I have never had a boyfriend...and Im 25! People are calling me names. I always try to be myself but I still cant get a boyfriend. I just want to settle down with a nice guy. Im wondering if I should go for plastic surgury. I do like one guy but i dunno if he likes me...should I ask him out. I dont wana look like a total twit but i just realy want a boyfriend. I try to be patient but I dont know if I can do it for much longer. I conciderd boob enlargment but I think they are in a big enough bra anyway. I watch my diet and i have a nice enough figure...according to my friends. but no guys ever seem to go for me. What can I do? Boys - what can I do? What do guys like girls to do? Ladies - What can i do!! How did you get a boyfriend?
2007-09-03 20:40:08 · 24 answers · asked by poisenpriness121 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well. I don't think losing weight is the answer nor any type of "enhancement" surgery. I believe great things come to those who wait. It sounds like you are very attractive but have just struck out for a bit. Have patience please.
2007-09-03 20:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kyle B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why in the world would people call you names? And why would you consider plastic surgery? Or boob enlargement? You need to change the group of friends you are hanging with - there aren't enough available single men for you in that group. What are you interested in? Do you like physical sports - for example, could you join a cycling club? Did you go to University - can you become active in some alumni activities? Is there anything that interests you that will make you step out of your circle of friends and meet new people?
Do you have girlfriends who can fix you up with blind dates?
You are a person looking for a boyfriend, what you need is a guy looking for a girlfriend. You may think that just because a guy is single, he's looking, but that may not be true.
That's why dating services are so popular.
If you can find a speed-dating service (speed dating just sends you through a series of meetings in a public place, the meetings are very very short and people size each other up and make snap decisions about whether they want to learn more about each other...), you might meet a large number of new people that way.
Are you shy? Do you listen attentively and with interest or do you just listen in a passive way that doesn't invite conversation?
According to your friends, you have a nice enough figure. So, according to your friends, what is your problem?
Unfortunately, the simplest way to meet men is to meet them on the job, in a bar after work (go with a friend who is also interested in meeting men, don't go alone) and it takes many visits to the same bar to find out if there are many single available men there.
Look for something in common. Even in a bar, sharing a drink is having something in common.
2007-09-04 03:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY--slow down--you have to be proud of who you are and what nature gave you---no operation will change anything except the amount of money in your wallet. And real nice men don't marry boobs--they want the total woman.Now look and see if the clothes are neat and clean and up to date--I mean stylish and becoming to you. AND grooming--are you well groomed and wearing an appropriate hairdo, kept real neat and clean. Are you interesting to be around??--certainly real nice men like an interesting woman. You better change where you hang out--get to different places--where you go now is NOT working. You need to be approachable--stand tall and say HI to everyone--be that girl that is known for being nice. How about hobbies and stuff that you can do to bring you into contact with available men?There just has to be some stuff that needs a little tune up to meet and keep a man.Be honest and then work on that stuff. When you do meet a guy--let it all be nice and slow and respectful--never settle for second best just to say you have someone--that never works--go for the best. Relax, smile and Good luck
2007-09-04 03:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes if you don't seem desperate, the guys will come to you. Try to be friendly and at least act happy. Smile. Don't listen to "people". If they're calling you names, you need a new bunch of friends. Take some classes, join some clubs -- get busy. Try to be your own best friend and then you'll seem more like someone a guy would want to know. If you can put yourself in places where you'll meet guys with similar interests maybe something will happen. You could even find somebody nice at church.
A dose of self-confidence would help. A guy that's only interested in you because of your looks isn't worth knowing. Shallow.
Sometimes when you least expect it, things will happen!
2007-09-04 03:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop TRYING to get a boyfriend. From experience they seem to come easier when you aren't looking. I'm 27yo and single, and I have had several relationships, and none of them have worked. I was always looking for someone, and every time i met some guy I went into it thinking he could be the one, instead of just seeing where it led on its own.
New approach is not to care, Not to look. And guess what....they are everywhere. I'm no oil painting, and certainly do not have a great figure, but my theory is if i am going to find a keeper he will be the one person who sees past my flaws and loves me for me.
I don't think surgery would be a good idea. I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you. Just enjoy being single while you can and someone just right will come along when you least expect it.
2007-09-04 03:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by loza500 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First and foremost...RELAX! Most men hate to rush into anything but a one night stand. If you seem desperate you'll drive away most guys and only attract ones that want quick sex.
If you're not fit, get fit NOW. If your wardrobe and make up is outdated, change it NOW. These two thing will mean that you should attract men no matter how shy you are. Think of all your activities and how you can meet good people through them. Don't just work on meeting men in bars. Work, hobbies, sports, church, friends of friends....there should literally be hundreds of people you can connect with.
DO NOT consider cosmetic surgery just to meet people, its definitely not a "visual only: thing. If you're not a good conversationalist, then work on that step by step. The best advice is look good, act aloof, be as confident as you can and the men will come to you.
2007-09-04 03:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by the_kidfrost 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well to answer best i can here goes .. no don't do no surgery stay as you are a real true man/boy/gentleman will like you just the way you are to me surgery is putting on a false front and fake stay yourself this is not the 70's no more its alright for a girl to ask a guy out for a date you never know you may have a male friend that admires you and is afraid to ask you out now days its hard to find a boyfriend/girlfriend that likes/loves you for you not for what you can do or what you have love comes from the inside not beauties or the money or the toys you have i hope this helps and you find the one your looking for
2007-09-04 03:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by tamming_the_wildone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi .. just be yourself.
I've a female friend whom was single too. End of the day, her perservance paid off with a nice knight and a wonderful marriage.
It is good to scrutinise guys who comes along in your life. The first relationship always fail (Of course there are rare exception) and accompanied by lots of sadness and regrets ... Therefore, it's good to go into a relationship, esp the first one with ease. Don't rush into a relationship and get yourself undesirable sadness when the guy simply needs a female body (Why waste your nice body) to vent his sexual needs. Get it ??
25 years is young .. This is the time to go around knowing more friends (Guys and ladies include) .. Expand your social circle and lives a enriching life-style. No reason or needs to commit into a relationship yet.
Just get on with your life now ... Be thankful that you don't have sad experience on relationship, when your female friends are crying their heart out.
Take care.
2007-09-04 04:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by @/eX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you shouldn't be down on yourself. There is nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend, no matter what age you are. I'd like to think that you're picky, like me. It's best to wait for that special someone that'll match your needs. Don't settle, nothing but heartache and disappointment. Trust me, I'm settled but got burned in the end. Now, I'm just waiting for that special someone that is WORTHY of me, not the other way around. Try it, you're only 25. You've got a long way to go before you find someone that's compatible. It could be tomorrow, next week. You just have to wait.
2007-09-04 03:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by for7949 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may appear to unapproachable. Hold you head up high and if you see a nice looking guy, give him a few extra moments when you glance at him. Always smile and be friendly. Ask some coworkers or friends to fix you up. Join some clubs such as book clubs, social clubs, etc., so that you can meet other people. the main thing is to look friendly and approachable. Your body language is probably your biggest problem. there are books on how to improve your body language at the library and at the book stores.
2007-09-04 03:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dating is about attitude. If you appear too needy or desperate men are repelled. Most men seem to want a woman who is unattainable.
You need to be confident in who you are as a woman!
NEVER EVER do anything because someone is teasing you into. If you are not ready to date, then don't. If you are ready, trying reading some self help books on confidence!
Make your inside more appealing before ever considering surgery!!! I have seen very homely women happily in love and women with fake breasts in miserable relationships!
2007-09-04 03:50:57 · answer #11 · answered by ANGEL Baby 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋