Questions for the parents?

Question

1) Do you think a child should be punished for something they did accidently?
2) Should physical punishment EVER be used?
3) Should teenagers be given maximum freedom?
4) Should fathers be the ones to give punishments?
5) Aren't mothers better at punishments ?
6) Should parents EVER raise their voices to their children?
7) Should parents act like they own everything or that they are the ruling party?
8) Is a working-mother worse at raising children? Should all mothers be house-wives?
9) Shouldn't a father be the best friend of the child?
10) Shouldn't children learn to be independent? Shouldn't children reason out with things and be rational?

11) Does Physical punishment work with teenagers? Don't they make them rebellious?

Answer 1

1-5 No
6 yes using a stern voice tells them your serious that doesn't mean screaming at the top of your lungs.
7 no
9 half and half but if you can't get the right balance to be a father is better .
10 yes but with guidance that's our job as parents.

Answer 2

1) Do you think a child should be punished for something they did accidently?
No, but you have to talk and show them what happens if one
does not do things with great care.

2) Should physical punishment EVER be used?
No, but I must say I did give a little spanking when my
child was 2. All the talking did not help and after he looked
at me like "oh now I got it". But this only happened once so
a general NO.

3) Should teenagers be given maximum freedom?
No way, that would mean you would let a teenager go to
a titti bar, NO NO. They have to have borders and within these borders they can have total freedom. Should they handle themselves well in the given borders, then you can give them greater borders.

4) Should fathers be the ones to give punishments?
equal rights for all.

5) Aren't mothers better at punishments ?
Dads will give house aeriest and moms will think "what does
he like the most at the moment? - Playstation!"

6) Should parents EVER raise their voices to their children?
It should not be done with anybody, but sometimes it helps!

7) Should parents act like they own everything or that they are the ruling party?
No but that they pay the bills!

8) Is a working-mother worse at raising children? Should all mothers be house-wives?
No way, I am a working mom and my child is great and happy. I guess it depends on how much support u have and
what kind of relationship you have with your child.

9) Shouldn't a father be the best friend of the child?
Both parents should 1. be a parent 2. a friend

10) Shouldn't children learn to be independent? Shouldn't children reason out with things and be rational?
Yes, but each child is different and if you are not rational how can you children be.

In general I would say, don't fu** up where your parents did
and what you parents did good - do a little better.

Answer 3

1) Do you think a child should be punished for something they did accidently? Definitely not.
2) Should physical punishment EVER be used? Hmmmm toughie. There are plenty of adults who received the odd smack as kids and have grown into decent respectful people so I would say yes.....as long as the punisher can differentiate between punishment and abuse!!!!
3) Should teenagers be given maximum freedom? Absolutely not.
4) Should fathers be the ones to give punishments? Whoever is most effective I would have thought.
5) Aren't mothers better at punishments ? see above.
6) Should parents EVER raise their voices to their children? If they are being blatently ignored. Depends on circumstances.
7) Should parents act like they own everything or that they are the ruling party? No. Kids are brought into the world (in most cases!) to be part of the family and should be treated so, loved and guided.
8) Is a working-mother worse at raising children? Should all mothers be house-wives? Not necessarily.
9) Shouldn't a father be the best friend of the child? That would depend on the father.
10) Shouldn't children learn to be independent? Shouldn't children reason out with things and be rational? Yes

Answer 4

1) Do you think a child should be punished for something they did accidently?
Not necessarily. But if the accident was caused because they weren't doing something they were supposed to do, then that should be explained to them.

2) Should physical punishment EVER be used?
Serious physical punishment, like a beat down? No. The occasional spank is different (with little kids).

3) Should teenagers be given maximum freedom?
Only if they have proven themselves to be responsible people can they be given much freedom at all.

4) Should fathers be the ones to give punishments?
Not necessarily.

5) Aren't mothers better at punishments ?
Not necessarily.

6) Should parents EVER raise their voices to their children? Yeah. That happens. Better to keep your cool, but parents are people, too.

7) Should parents act like they own everything or that they are the ruling party?
They are the ruling party.

8) Is a working-mother worse at raising children?
Should all mothers be house-wives?
Not if they can't or don't want to be. Some housewives are so unhappy that they are terrible mothers. Let women be what they need to be.

9) Shouldn't a father be the best friend of the child?
No. Parents are parents, not buddies.

10) Shouldn't children learn to be independent? Shouldn't children reason out with things and be rational?
After they reach an age when they can reason, maybe. But they need to have a clear sense of right and wrong, actions and consequences first.

Answer 5

1) Do you think a child should be punished for something they did accidently?

No

2) Should physical punishment EVER be used?

I believe a spanking can be helpful in some situations. However, don't just hit in the midst of your anger that's when it's dangerous. Spare the rod spoil the child.

3) Should teenagers be given maximum freedom?

No, we see the results everyday when they are...they were given parents for a reason.

4) Should fathers be the ones to give punishments?

Parents should share equally in this role.

5) Aren't mothers better at punishments ?

No

6) Should parents EVER raise their voices to their children?

Maybe not, but I know I'm guilty of it. I think most of us are.

7) Should parents act like they own everything or that they are the ruling party?

When I was growing up they did, and I'm not that old. But I don't run my house like that.

8) Is a working-mother worse at raising children? Should all mothers be house-wives?

No and no.
9) Shouldn't a father be the best friend of the child?

That would be great, and when you survey most kids they site their parent as the most important people in their lives. But, he does not have to be a "best friend", especially after a certain age, what they really need is mutaul respect and an open line of communication.

10) Shouldn't children learn to be independent? Shouldn't children reason out with things and be rational?

Of course! And while they are still children we want to give them opportunites to do just that. That way, when they are adults they will have the skills to think, reason, and cope...and we can know we did our best work!

Answer 6

1. children should never be punished for an accident. Everyone makes mistakes. How would you like to be punished for an accident? Children are just smaller sized people who deserve the same respect as adults
2. maybe a spat when they are small - no physical punishment beyond that
3. Teenagers should be given limited freedom
4 & 5 - Both parents should give punishment. Both parents should be in agreement on the punishment and form a united front
6 - not sure if raising voices is exactly the right thing to do - it usually happens out of frustration - if it can be avoided it should be - anyone yelling makes people nervous
7 - parents should not act like they own everything - that will make a child feel like a tenant in their own home - Parents ARE the ruling party
8 - Working mothers are not worse at raising children & whether or not they should all be housewives is irrelevant because most mothers have to work to be able to feed etc. their children
9- Fathers should NOT be the child's best friend. Father/ protector / provider / leader / teacher first - then friend
10- One of the major jobs of parents is to teach independency throughout childhood so they will be prepared to make their own way

Answer 7

1) Do you think a child should be punished for something they did accidently?

Uh, no.

2) Should physical punishment EVER be used?

Not in my opinion.

3) Should teenagers be given maximum freedom?

No.

4) Should fathers be the ones to give punishments?

Both parents should be on the same page and discipline accordingly.

5) Aren't mothers better at punishments ?

No one parent is "better" at punishments.

6) Should parents EVER raise their voices to their children?

No, but everyone does it. It happens.

7) Should parents act like they own everything or that they are the ruling party?

No. You get respect by giving respect.

8) Is a working-mother worse at raising children? Should all mothers be house-wives?

No and no.

9) Shouldn't a father be the best friend of the child?

No, but they shouldn't be a tyrant, either.

10) Shouldn't children learn to be independent? Shouldn't children reason out with things and be rational?

Yes.

Answer 8

1) Do you think a child should be punished for something they did accidently? Never
2) Should physical punishment EVER be used? no
3) Should teenagers be given maximum freedom? no
4) Should fathers be the ones to give punishments? not always
5) Aren't mothers better at punishments ? no
6) Should parents EVER raise their voices to their children? yes
7) Should parents act like they own everything or that they are the ruling party? no
8) Is a working-mother worse at raising children? Should all mothers be house-wives? no
9) Shouldn't a father be the best friend of the child? no not always
10) Shouldn't children learn to be independent? yes Shouldn't children reason out with things and be rational? yes

Answer 9

1) No
2) Yes (if the child is doing something dangerous)
3) No - Some freedom depending on the child and the situation
4) Both parents should
5) Not always
6) Yes
7) lol...I almost said yes...but no. To create a loving family environment kids need to learn that they have possessions as well and respect for everyone and everything.
8) No, there are many wonderful working mothers out there. I've made the decision to be a housewife but that doesn't make it right for everyone.
9) Both parents should be friends and authoritarians with each child
10) Of course children should learn independence . At each age children want more and more independence, the goal is to get them to total independence by 18. Children should use reasoning skills for their age. A 3 year old can't reason like a 12 year old and the 12 year old cant reason like a 17 year old.

Answer 10

You have one to many questions. I think that parenting will come to you naturally. I think that there are no right answers to your questions. You can buy a parenting book and read up or search on-line.
But in my opinion.
1. NO, but they should be talk to about what happened so that next time it won't.
2. NO, unless you think that it's acceptable to be used on you. (that's child abuse)
3. I don't have teenagers yet, but for one year that I cared for my 13yr old nephew I never gave him "maximum" freedom.
4. It doesn't matter who gives out the punishment as long as both parents agree.
5. No one in particular is better then the other. It just depends on the parents.
6. That's a tricky one for me cause I have with my daughter when she argues back, but has no point.
7. Well parents do own everything unless at a young age your are working and contribute to the spending.
8. No a working mother is not worse at raising a child. My mother was a working mother and she did the best she could and provided all she could on her own. No, all mothers shouldn't be house wives.
9. Either parent can be the best friend. Doesn't necessarily have to be the father.
10. Yes, I think that children should be taught to be independent. I teach that to my own.

Answer 11

1. Absolutely not. It was an accident. They did not plan it. If they hurt someone or broke something, just say "be more careful next time"
2. I am on the fence there. I think that popping hands is okay as long as its not forceful. But I think that most children possess the ability to be reasoned with or at least to understand that time out isn't fun.
3. Absolutely not. Teenagers need boundaries...period.
4. I think the parent who witnesses the action should provide the punishment.
5. Mother's aren't better, they are just normally kinder.
6. Yes...I think that at certain times, a raised voice is necessary to indicate the urgency of a situation...such as if you can't get to the child and they are fixing to hurt themselves or someone else. Other than that, just outright screaming berating is not a good thing.
7. Parents are the ruling party. Children have imput, but the parents are the ultimate decision makers.
8. Working mothers and Stay at home mothers should not be compared. They are two seperate intities and both have their pros and cons. It is an age old debate that should be done away with. Because in the end, all mothers are doing what they do to make the best life they feel they can make for their children.
9. No...a father should strive to make sure his children knows he loves them, but he should never blur the lines between fatherhood and friendship.
10. Children become more independent everyday. Adults often make the mistake of assuming that a child has adult-like reasoning when in fact they do not. It is our job as parents to actually parent and show our children why things are the way they are b/c they don't have the ability to figure those things out. Dont' get me on my soapbox here...Hope your report goes okay.