Why do men treat me like crap?
My biological mother left me when I was less than a year old with my father and left. She has never been a mother to me. I am lucky to have a great step mother that has been with me since 15 months old. I have finally accepted that she just had no motherly instint. My question is when a boyfriend leaves me and tells me not to call him anymore, I call and call and call and ask why why why untill my sanity becomes a problem as well as having chest pains and numbness in my right side of my body. I have been treated with depression and major anxiety for the last 3 years since my beautiful daughter was born. My doctor had me on 5 different medicines that made me pretty nutty. Last week I checked my self into the hospital to wean my self off of his meds and found a great new doctor in the process. I am a very beautiful lady with not much to offer a man because of the loss of my career since my daughter was born. I am a very passionate person that needs love.
2007-09-04 04:52:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Know that you are not the only one that things like this happen to, accept it, and move on. Men treat you like crap because you let them. If someone does not want to be with you, it's their loss, find someone who does. Don't be clingy, if he wants to go, let him go. Get off the meds, get a job, support your daughter, and don't worry about a relationship with a man, it'll happen when it happens. Take care of the people who need you most right now, YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER !!!!!
2007-09-04 05:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have respect for yourself before you will stop accepting men who will treat you badly. Try going with this new doctor and accept that medication is not the cure all for everything. If you are depressed, then antidepressants will help but 5 medications seems excessive. Also when a guy drops you, calling him constantly will not get him back but may get a restraining order against you. They don't owe you an explanation. Accept that they aren't interested and move on. They aren't your mother abandoning you again and again. But definitely talk about the abandonment issues you have regarding your mother. You may think you have accepted that she's gone but when you keep calling the men who have left you insisting on an explanation, it will still only be their explanation. You may never get the explanation you need from your birth mother. Please bring that up in your therapy sessions. Until you truly resolve this issue you might continue to get into relationships with men who will leave you.
2007-09-04 05:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From this day on never expect to be treated like crap by men. You do not need their approval nor do you need any of them to love you. You just need one man. That is it. The rest have nothing to do with you. The past is hurting you and it will take time to get over it but do not let it mess up your today. You are alive, you are a mother and have talents and skills to offer. Stop being depressed. unless you have a chemical imbalance you have to choose not to be depressed by the things that have happened in your life. It will affect EVERYTHING in your life including how you raise your child.
Get your life in order and strive to be happy every day. Experience new things and dont be desperate for love. it is true that everyone needs love but if you make it your daily goal you will be let down over and over again. Be a strong woman and the man you desire will come into you life. Men like confident women. You also want a compassionate man who will HELP take care of you and your child.
So, dont claim that men treat you like crap. those days are over. A new you is here and you are dependent on God and not a man to meet all your needs until He sends the right man for you.
2007-09-04 05:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by dahnnna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a very low self esteem if I might say. Talk with a friend. When men say don't call, don't pester them. Move on. Life have much to offer.
You are lucky you have a great step-mom who cares about you. Don't let your biological mother's action ruin your life.
Try to put you life back together and don't think about relationship, it will come. Good luck.
2007-09-04 05:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by etang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow them to treat you like crap.
I know this probably has something to do with your mom leaving I have the same to an extend (though it was my dad)
Love yourself before letting anybody else love you Take care of yourself (as you are trying to do) then your daughter Be to her the mom that yours wasn't then the rest will follow, but find peace within you and your choices first before loving again. Men are not important You and your daughter are
2007-09-04 05:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In what part of your letter did a man treat you like crap? Sounds like you hounded the poor guy with bullets of telephone calls when he asked you NOT to call. It is good you are getting help, no man or woman wants to be with someone who is so down on themself.
2007-09-04 05:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Frenchafied 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work with your new doctor on the issues that led you to become over-medicated. Then work with him/her on self-esteem and self-confidence issues. Then get going on your job/career again. Then decide if you want to bring another person into your life. But make sure you get your house in order first, that way you will be with that person because you want to be, not because you need to be!
2007-09-04 05:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too needy. You need to find something to do that takes all that passionate energy to do something good. Don't focus all that energy on someone, it scares them.
The good thing is that you will probably find someone that is as passionate about your hobby/job/volunteer work as you and a relationship will develope.
2007-09-04 05:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by mel s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, your time for a man to shower their love over you has not arrived yet. and don't think too much of it, someday the right person will come by and you have your daughter already, take good care of her, love her better than how your mom loves you. (no offence)
2007-09-04 05:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by tedpad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men treat you like crap because you allow them to believe that you are crap stopping acting like crap
2007-09-04 12:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by carryvan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋