I'm twenty and she's 29. plus has a kid who is about 10. we have known each other for years.
2007-09-03 19:28:32 · 11 answers · asked by blackb.gates2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I like what Peggy S. says, but to add to that, if you can convince that woman you're asking about or even prove to her that you can be a good, consistent help to her in supporting her and her child, then I'd say go for it!
By the way, I've gone on several dates with women 9 years my senior, myself, before settling on someone who's just about 4 1/2 years older than me. I'm 33 at the moment.
Oh, but I don't know if I'd go with all of what Steel Dude, Shmooks, zxcv, Kimba, or Ari-ah are saying, and maybe some others will say, because no matter what, age DOES matter at least somewhat. Because for example, you, at 20, wouldn't want to date an 88-year-old lady, would you? NAW! And you, at ANY age, wouldn't want to date a 5-year-old, right? There, so age DOES matter, at least to some degree! But naww, just 9 years older than you--since you're legal--shouldn't be a problem, given these other advisements.
Good luck,
Mike
2007-09-03 19:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well that situation means there is a package deal, here. She has a kid and that kid is a part of the relationship--she can't not think of her child--and that kid is going to get older and demand MORE of moms time. So sharing mom with a kid is going to be tough--You are not the father and probably will find this sharing to be difficult--since you are at the age to start going out and having fun. She can't go and stay out all night or go away for a weekend, or go out at all when the kid is sick, or in school activities. Why would you even consider this? This is more than just a woman ---it is a woman and a kid. Give it some thought before you decide 2 years from now that this is NOT working the way you want.
2007-09-03 19:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What could you likely have in difficulty-loose with an 18 year old? i'm 33, and that i discover some 25 year olds to be rather immature. it must be a stressful element to marry somebody so youthful, because of the fact they're going to extremely advance and alter. think of of your psychological state once you have been 18, whilst in comparison with the way you're actually at age 38. you likely see the international in an quite distinctive way than two decades in the past because of the fact you have had a style of existence reports that have replaced your attitude on existence.
2016-11-14 03:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Blackb.gates2,
You are very young! I DON'T recommend you getting involved with this lady...Get busy getting on with YOUR future! She is already going to be "30" & has already lived a large portion of her life. She has a great responsibility to her child...She needs to be a good example to that child who is very dependent on everything she does & doesn't do...You are only a temporary distraction to her, I guarantee it! Please heed this warning & exhort her to meet a more ready & able mate who is in the position to help her & her child...Be a good role model to her right now, she needs that! Tell her she's a great catch & tell her why, but be clear that you are not ready...Figure out what you want to do with YOUR life, go to college, travel with a buddy or 2, experience the world... This is the time in your life to do these things without having any strings or obligations. Make a plan & work your plan, you'll be glad you did...Start saving & investing small, your future wife & children will praise you for these things! And you'll have some fun & interesting stories to tell them too...Best wishes!
2007-09-03 19:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ultra Violet 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is fine. As long as you both are 18 or older and truly love each other. My current person who i a seeing is 10 years older so go for it! The child may need a good parent though so if you are good with children and a good parental figure, then you could date her.
2007-09-06 06:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by BKool 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think age has that much to do with it. Because there is a kid you might need to be more careful like...getting involved and then changing your mind and the kid getting hurt feelings and stuff. If you have known each other for years sounds like it could be a good thing! Good luck!
2007-09-03 19:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by kimbathewhitelion02 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That depends on how mature you are. The child will need someone is mature around them rather than a young want-to- be authority figure!!
2007-09-03 19:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go for it....love never asks your age or the difference. Learn from it. It can only make you stronger and wiser. You sound mature enough to handle it. Enjoy it.
2007-09-03 19:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ari-ah 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Age aint nothing but a number mate , if you love her and the kids , then go for it , listen to your heart.
Good luck mate..
2007-09-03 19:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
.whats wrong with that, does it matter what the age difference is, i was 15 yrs younger then my ex (and she had 1 child).
2007-09-03 19:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by steel dude (Australia) 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋