Why my husband complained if I go to the store or with my friends for 4 hours. He complained coz I set infront of the computer when I wake up. Anything that he can find to complain and get mad at. He's not working he completely retired because of his back surgery. Why get mad at me for just these. I clean the house except when we've barbecue he'll cook then he'll get mad at me too because he's the one doing the cooking. Why he get mad at just for these? Anyone can explain to me why some husband is like this?
2007-09-03 22:26:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Has this happened out of the blue? Or was he a little this way before the back operation, and its gotten worse? It could be a bit of depression, caused by the change in his situation, leaving him feeling "What now?"
I think the problem is with him - he is feeling useless, unappreciated, and doesn't know what to do with himself and is taking his frustrations out on you. When working, he had a network of people which he saw, now he's stuck at home. He made need help to work through this, whether medication, counseling, occupational therapy, or a combination of all three.
He probably resents that, when he feels his life is over (at least as he knew it) while yours goes on as normal. Bear with him, get him help. You can both come out of this a stronger couple, if you're willing to work together.
2007-09-03 23:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there i bet youre husband was a hard working man that had a full time job and was quite pleased with the job he had ,and now that he is not working he is frustrated at this and to get this sorted out you need to talk to him and let him know that he is always moaning about things ,i bet also that when he was working he hardly moaned ? you need to become a team again and work through this but dont be a doormat and take it ,he needs a hobby by the sound of things .......next time he has a moan say to him do want sause with that .....as youre bitting my head of again ,it might waken him up a bit to his moaning and it is a cheeky way of having a shot back at him ,that is what i say to my husband when he is having a moan at me over something and he does take note and says sorry later ......good luck with this and take care xx
2007-09-03 23:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 03:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby needs to visit with relations/friends (socialize) and get a hobby.
It would benefit you both to discuss planning and *taking* little get-aways as well as going out on simple dates such as going out for dessert an hour or two after dinner etc. Plan a home spa night ...great stress relief for both of U.
2007-09-04 00:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not happy. Sit down and talk with him on a serious loving note. Tell him how you feel and find out why he's not happy. Pray about it, Jesus always helps.
2007-09-03 23:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he means to hurt you, he is probaly jsut stressed and aggitaded, not that it is okay, but my husband was out of work, and the more he just laid around, the worse he got, he was controlling and hatefull about everything, if he had something to occpupy him during th eday, he might not be so pissy.
2007-09-03 22:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Complain to him about his being home all the time and thinking he's somebody's boss.
2007-09-04 00:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bend over backwards for this jerk. **** him! Where did he get the idea that he is a king, that needs to be served? I'd tell him to go to hell.
2007-09-03 22:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, seems to me you don't spend enough time w/ him...you spend time w/ your friends and spend time on the computer... you need to cherish your husband, that was the vow... spend time w/ the man girl, don't deprive him or he will look for someone else to spend time w/ him! =(...
2007-09-04 00:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him hard in the butt and then explain the whole situation
2007-09-03 22:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by baby gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋