Is it possible to find a love partner who is both stable and exciting?

Question

I'm in the process of taking a break from dating in order to re-group and re-evaluate. I have already noticed my tendency to swing back and forth from the quiet or shy types who seem lack initiative and the exciting "player" or busy-aholic types who quickly become bored in relationships and need to run around. I want someone who has learned how to make a commitment and be stable and present in the relationship--and who also knows when it is time to get down, party, and go out paint the town. (Movies, dancing, dining, mad passionate lovemaking...)

I am a very attractive youngish forty-something poet, emerging singer, and college professor who has learned to strike this balance. Players are sexy, but not relationship material.. Party-animals are fun--for a little while. Activists are exciting, but seldom know how to create a stable and loving homelife. Poets are dreamy and idealistic. And the "normal," quiet, sensitive, stay-at-home kind are nice but...

Any ideas?

Answer 1

Several:
1. Do a lot of pre-screening on an Internet dating service and then a lot of dating. Use both your heart and mind. This worked very well for my daughter's second marriage.
2. Have relationships with more than one person at a time with each one meeting some of the needs.

The first is a lot of work. The second violates our society's norms, at least in today's world but may be more "rational". This works for some, but not more most.

Answer 2

...find someone that YOU like physically and mentally first sweetie.....and then hopefully you two will absolutely have the sound minds and bodies to occasionally match witts with one another in a highly "moving forward" constructive kinda attitude with one another positively. Without "positive input darlin?"....you'll get no positive output unfortunately. You'll only get as good as you give sweetie...so give often. Find someone that sorta kinda thinks like you do....and then accept them for who they are reasonably. We are all allowed to be "who we are" with you babe....and you to are allowed to be "who you are" too.....agreed? E-mail me if you need more on this particular subject matter hun....cause I simply LUV bright and soul-filled people and minds darling....and you? LOL!!!