What is a good age distance between siblings?
2007-09-03 23:07:39 · 14 answers · asked by Rhonda C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have 2 girls 22 months apart and trying for # 3 but people seem to think I'm some kind of whack job for spacing them approx 2 years apart.
2007-09-04 01:01:48 · update #1
It really doesn't matter. I tried to space mine out 3 to 4 years, but they still get on each others nerves. There is positive and negatives to both ways. Closer together, your out of each stage faster, but the rivalry is a bit stronger.
2007-09-07 20:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that it is entirely up to you. Having babies close together takes a great toll on your body, but if you are in good enough health to support it, you can have them as close together as your fertility & God allows. (Breast feeding is not a reliable form of birth control, BTW. My youngest 2 are 18 mo. apart because of this!) My own personal experience is having 3 where the first 2 were 2 years apart exactly to the day, and the others are 18 mo. Right now they are 7, 5 & 4. It is nice because they are all playmates to eachother and no one is greatly ahead developmentally, just enough to encourage inspiration. I have to admit, though, the thought of them all going to college so close together terrifies me!
2007-09-03 23:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by DavisDiva 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have 7 minutes between first and second!!
Then about 3 years, we have just start trying again and the twins will turn 2 next Saturday!
It is how you will cope! A girlfriend has 3 kids under 4 my sister in-law has a 3-4 year gap between kids!
Everyone is different
2007-09-03 23:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by *Charli* Mamma Di Gemini's 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a 'perfect' age gap, but from experience no less than 2yrs! (its would just be too hard with 2 kids under 2!!!)Upwards from there to 4yrs is probably the best. More than 4yrs and I think the kids are too distanced from each other as they are just never able to play together with similar ideas and abilities. They can be 'helpers' but I would rather my kids be able to relate and play well together than have an older child be my helper.
I have 2yrs 7mths between mine and I love it! They have been able to play well since the younger one was 10mths old (he walked at 9mths so could start to keep up with her) and now that they are 2.5yrs and 5yrs they are the best of mates. There are squabbles, but what kids don't argue?
My sister is 4yrs & 8mths older than me, then my brother is 2yrs &8 mths older than me and we get along so well together.
At the end of the day, its personal preference as to what you can handle so go with your gut.
2007-09-03 23:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More importantly - how well can you cope with very young children? A friend of mine has 4 kids under 6. Horrific! I think 2 years is a nice gap. Gives you a chance to get your wind back!
2007-09-03 23:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Noodle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... My brother and I are four years apart, and it was kind of hard to play together as kids. I'd say no more than five years is good, but ideally, I'd say two or three, because the kids will have a lot more in common.
2007-09-04 09:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have six kids and there is 15 months between the first 2 then my third came along 16 months later, my fourth 3 years later then my fifth and sixth were both 2 years between them and id have to say from experience that 3 years is great, as your toddler should be toilet trained at that age and they are old enough to understand that you are not pushing them aside and they make great little helpers at three.
2007-09-03 23:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by cherie w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my eldest son was 13 months when we had our second.
It was hard at first but I love it now!
they are best friends,they play together,they eat together,they always have company in each other.
Which makes my life easier esp when I am having my third baby in 5 weeks(and counting)
My youngest will be 22 months and the eldest turns 3, 2days after baby is born!
It all depends on the individual.
2007-09-03 23:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by gym junkie mummy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think 2 years is a good age between sibilings. that way they have some things in common but not too close in age.
2007-09-04 00:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In april i will have 4 kids under 6 i used contraception with them all!!! before they came along i didnt want any children. So my answer it depends on if you hav good paitence u hav
2007-09-04 01:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by sexiebum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋