I was with my ex for nearly 2 years, we broke up and we were still friends, but then i went after him and he really humiliated me infront of his friends and new lady friend. So after that i didnt speak to him for a while. But then i rang him up a few weeks after, and i said i still love him and think about him, and he said hes going out with someone and all he thinks about is me and everything reminds him of us and that he still loves me. So after that i met up with him, thinking i still had a chance to get back and he said no and that he doesnt love me the way i love him and the way he used to. If he still thinks about me, why is he with someone else, why didnt he wanna get back with me, i dont know why im still in love with him after all hes put me through. He said he loved me and he said he doesnt, how can he have moved on so fast. Is he in a rebound relationship? Someone please help me understand this, i cant move on, its so difficult because im in love with him.
2007-09-04 02:33:40 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take he word love out of that question and it all sounds a bit pathetic. Think about it.
2007-09-04 02:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
hi . it is sad when you break up with someone you still love,but you need to move on like he has , when he said he still loves you i think he means as a friend not as a lover. he doesnt sound like he is in a rebound relationship i just think the relationship between the two of you had run its course as far as he was concerned,of course he will still think about you at times im sure you had some great times together and everyone likes to remember the good things that happen i their lives,you could perhaps see a counsellor and talk it through and understand that these things however painful happen and get yourself back on track you have to let him go .you probably are feeling as if you arent worth much at the moment but trust me you are and it will take a while but you will get over this and find someone new ,maybe not this week ,next month or even next year but when the time is right it will happen. go out with your mates have a good time you dont have to be part of a couple to have fun.xx
2007-09-04 02:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by her with the mad ginger hair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me he thinks about you, but he didn't say what he thinks about. He has moved on, and so should you. I know it hurts, but in the long run, it will be for the best. I know, because I have been there. You just have to make yourself do things. When he said he still loves you , maybe he does but in a different way...maybe he knows that you two would never work and truly be happy in the end. Good luck .....move on and don't look back.
2007-09-04 02:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why u are confused. I think about allot of people that does not mean i want to get back with them. It simply means that I care for them and they ran across my mind. He could absolutely love u just not in the way u love him. If u resisted more. Meaning not making Ur self seem so desperate then he may start paying some attention. He already let u know he's in a new relationship , he not calling u Ur calling him. Let him be if its meant to be then it will be .
2007-09-04 02:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by KORIN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i appreciate this isnt what you are going to want to hear but he is messing you around! he knows you love him and hes using this as an excuse to make a mug out of you. he humiliated you and strung you along, dont let him treat you like this anymore. i know you love him and its hard to move on from a relationship that lasted so long, but over time it will get easier trust me. when i split up with my last boyfriend i found it really hard, i didnt think id ever move on because i loved him so much but after a couple of months feeling sorry for myself i realised he wasnt as special as i thought. in fact the opposite, and i was really glad the relationship was over. one day you will look back on it and think the same as me. until then you need to keep your mind off him, find something else to do go out with friends and have fun etc. you will meet someone decent one day. he obviously isnt the man he was before, and if he loved you enough he wouldnt have got straight with other women. sounds like it should be left as it is. show him you are a strong woman and you dont need him. he will feel like such a fool one day when he realises he made a mistake and wants you back. by then you will have moved on with another man who treats you right. see it as a good thing. sorry if i sound too forward but this is the realistic slap in the face i needed and got when i split with my ex so one day you will see sense in what ive said. good luck.
2007-09-04 02:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's only leading you on, you have to move it because he has, don't believe what he's telling you, it's not fair that he has moved on and your still in a rut, you need to find someone new and forget totally about him, he doesn't deserve you to keep pondering over him, when all he's doing is dating other people. Don't wait for him, because he isn't waiting for you! See for yourself, if someone still have feelings for another they would just through it all away just like that, they'll make it work, but he isn't makeing anything work. Please move it's the best thing for you now! Good luck! i hope everything works out well for you! kisses
lil miss vixion
2007-09-04 02:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by LIL MISS VIXION 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you love him, but he doesn't return your love. It looks like you are forcing yourself on him.You love him for what? If you want him for a husband, you had better looked elsewhere for he seems an inconstant personality - a butterfly he appears to be, ready to sample any available flower. Let gold be sold to those who know its value.Certainly this guy doesn't know your value and why he should commit himself to you. Don't make yourself cheap, or are you? Be warned though: a dog that is fated to get lost will not heed the whistle of its hunter owner.
Best of luck!
2007-09-04 03:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by oluremi o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missy, I know you say you're desperate and that it probably hurts and that's all true, but your love for him is far greater then his love ever was for you. That's why you are still hurting so bad and he as moved on. I'm sure he does still think of you and have many of fond memories of when the two of you were together. But he has moved on and you should too.
2007-09-04 02:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mark J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants what he wants, with whomever will give it to him at the time. He obviously can't be trusted and you deserve better. Stop calling him and move on. He's a user. Find a steady, trustworthy guy and don't look back. Good luck and be strong.
2007-09-04 03:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by kbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunni you really deserve more than this. this guys playing you he knows how you feel about him and that if he clicks his fingers you will come running (sry to be harsh) the best thing you can do is forget about this loser and move on! go out with your girly friends and have a good time being single. he'll soon realise what a d**k hes been when he sees you out and about lookin gorgeous and havin fun! be glad you got out when you did cuz anyone who treats you like this is soooo not worthy of your time x good luck x
2007-09-04 02:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games....because he knows you want him...it makes him feel good that he can have you whenever he wants....
You need to not come off so desperate & really make him think you don't care....just don't pick up when he calls and when u see him, pass him by & keep walking
he'll want you back after that, when he does, don't take him back, move on
that should teach him a lesson & make you fell hella GOOD!!!!!!!!
hahaha
2007-09-04 02:39:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋