to be either ashamed of their bodies or show-offs. We use clothing for protection from the elements, not to hide from each other. We think that as long as parents are aware of the pitfalls society places around us for being nudists, and educate our children not to be upset or fooled by the fallacious arguments of the prudish, that children in naturist or nudist households will grow up with a healthier and more stable outlook that kids with society-pushed clothing fetishes.

Answer 8

To anyone but a seasoned nudist who has seen countless multi-generational families at nudist resorts, domestic nudity no doubt screams of perversion and has people running to quote Sigmund Freud and Oedipus Rex. One has to remember that you are in Europe where the moral values are much different than here in America. Having read your other questions and responses regarding your son there is no question that he regards you as good 'ol mom- clothed or unclothed.

Now about the voluptuous young female teacher of his the two of you met at the nude beach that got a "massive" response from him...

Answer 9

If you were always clothed around your son and you both only recently started living a nudist lifestyle around him, then it could cause problems/confusion.

However I get the impression that you've both been living your nudist lifestyle for most of his life. I reckon he will clearly be able to seperate innocent nudity from sex and will accept your naked bodies without any issues or negative impact.

Answer 10

You need to understand that in this country our society equates nudity with sex. Therefore they think that obviously if you are naked in front of your son it is unnatural.

Those of us who are more enlightened and educated understand that the naked body is just that--a body. Not a sex object!

But you are fighting an uphill battle if you are looking for acceptance. Don't forget in this culture people can't handle seeing a child breast-fed! They have forgotten that nature gave us breasts to feed our young, not to stimulate our mates!