My girlfriend's cousin (cousin's husband) is a creepy guy. He constantly stares at and creeps my girlfriend out. Her other family members have noticed it and are grossed out too. Recently they all caught him taking a ridiculous amount of pictures of just her on a family trip. Along with that, she caught him with his head burried in suitcase filled with her undergarments and personal things. Needless to say this infuriates me and I want to do something to protect her from this loser. What should I do?
2007-09-04 04:48:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Clearly. The undergarment thing definitely put it over the top into the 'psycho' category.
The next question is how to intervene?
Clearly things would be more effective if the whole family works together. Absolutely, under no circumstances, should she have to stay under one roof with this guy. If you do have to travel into town, you can protect her by springing for a hotel room [or two if there are propriety issues] (and rental car if necessary - if you are old enough) so that her suitcase and underwear are protected under lock and key (and it would be clearly prosecutable if he got into them there) - and, of course, never prop the door open.
Pay attention to her cues and be ready to stick by her side if she is feeling uncomfortable. Make sure to avoid any PDAs (public displays of affection) around this guy, as he probably gets off on that sort of thing.
Figure out who your allies are. Mom and Dad are probably willing to be protective, brothers, sisters....
Your girlfriend is probably the only person that can actually be confrontive, however, (and I'm just guess that she generally isn't? Based on who these guys usually target). But everyone can watch out for her interests.
I am guessing that group trips with this guy aren't probably in her best interests, but since you are a boyfriend and not a husband, that's not really your choice.
2007-09-04 05:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by hmmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to him but do not do anything physical. Also maybe the cousin needs to know that her husband is creeping everyone else out. I suggest not going on family trips with this guy and your girlfriend should definitely not be anywhere that would leave her alone with this guy.
2007-09-04 11:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EeeWwww, he probably sniffs them to...
Yuck..Whats wrong with people?
My uncle this weekend went to a hippe fest (rock concert)
and well, he returned with some reall akward pictures of a naked man <--------- Okay, so its pretty funny to see a nut case walking around all naked BUT, there is a difference between humor and sick, right?
I think its more then obvious to identify a sicko from a sane-O don't cha think? You should tell her, most people live in denial and never or believe that it won't ever happen to them...
Maybe thats ironic and maybe thats not..But in the mean time are you planing to let this get any further KNOWING what you know about this man?
2007-09-04 12:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is he doing this to your girlfriend? or your girlfriends cousin? Either way tell him that his stupid ways are making every one grossed out. Tell him that every one thinks he is a pervert. Especially the girls...Tell him that they feel sorry for him because he needs to do things like that to get attention from the opposite sex. Ask him if he needs help in meeting a girl more his style. Be ready for a scene, He might not like his faults being thrown in his face. You might want to alert authorities he could want to try to hurt some one. Hell he might just have a record behind him for some perverted thing he has done in the past...
2007-09-04 11:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Bigeyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time for a family meeting. Make sure creepy isn't invited and see how the family wants to deal with it. Let them know how much it bothers you and that you can't stand by and let your girlfriend be treated like that. Perhaps you may have to take separate family trips with them. Ask them for suggestions.
2007-09-04 11:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have more than sufficient grounds to refuse to associate with him at all. Ask that he not be invited to gatherings at which your girlfriend will be present. If he is there, go without her.
I would also have a "conversation" with him. Let him know that you know what is going on and that it's creepy and not acceptable. Hopefully, he'll be shamed into backing off.
2007-09-04 11:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has actually approached her in the physical sense, there is nothing you can legally do. Maybe it would be a good idea to approach his wife with one of her family members and ask her to speak with him that your gf is very uncomfortable around him.
2007-09-04 11:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do her parents know? She should NEVER be alone with this man. If the family will not listen can she tell someone at school or call an abuse hotline...
2007-09-04 11:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say something to someone about this, it's not normal behavior.
2007-09-04 11:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuhh, i think you could ask him privately - just to see where his head is at.
God Bless.
2007-09-04 11:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by EM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋