Okay, so this is the problem. Before I was going out with my boyfriend (before jan. 15, 2007) my baby (my dog) used to be the center of attention and she's really spoiled *she's so cute ^^*
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(old pic) but now, I have another love in my life. She doesn't like him and he doesn't like her. Another thing is, he pushes her around and is mean to her. I mean, I yell at him cause that's not right. But, how can I make them to get along? Any suggestions?
2007-09-04 03:25:59 · 25 answers · asked by K 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
You can't. I'd be telling the boyfriend to take a hike & not to even look back!!!
2007-09-04 03:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by ® 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat as you. I got my yellow Lab when my boyfriend and I were seperated. My Lab is my baby and the love of my life. He is always with me and has always been the center of attention since he was 7 weeks old. My boyfriend and I are now back together and the tow hate each other. They fight like little kids, and they are both jealous of one another. My Lab is 120lbs and is very protective over me so at times it gets hostile when the two get together. My boyfriend has been bit, urinated on and sat on while sleeping. My boyfriend has a healthy respect for my dog but they still hate each other. I am not giving up the dog and I do not want to lose my boyfriend. So I talked with my boyfriend and told him is the human and he needs to make an effort to get along with my dog. If he loved me he would. I also told him how much they both mean to me. I have to stop the dog from killing my boyfriend but my boyfriend has to make an effort to get along with the dog. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him he needs to understand and if he loved you he would. Any one who is mean to a dog is not a good person and he should understand there is no reason to push your dog around. Set rules and if he loved and respect you he would listen and make an effort to accept your dog.
2007-09-04 13:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by TritanBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully the dog will be the more permant fixture in your life.
Men come and go and one who treats animals poorly may not treat humans so well either.
It shows a character flaw in him in my opinion.
I have been in that situation. You can not make them get along. But you can make sure he is not cruel to your pet.
If he is make sure he understands that his actions have conciquences and that you are going to enforce those.
I work with a rescue and have seen many dogs that have come into our program because one of the people in the relationship can or will not accept the dog in their lives.
2007-09-04 11:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by tlctreecare 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that the true kindness of a man's heart can be measured in how he treats animals. My dog is my baby too and she actually growls at my husband if he gets too close to me. I know that is not good behavior from a dog but she loves him too. He gets aggrivated at times but he knows that I would not tolerate it. Have a talk with the boyfriend and if he don't understand....ditch him!!
2007-09-04 10:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by sue2blues 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the boyfriend. If a new man in my life touched my baby....he'd be gone!! I don't know about you, but my dog is like my child...so it would be different than a stranger pushing a real kid around!
2007-09-04 10:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ray Ray 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend's treatment of your dog reveals something very important about his personality. He is self-centered to the point that he is cruel and incompassionate to helpless, dumb animals. It won't be long before he treats you the same way he is treating your dog. After all, isn't your dog an important and beloved extension of yourself?
Find someone who has a heart to give.
2007-09-04 10:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by K 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
This is a BIG red flag honey. Listen to your baby, darling. In fact, whether she likes him or not should be THE deciding factor in any relationship.
This guy is obviously an abusive man who has no business in your life. Ditch him right away.
2007-09-04 10:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend realy cares about you and is worth your time hed respect that the dog was there first and would never be "mean" to her...
they will likely never truly get along (it sounds like hes not even willing to try) but they can co-exist in your relationship with some respect on his part..
personally i wouldnt EVER date a person who is mean to my dogs...
my bf doesnt "like" my dogs, but he knows were a package deal and he respects me and thm, he doesnt help me out with them or take them on walks but he'll sit comfortably in the same room without being mean..
2007-09-04 12:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by Gems 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your boyfriend do things with your dog take him on walks car rides go to the local pet store to pick up food or treats or something. let them have this one on one time to create some sort of bond, it is important for both of them if you want them both in your life good luck!
2007-09-04 11:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by zack h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the boyfriend. A good dog is hard to find.
2007-09-04 10:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Anybody that pushes animals around and is mean to them has some real problems and is very immature. Of course she doesn't like him - he's mean to her. He isn't going to change and anyone who behaves like that is someone to be concerned about. Maybe rethink the choice of boyfriend? You really want someone who is mean to animals?
2007-09-04 10:37:09 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋