2007-09-04 02:05:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There are no single set of Jewish beliefs regarding sex before marriage. Hopefully someone like allonyoav will be along to fill in the Orthodox views.
In general, Judaism is far more comfortable with sex than Christianity. (Remember that Paul and co were absolutely convinced that the second coming would happen during their lifetimes, which led them to consider procreation as an unnecessary distraction.) Sex is a normal, wonderful beautiful part of life that nourishes a relationship and the people involved. As such, it should be undertaken with respect and care.
The Orthodox limit that to marriage. Other Jews don't.
2007-09-04 04:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you boil down the holy texts, then Cristianity is just another version of Judaism, and Islam a third version.
Most secular Muslims, Jews and Christians act very much the same. The difference occurs in Northern Western European Civiliations, where there is a modern relaxation of moral standards.
Many quote a variety of verses (ie "There shall be no harlot in Israel") as evidence of a commandment against pre-marital sex. In my reading and understanding there is no specific law against it, but the union of Adam and Eve ("therefore shall a woman leave her father...") and the strict rules concerning taking a wife as spoil from battle (she has to shave her head and live under roof for a month, if memory serves me correctly, so as to discourage simple reaping the spoils) would indicate to me that sex within marriage is the optimum goal - much the samr as most religious rules - thus Jews view pre-marital sex as wrong.
Jewish Laws, which are strictly observed only by a minority of Jews (primarily orthodox Jews), prohibits sex outside the context of marriage and restricts the times marital sex can be practiced. Jewish Law forbids both pre-marital and extra-marital sex. In addition, Jewish Law, specifically 'Family Purity Laws', forbids sexual relations when the wife is ritually impure (niddah). These Jewish Laws of Separation maintain that couples must abstain from sexual relations from the onset of the wife's menstrual cycle, through her five day menstrual cycle and seven post-menstrual days, and until she has purified herself by immersion in a mikvah (specific type of bath designed for the purpose of ritual washing).
In sum, Judaism, in contrast to some other religions, does not view sex as intrinsically dirty or evil. According to Judaism, sex is a mitzvah (act of human kindness) if it is done with love, within a marriage, and at the proper time.
In Jewish law, sex is not considered shameful, sinful or obscene. Sex is not thought of as a necessary evil for the sole purpose of procreation. Although sexual desire comes from the yetzer ra (the evil impulse), it is no more evil than hunger or thirst, which also come from the yetzer ra.
Sex is the woman's right, not the man's. A man has a duty to give his wife sex regularly and to ensure that sex is pleasurable for her. He is also obligated to watch for signs that his wife wants sex, and to offer it to her without her asking for it. The woman's right to sexual intercourse is referred to as onah, and it is one of a wife's three basic rights (the others are food and clothing), which a husband may not reduce.
Jewish law clearly prohibits male masturbation. This law is derived from the story of Onan (Gen. 38:8-10), who practiced coitus interruptus as a means of birth control to avoid fathering a child for his deceased brother. G-d killed Onan for this sin. Although Onan's act was not truly masturbation, Jewish law takes a very broad view of the acts prohibited by this passage, and forbids any act of ha-sh'cha'tat zerah (destruction of the seed), that is, ejaculation outside of the vagina. In fact, the prohibition is so strict that one passage in the Talmud states, "in the case of a man, the hand that reaches below the navel should be chopped off." (Niddah 13a)
There is a myth that orthadox Jews make love through a sheet, but this is just a toilet sheet Talitot Katan, what a woman can wear when in a bath, to hide her body.
2007-09-04 18:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by DAVID C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
udaism regards sex as being similar to eating and drinking. Eating and drinking are natural and potentially beneficial bodily functions. If done improperly, eating and drinking can become hurtful and shameful. If done properly, eating and drinking can be satiating and joyful. If done according to God's commandments (with blessings, a festive meal on Purim, four cups of wine on Passover ...), the mundane acts of eating and drinking can even be elevated to holy acts.
Likewise, Judaism sees improper sex as illicit and sinful, but proper sex as a sanctified act. Jewish Law provides guidelines for proper sexual relations.
The Torah states, "it is not good for man to be alone" (Gen. 2:18). Judaism views marriage as the essential means to companionship, intimacy and love.
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Just as God created the first man, Adam, and the first woman, Eve, from one body, the act of marriage returns us to oneness and completes us. Judaism values sex as a means of strengthening vitally important marital bonds.
Furthermore, the Torah states, "Be fruitful and multiply" (Genesis 1:28). This commandment elevates sex within marriage to a holy act. Couples engaging in sex for the purpose of procreation are fulfilling the word of God.
Jewish Laws, which are strictly observed only by a minority of Jews (primarily orthodox Jews), prohibits sex outside the context of marriage and restricts the times marital sex can be practiced. Jewish Law forbids both pre-marital and extra-marital sex. In addition, Jewish Law, specifically Family Purity Laws, forbids sexual relations when the wife is ritually impure (niddah). These Jewish Laws of Separation maintain that couples must abstain from sexual relations from the onset of the wife's menstrual cycle, through her five day menstrual cycle and seven post-menstrual days, and until she has purified herself by immersion in a mikvah.
In sum, Judaism, in contrast to some other religions, does not view sex as intrinsically dirty or evil. According to Judaism, sex is a mitzvah if it is done with love, within a marriage, and at the proper time.
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2007-09-04 09:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
Probably the same as most other religions.
You should not do it.
Wait until you are married.
Both Christianity and Islam have their roots in Judaism, so their rules of behavior are similar.
2007-09-04 09:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
its also not allowed in jew
2007-09-04 09:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋