My friend and I were due on the same day (28th Sept) she had her baby at 24 weeks and he sadly died 3 weeks ago aged 2 1/2 months. We are meeting up next week and I want us to do something nice for the babies, what should we do?
2007-09-04 02:52:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
When my daughter died six years ago (aged36hrs) my other kids decided she was the brightest star in the sky. I have since has a star named after her, my kids although older now still class this star as their sister. When the sky is clear I too look up to the sky and speak to my little girl. She will be shining up there long after I've departed.
Sorry for you and your friends grief.
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2007-09-04 04:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad and I am so sorry for your loss and your friend's loss.
It would be really nice for you both to organise to plant a tree each nearby in memory of your babies. Perhaps somewhere that is really pretty, somewhere you can visit and sit quietly and reflect and remember them? Perhaps add a little plaque at the bottom of the tree? It can be somewhere you and your friend (and future children, God willing) visit in the future.
On the day you and your friend catch up, I really like the idea of letting balloons go into the air and having a good cry with your friend. Maybe you can talk to her about a more permanent memorial on that day? You should also both spend the day talking about your babies and your grief and letting it all out. It will make you feel closer to your babies and help with the grieving process.
Good luck Barbie x x x x x x
2007-09-04 03:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
geeeeez!!! I am so sorry for you and your friend, why not have a nice little private memorial service for your family and friends family. I am so sorry to hear about you loss, my feelings are for you.
Also, the person above has a fantastic idea. Maybe plant a little tree for each of the babies, so you can watch it grow which the babies never had a chance to. It will last for a long time, and every time you look at it, it will bring you a sense of relief that you have done something.
Once again I am sorry.
2007-09-04 06:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really sorry to hear about your lost . I think planting something would be a good thing . Everytime you visited the place you could have a little time together . All the best and take care . Not very good with these kind of questions .
2007-09-04 06:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i'd like to say how sorry i am on your sad situation my thoughts are with you completely.
Anything you like love. Maybe buy some nice balloons then set them free in a nice place where you and your friend feel comfy. Not sure what to say as i can only imagine how upsetting all this may be for you both.
But whatever you decide im sure both of you will make it special xx
2007-09-04 03:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Foxie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really sad..i lost my son 3 years ago and i miscarried 13 weeks ago as well. i suggest u plant a nice flower or plant in memorial of ur two precious babies..its so hard to lose a child..go out for a nice dinner as well and genuinely talk bout how u both feel.it will help u alot talkin with someone who has experianced the same thing..god bless u both...x
2007-09-04 04:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a memorial garden, a memory book, go to Build a Bear and make a angel bear. I lost a baby girl at 21 weeks last Aug and my sister made a pink bear for me and got an angel outfit for it. The adoption papers has our daughter's name on them. I collect angels for her memory shelf. I also plan in a few years when my son is older (She was born the day after his 2nd birthday) planting a tree and having a plaque with her name on it. There is also a website where you can put your baby's name birth/death date on it. www.angels4ever.com. If your friend has a website for her son she can put the link to it. You can also put your baby's name with the date of your miscarriage. They also have a link to the yahoo support group for women that have lost babies to miscarriage, sids, etc.
2007-09-04 03:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 11:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think planting something would be a nice thing to do, as a lasting memory of them, it means you have something to grow and it represents the life they would have had.
I am really sorry to hear this, its very sad, you have one another to lean on and I send you best wishes and hopes that you will have happy times with new children one day xxx
2007-09-04 03:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by peroxide.pixie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry, it's nice that you want to do something to remember.
Everyone is right, planting a tree would be a nice remembrance to your babies.
2007-09-04 03:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by luvDepecheMode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋