Is It ME.. Or I've Just Met The WRONG Guys My Entire Life? I need advice!?

Question

Okay, I'm going to be truthfully honest in this question cuz I desperately really need to find an answer to myself. what the h3ll is wrong with me?

I'm an attractive 25 years old female. I got tons of male and female friends. I can almost attract any males I met. They like me and adore me. I have a nice heart and a shiny personality. I have a sparkling smile and good sense of humour. Every one tells me that I am sexy and gorgeous. Girls think I am a men-killer. However, I treat everyone equally, I am nice with all of them.

I've met two men and the same damn thing happened

At first, they were so into me, they really liked me and I liked them too. As I wasn't ready for a serious relationship, I always love to start things lightly. we started as a romantic friends.

Just any other lovers, we held hands, dated and made love. Things were great. however, eventually, I found them drawing themselves away from me. They kinda avoiding me.

They treat me nicely and very sweet but they seem to be would be better off without having me, even only as a friend. They kinda avoiding me and seem would rather not knowing me since then.

I was hurt cuz I don’t get it. Why would they want to end this friendship?

I’ve noticed they both have things in common
1. They both always feel insecure being with me
2. They are both jealous
3. They are both a lot older than me (one is 6 years and another is 15 years older than me)

My friends told me cuz they might have fallen in love with me.
Okay, so if this is the case, why wouldn’t they tell me so? Guys, seriously, If you’ve fallen in love with a girl, would you just let her go like this? Would you let this opportunity slipped by?

If they just want a fling, why can’t we just be friends? Why would they want to be totally out of my life? Even though I know.. They will miss me

I need time to develop serious feelings toward them and get into serious relationship.

We enjoy each others' company so much. why is this?

FYI, I wasn't with them both at the same time. I'm just stating them both here.

I’d have to disagree with gigi answer
It’s not about sex. It’s not what they wanted. I know it. They would rather spend more time with me, they are not like fcking me all the way kinda guy. I now it. I’m grown up enough to know this. If they are all fckers, I’d not bother asking this question. I’d just kick them in the a s s

Answer 1

Hi GLS,
It isn't you. It's the guys you get involved with.

They lack the depth of character to handle a relationship with you. If they are jealous and insecure, it is something they need to work on and not have it affect others. You are an attractive and ambitious young woman and if a man is insecure he will distance himself from the person or thing that brings out this trait.

Even if they were attracted to you, during friendship and building a relationship with you, when it moves beyond that to a deeper intimate level - an insecure or jealous person is going to feel like there isn't another level beyond that. They would rather cut ties with you and start over with someone else, than to try and work on their issues and maintain a relationship with you.

I'm not justifying what they have done, or trying to make it "make sense" this is just what I have seen guys do to friends of mine and it causes nothing but confusion and hurt.

The worst thing you can do to yourself is ask 'is it me?'
Because it's clearly not.

good luck ~

Answer 2

You noticed they both have very similar things in common?
I think that You are the problem in as much as you didn't learn from the first one to spot the same flaws in the second.

You also need to learn to be a bit more modest "They like me and adore me. I have a nice heart and a shiny personality. I have a sparkling smile and good sense of humour. Every one tells me that I am sexy and gorgeous. Girls think I am a men-killer." - for heaven's sake stop being so full of yourself and thinking you are so perfect - before everyone starts hating you for being so up yourself.

Answer 3

Maybe they just plan on using and abusing you. They ARE in fact, a lot older than you like you said. Older guys hook up with young chicks to get a rush...Then they go back to their wives/girlfriends their own age. Also, maybe they're just not that into you.

You also seem very narcissistic and too into your image. Get over yourself. That may also be the reason why. Maybe they think that you always try to make everything about "you", and you don't let others have some attention once in a while.

Answer 4

Cld it be that they can see thru u that ur not so keen on a serious relationship and thought maybe he is wasting his time on u and just move on? Or perhaps they have met someone else and since ur just taking things lightly, they don't think it's a problem at all moving away from u.

When a guy loves a girl, he will tell her and if she is not taking it seriously than the guy will tend to move along and avoid her.

Answer 5

They might think that they are not the right one for you as you are a perfect girl, so they have to move on to the other girl for the right one. Hey, i have one idea, tell them that you love them if you really. Tell them that you need them. Remember that if you want someone love you,you have to love them first. They will never love you if you dont love them. They might be move on because they think that you dont love them. You know, you are almost all my character.but now i changed. I started to tell someone that i love him. I would not keep and try to hide it like before anymore. I think that you are a kind of person that can not accept something new easily, is it right ? This is the way am I.Because of this, so many nice guy move on from me and have another girl. It is so sad. But i dont know how to accept things a little bit faster. can you tell me ?

Answer 6

I think I can help you....
It seems you are attracting the wrong guys ..thats one .
Second is some bad energy that is driving them away. A patch of bad luck it seems....
You send me your date of birth time and place{ city, state. country] present location and a recent picture and I will try to help you. I am an experienced Astrologer and a Psychic and have resolved many such issues.
All the best

Answer 7

in a nutshell girl... your too young to get into serious relationships the 20's is a time to get to know yourself, likes, dislikes, what YOU want in life and in a man, this is the sussing out stage of your life, slow down dont be in such a hurry and even if you do like the one your with, slow it down, keep him guessing add a little mystery dont always be at their beck n call, live your life for you... cos girlfriend it doesnt matter how gorgeous and sexy you are once they know your hooked they run for the hills....

Answer 8

I would not sleep with them. It is like when you sleep with them, they get what they want and move on. They probably see you as a trophy and once they get you they move on. Maybe you should choose different men. Ask your girlfriends that are successful in their relationships to help you choose a good guy. It sounds like you choose bad men. Some girls just naturally choose bad men. You may need someone else to help you choose a good guy for you. It sounds like you have the whole package, but you lack the skills in choosing good guys. Some girls just always pick bad guys. You may be one of them.

Answer 9

Hun, I'm going to guess that both of these guys are shy. And are not use to alot of attention from women and/or have been burned alot by them. Just take it slow and reassure the one you love every day about how you feel for him.
I'll try to figure out more of what I'm trying to tell you then I'll email it to you.

Answer 10

Maybe they started to fall in love and remembered that you dont want a serious relationship so freaked out and pulled back to avoid getting hurt.